Is it cheating if your girlfriend fools around with her best friend/roommate (another girl)?

[cheesesteak7]

If your girlfriend is clearly in love with you and committed, is it considered cheating if her and her best friend (another girl, also her roommate) openly fool around with each other? The proposal of a threesome is supposedly out of the question as it'd make things weird for her friend. But some nights here or there her and her roommate/best friend do sexual things with each other. Should this be considered cheating? Is it up to the guy to determine if it's cheating, as she isn't doing anything with another guy? Isn't there some old saying about it's only cheating (PHYSICALLY) if there's penetration? If there's no jealously on anyone's end, is it ok? etc etc

[selfishstars]

What's considered cheating varies from couple to couple. It's up to each couple to discuss and decide what they're okay with and what they're not okay with.

Personally, I don't think a person's gender matters---having sex with another person is having sex with another person (and by sex, I mean any sexual act).

But if a guy is okay with his girlfriend having sex with other girls and they've discussed that, then that's fine. It's only cheating if its breaking the rules that you and your partner have decided on for your relationship. (That said, if the girlfriend had sex with another girl BEFORE discussing it with and getting an "okay" from her boyfriend, I would consider it cheating).

[washize]

It's up to you as a COUPLE to set the boundaries of what is and is not acceptable.

Do you have a problem with it?

Do you want to fool around with other people too?

do you think its fair?

Do you want a monogamous, or non monogamous relationship?

Does she agree with all of your views on these questions?

YOU should be the one DEFINING YOUR relationship with your PARTNER. The opinion of other people is irrelevant considering YOUR the one who will be effected emotionally/physically by your partners actions.

So lets rephrase the question. Do you think that your girlfriend is cheating?

[GaBelle]

If you're not in an open relationship and you aren't apart of the "fooling around", its cheating. Sex is sex, between two women, two men, or opposite genders. And sex outside of a relationship is cheating.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's cheating. Especially if she does it without telling me, or behind by back.

I'm a very open guy - I'm not jealous or possessive, and if she told me she wanted to fool around with a female friend I'd probably be okay with it.

But sneaking behind my back? Yes, it's cheating. I don't care if it's with a guy or a girl, it's sex with someone who isn't me and without my consent. It's cheating.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Cheating, in my book, is anything that is done without your consent or knowledge and that s/he know will hurt you.

So, if she spent a large amount of money without your knowledge or consent, that's cheating.

If she fools around with another without your consent or knowledge, same things.

etc...

So yeah, if you are bother by this and it hurts you, then it's cheating.

[linds34]

It's up to you if you're OK with it.

[xzinax2]

it is cheating if she hides it from you. if she does it openly and you don't object.it's not,and you're in an open relationship

[GGGGGG_unit]

it is cheating if you are not OK with it. regardless if you know about it or not. even if she did it with another girl.

are you OK with it?

do you feel hurt, betrayed or jealous?

[madhatters4]

it's cheating if you are not OK with it. It's never cheating if someone hooks up wtih someone (regardless of sex or relationship) if the other person is OK with it.

[CuriousSteve]

Of course it's cheating.

And it's VERY bad form that your girlfriend has completely dismissed the idea of you joining in.

[lauramor]

I would definitely consider that cheating.

[unighted]

it all depends on you, I would consider it cheating if my boyfriend fooled around with other guys

[Koldhearted]

yes

they're insanely delusional if they say otherwise

[dudeman]

of course its cheating

[dommage]

I would say it is, but if it doesn't make you mad adn she's honest about it then its ok.

[anonimityrox]

It definitely depends on how you feel. I agree with others that it's unfair for them to do it if they won't at least consider you being a part of it. What's the harm if it's all in fun?

I would say it's cheating. Penetration doesn't make sense- that's just an old way of saying a kiss isn't cheating. Think about lesbian relationships- they can still cheat.

[Anonymous]

No it's not

[Anonymous]

Yes its cheating whether it be girl or guy.

[Anonymous]

In a monogamous relationship, of course it's cheating.

And that line, only penetration is cheating? That's nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the couple. I think its cheating if the boyfriend is unaware of the situation/isn't okay with it happening. Obviously, if he knows about it and is cool with it, I don't think its cheating.