Can I be scaring him for being too horny?! And how can I stop it?

[Anonymous]

So, I have been dating this guy online... Long distance =/ We've never had sex. It's been a year, and I'm a virgin. Well, we've been talking a lot with each other since a year ago and I have always been really, really attracted to him sexually, but only about 3 months ago I began feeling ready and being obvious about this... And since then, I've been really, really horny, and can't think about anything else but having sex with him. Like, 24 hours a day, and I have wet dreams with him, and everything. I watch p*rn and masturbate around 3 times a day (used to masturbate 3 times a WEEK before) and. Having sex. Is all. I can think of. I can't even see him shirtless without getting really wet and feeling like touching myself. I have been sending him "sexy pics" for some time now (Always in underwear or bikini), to induce sexting... But every time he begin he suddenly stops. I think he isn't very fond of sexting... So I send him more and more, almost every day, because I want him to satisfact me somehow... When that happens, I feel horny AND kinda rejected... I really don't know what else can I do to diminish that until he has the money to visit me. I don't want to strip and "have sex" by cam because... I don't know... Seems like it would ruin the "magic" on our first time, do you agree? I'm also afraid of scaring him with such great sexual interest. I mean, even though he is a very experienced guy, he barely answers anything to my pics. I wonder if he is not attracted to me, or he just thinks "Ooooh, damn... she's horny again. ¬¬" ... I don't want him to feel like I'm pressuring him to sext me or even come here... But p*rn becomes less effective every day, because, you know, IT'S GOTTA BE HIM. I'm climbing on the walls... What should I do? Or how can I at least make myself less horny?

[MrOracle]

As everyone else has said, this is something you need to talk to him about. He clearly has some kind of reservations about this, but it may not be what you think. Some potential things that could be giving him some second thoughts:

- He's worried you'll get too attached.

- He's worried because you're a virgin, and he doesn't know how to deal with that.

- He's worried because you're a virgin, and he's afraid you'll think he's stupid for not knowing what to do.

- He's worried because you're a virgin, and he's nervous about "corrupting" you or causing you to break a religious vow or something.

- He's worried that HE'll get too attached, and being LDR, he won't get to see you enough.

- He's not comfortable with sex

- He's not comfortable with sexting (maybe worried about getting caught or leaving evidence)

- He doesn't understand why you are suddenly so horny all the time.

- He has a low sex drive.

- He isn't physically attracted to you (I hate to put this on the list, but it IS possible, though probably unlikely). Maybe he has a specific type, and you just don't fit it.

- He has body image issues of his own (scar, fat, small penis, etc.) and is afraid of having to reciprocate.

The point is, at this point, you have no idea what the problem is, and the only person who can answer that question is him, so you need to have that conversation with him. Let him know how you feel (horny, you want him, you feel ready for sex with him, etc.) and find out how he feels. Even if it's bad news, you are better off knowing sooner than later.

[blackkid2]

Have you told him of this issue? Or at least it's magnitude? As for making yourself "less horny" there's always birth control! And depression! And self-loathing! And eating really fatty foods that make you tired! And not drinking water! And just all around being unhealthy!

Then of course there's just asking him to masturbate for you on a video, send it to you, and then masturbate to that as your p*rn so that you can actualize and "treat" yourself. What's actually happening is you're getting sexually frustrated and that's compounding upon itself which in turn ironically makes you more wanting. Do this a few cycles and voila, you get you, only with anyone else on the planet.

Oh, and it's kind of scary.

[Anonymous]

well just be honest with him, so you know if he will be able to be OK about it and that you are not wasting your time.

[Bethany94]

Just talk to him. I don't know a lot of guys who would be turned off by a hypersexed girl

[Seppelson]

Why do you want to stop that?
If you are a virgin after one year and you are older than 18 it seems like you can't be very horny because if you would be horny all the time you wouldn't be a virgin and you would have sex with your boyfriend after three month or much earlier. I have a very low sex drive but I wouldn't wait more than two month to have sex

[Goodguyj]

hey girl i want u, send me a message

[Anonymous]

Are you sure need to be fucked or just naughty chat and masturbate

[Anonymous]

well a little bit but you need to be honest with him

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just have sex with a guy where you live.

[Asker]

Because that would be cheating?! o.O