Guys: If a girl is a masochist (meaning gets off on pain), is that a turn on or turn off?

[Anonymous]

I've only really been with one guy so I don't have much experience really, but from what I hav experienced, and from what I've discovered about myself, I think I might be a masochist!?! What I've discovered from my experience so far: I love being bitten a lot, and really hard, hard enough that blood is drawn! I love being bitten pretty much anywhere! Neck, chest, waist, thighs, ass! I love the way it feels, the way it hurts, I get like this adrenaline rush, and it feels so amazing! Its my biggest turn on, and I can't date someone who won't bite me, just kissing a guy makes me want them to bite me and bite me hard, and harder each time! I also love being spanked really hard! I also have discovered that I love being choked! What I haven't experienced but fantasize about: I fantasize about being tied up, being restrianed, chained, shackled, or handcuffed! Bound and gagged! I fantasize about being hog-tied, and about ball gags! I fantasize about being whipped! I fantasize about being dominated, being a slave, having a master! I fantasize about being called "sex slave", "f***doll", "my whore", "my slut" Guys: I'm just wondering what do you think of masochists? Is it a turn on or turn off? What do you think of all this? Would you date a girl that's into all of this?

[MrOracle]

I've never drawn blood, but the rest of that stuff would be fine with me. A good percentage of these things have been part of my relationships for the last 10+ years.

Having said that, there are plenty of guys who are NOT into any of this stuff. Many guys don't even have it within them to BE dominant, much less WANT to be. And many who are interested really have no idea of what to do or where to begin. With that in mind, it's probably better to specifically look for guys who are into this stuff. Even better if they have some experience and maturity, so they don't go too far, which can be a common problem for people new to the lifestyle.

One thing you may find (it's a VERY common complaint in the BDSM community) is that there are very few guys your age who have any real knowledge about BDSM, and even fewer with the confidence and maturity to handle it. Most of the men I've met agree that they didn't have the confidence and maturity they needed until they were in their late 20s or early 30s at least, and the younger guys I've met are almost all clearly in over their heads, whether they realize it or not. What I'm really getting at here is that you may need to be open to dating older guys. This is potentially risky behavior, and it's vital that the guy not only respects you and your limits, but also knows on his own not to go too far and push things into unsafe territory.

[sammysamson84]

my girlfriend is into S/M

causing her pain is always something I don't really like ... but since she likes that I don't have much of a choice if I want to get her off... :-/ ... don't get me wrong ... I would do almost anything for her, so even that ... but only to a certain limit ... on the other hand, I'm not mad at her if she gets a bit too rough sometimes, so yes ... I fear I have some double standard here ...

[lovez4]

depends on the persons sexual preferences some people are turned on by it some don't understand it and some are scared and turned off by it

[Anonymous]

I assume the answer to this depends on who you are talking to.

[sa230e]

That's fine but she probably wouldn't be compatible with me. I think I could never do that kind of stuff to a girl, let alone enjoy it. I get off on pleasure, not pain.

[Markezzo]

I would be totally okay with it. Although I'm not into it as much. I love biting, but I'm not okay with drawing blood. I love dirty talk so I don't see the purpose of ball-gags. And finally I love domination, which is why I don't get restraints, if I want to order someone around why would I make them unable to move? xD

[madhatters4]

I'm not personally into it, but I know there are plenty of guys who are. As with most sexual fetishes and stuff there is not one sweeping answer. Some will be into it, some won't



Different strokes for different folks.

[Anonymous]

As long as it didn't ALWAYS have to be like that and could take turns doing what the other likes then I would be okay dating a girl like that.