Why do some women enjoy being treated like a whore in the bedroom by their partners?

[Anonymous]

Many women enjoy being called names during sex like slut or whore and they enjoy being "used" and abused sexually by their man. I understand that the dominance factor is a turn on, but I wonder how this kind of sex play can effect a committed relationship. Is this kind of sex the norm within a marriage? Does it effect the dynamics of the relationship outside the bedroom?

[normalice]

It only effects the dynamics outside the bedroom in the sense that having a satisfactory sex life always strengthens any relationship. Sex actually tends to serve the function of being the nightly "yin" to everyone's daily "yang." That is, if someone is very dominant at his or her job or whatever social groups he may be in, when it comes to sex that person is more likely to want to be dominated.

Is it normal? Well, it is normal for girls to like "dirty talk", and there is no standard for what is or isn't dirty, so yes - I would say it is normal.

[madhatters4]

I think sex and then the relationship are often different. Certain people can be type a personalities but in the bedroom be very submissive, or vice versa, very quiet and reserved in public but very dominant in the bedroom.

I don't think this "used and abused" type of sex is the norm in any relationship. I don't think being called a slut or a whore is the norm in any relationship marriage or not. But I think some people they just like that feeling of sort of being a sexual object.

[pickledxtofu]

Because sex is one of the few aspects of who I am that I reserve for my boyfriend only. And I just let loose and have fun.

He respects my desires inside the bedroom but he also respects me as a person and girlfriend when we're in public. Likewise I respect him as a man and my boyfriend in public(and private as well).

But for me it's a turn on. The dominance and submissiveness of it all. Plus, the 'dirty talk' is good I suppose.

As long as he isn't like that in public I'm good.

[skinandbones]

i think the key is... The guy has to understand that it's a fantasy, that she doesn't want to be treated like a slut outside of the bedroom... Just the way some men who love to be dominated don't want that to happen outside of the bedroom. Sex is supposed to be about having fun, learning more about each other and strengthening a relationship. It's bad when people get confused and start bringing the fantasy into other aspects of life.

[Anonymous]

It has zero effect outside the bedroom. My boyfriends spanks me, chokes me, slaps me, pulls my hair, retrains me. Calls me names. And he'd never do that outside of the bedroom. It's not even a concern haha. If anything I'm more dominant outside of the bedroom.

[Phoenix1991]

The girls who like being treated like "whores" in the bedroom are trying to be kinky or find it a turn on.

Women tend to be submissive for the most part, so its just they are using more of their submissive side in the bedroom while the guy uses his dominant side.

I don't think it effects the relationship unless they were like that from the beginning then that's a different story.

[Bethany94]

I don't think it would affect it. I don't like this kind of thing, but my boyfriend and I like Dom/sub games. I like being submissive in the bedroom, but outside of that if he says something I don't like I'm just like lolol no.

[sovetskii13]

It's a form of dirty talk which spices things up. It's creativity. You know that he doesn't actually mean it when he says that you're a dirty slut or something like that. It's just considered as a fun, dirty way of talking to each other without actually meaning it.

[KJT6989]

Idk why I like it I just do. It doesn't effect outside the bedroom at all. It's role playing in a way.

[justincider]

Exactly

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I dunno, hard to say. There are many scientific studies on the matter, but I've seen several different conclusions between it being genetical (evolution has lead to women being submissive and men dominant) to it being cultural, to it being a mixture of both.

Personally? Not my cup of tea all that often. I prefer loving sex than degrading. While you can have loving rough sex, the underlying tone is still loving. Having degrading sex be it rough or soft is still degrading and meh to that.

[justincider]

A lot of women who are in control of every other part of their life like to not be in control there. Some just like the dirtiness of it and some like getting f***ed over f***ing...

[Yellowsmurf]

Because it's proper hot. If my girl goes all dominant on me and starts giving me orders in bed I go nuts too.

As far as my personal experience goes the only effect it has outside of the bedroom is that you two get more intimate and tease each other more.

[Anonymous]

it's jsut a kind of play. for me I need to feel a trust with that person before I can unleash my inner self.

[Anonymous]

It has no effect outside the bedroom it is just roleplaying

[Anonymous]

I'd vote that this is p*rn influence.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the whore part but some women like dominance in the bed

[Anonymous]

Women like to be dominated in bed but these days many deny themselves that pleasure because feminism has taught them it's wrong.

If it turns her on, and odds are it does, why would she want to deny herself that pleasure as long as it doesn't affect other parts of the relationship.

That's the key - he needs to treat her respectfully and recognize it's just sex play...nothing more.