Why do guys always make sexual comments to me? (& I'm not a slut)

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin ( I plan to stay that way until I'm married) I'm known as the innocent/ cute/ prude/ nice girl at school. I am not a slut, I actually dress really modestly. I respect my body. but guys... They don't. And I don't understand why. This one guy... He slaps my butt like every day at school and he has also spread rumors that I have slept with him multiple times. Also, he says really inappropriate things to me... For example: One day in class, he was talking to me about something that was totally irrelevant and finally I turned to him and said... "What can I do to get you to be quiet?" and he replied with... "you could get down on your knees". NO JOKE... What should I do? I mean... Nobody really believes what he says... But it is still really annoying to me. And embarrassing. Help!

[Simple-Simonette]

He's doing it because he's getting a reaction from you. If you ignored the sexual references, he would try to ruffle your feathers picking on you about something else. He sounds like a bully.

I would completely ignore everything except the butt slapping. You can handle that several ways - you can report him to the school you go to, they are required by law to investigate any claim of sexual harassment. You can also hit him back, like A Guy suggested. Or you can cry.

I would strongly recommend reporting him - he is crossing the line by putting his hands on you without your permission. I don't know why he thinks that it's okay; someone needs to inform him otherwise.

Good luck.

[Jazzedup1989]

Girl you need tell someone... he' s lowering your self esteem to get you to sleep with him... he's lowering your self esteem to make him look better... you should tell someone because that is sexual harassment and he could go to jail for that. It's not allowed and HE SHOULDN'T DO THAT TO YOU! TELL SOMEONE GIRL... You need write down every time he sexual assaults you like that and then tell someone! Please do... Girls go through this in middle school and in high school and they think it's okay but it's really not.. its a disrespectful to you and degrading woman! You need to please tell someone and don't let him get away with that.

[chica1]

I remember in high school there were always guys who just got a kick out of saying pervie stuff. I had a name that went really well with a sexual innuendo, so I got a lot of that. Thanks mom and dad. The fact that he touches you though is totally not ok. I think a nice slap and a really loud keep your hands to yourself would do you a lot of good. He is continuing to do this because you are not stopping him. Don't let him continue to touch you. So not ok.

[l-hedoniste]

You're getting the sexual comments because the guys have guessed--correctly--that the innocently-dressed virgin is easily rattled. Their behavior is crude and unacceptable, but it won't stop until you grow a hide and let the comments roll off you.

As for the potty-mouthed ass-slapper, he crosses the line; tell him that if he can't keep his hands to himself, maybe a suspension can educate him. There is NO reason that you should have to put up with that, and there is NO reason he should get away with it. And before you even think about getting into trouble, remember that fixing guys like that is what trouble is FOR.

[Littletad]

We'll first, don't go around telling anyone your a virgin. That only makes you a target for perverts and idiots. I think it's best to just ignore. The more you show them your frustration, the more you feed their ego.

[Asker]

Just out of curiosity... How does it make me a target? I would think that he pervs would get "turned off" by the challenge. I thought they were after "easy" girls. I try really hard to ignore it... but after a while, I just can't take it anymore. Some of them are relentless.

[darthmader057mmm]

Well asker, as a professional pervert (20+ years of experience) and Bible believing Christian, virgin women are normal more sexy, along with the fact that I dont want to put my privates somewhere another man's had been. That's hella gay

[Baconbits]

Hmm, I would think it's because you're an easy target for that kind of teasing.

I think the best thing to do, is to try and brush it off. If no one believes any of the rumors, then I think the only harm that can come if it, is the harm you cause yourself from being bothered.

[sweet17]

that's sexual harassment. Get help from some of your good guy friends. They'll probably be more than happy to take car of that perv for you

[A_Guy]

if he slaps you, slap him across the face. Make a big deal about it in class, it will humiliate the hell out of him.

[darthmader057mmm]

Don't just slap. Pimp slap. She needs her playa hating degree before school ends or she'll be held back

[Anonymous]

That's not right. I think you should tell someone...or you should just seriously tell that guy to f*** off.