Why can't I get wet??!?

[Anonymous]

so I was with my ex boyfriend of 3 weeks (he cheated on me, but is still my best friend), and we watched a movie and while he was driving me home we both became really horny so we pulled over and went to his backseat. we dropped our clothes and even though we were only doing it dry (im still a virgin) I couldn't get wet. AT ALL. as in..nothing. why could this be? its the first time this has EVER happened.

[Hunterboyz]

Being Sex ready requires more than just a willing body...

It takes your mind too...

You could be too emotional conscience to allow yourself to let go for him.

Hell, your not nasty, he should have done more... like some mouth to head action...

To get off your mind has to be free.

Orgasms are of the mind.

I've never been in that situation, but I can only imagine how often you thought about what he did to you in the first place.

Tell that moron to look up the definition of 4-play...

Or better yet find that 12play by R. Kelly...

Its not you, its him... He sucks... all he did was try to finger you...

Tell him to grow up!

Good Luck Next time...

Sincerely,

A Loving Black Man

[Credal]

Both of the girl had excellent answer. Women are much more mental when it comes to sex and love making. Men a typically more or strictly visual.

The fact that he cheated on you could have caused some deeper trust issues and its possibly your body telling you it wasn't the best idea for you long term ;-)

[BaseballGurll]

haha the first time my ex boyfriend and I fooled around (he was more experienced then me and moved a little quicker than I was probably ready for, but I didn't really mind) I was thinking like crazy being like omg what am I doing, I should be doing this I wasn't letting myself enjoy it. THe next time I was like sweet lets do this and when he fingerd me I was just enjoying the moment and it was fun. I think that you were just thinking too much that's all especially if you had done this tonns before.

[Anonymous]

i know what you mean. when I first when I started doing my boyfriend I used to get real wet he would even be able to finger me with 3 fingers then he cheated and now when we have sex I can't get wet. it hurts when he tries to go in me and he can't even finger me with one finger. :(. even if I try to get wet I cant.

[audreymarie21]

there might be something emotional keeping your body from responding the way you wanted it to. perhaps deep down you're still bothered by what he did to you?

for girls emotions and mental awareness play a huge role in getting wet and having an orgasm.

[l-hedoniste]

Fortunately, they make K-Y in small tubes now. Next time, be ready.

[Dela1111]

Maybe you were just too nervous to get aroused, it usually happens to guys but its possible for a girl. I really suggest that you don't lose your virginity to some guy who cheated on you and you've only dated for three weeks.

[Kimbunny]

He cheated on you and I am sure deep down you are still mad at him for that. I wouldn't want his cawk near me either.

[dfrazmabel]

usually this will happen if ur thinking too much about getting wet but this doesn't seem to be the case. It could be the fact that he isn't with you anymore and it just doesn't feel right and so your body kinda denies everything it has happened to one of my gf's before

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you panicking from the first time. when your in the safety of your house you are alright thinking it but adrenaline will take over and you could concentrate on other stuff besides having sex. sometimes guys don't get hard than us guys have to get the chat from the girl asking us if were gay. its just a really hard question to answer lol