Submissive girls, what kind of guy do you like?

Question

I've heard that guy on Facebook complaining he "wanted a submissive", and since then I have been wondering; I *know* there are a lot of submissive women (I am talking strictly about sex here) out there, so why is it that it seems hard for a guy that is looking for a submissive to find one? After all, when do you ever hear a guy complaining he want a dominant women? Well I never. So, it must be because the guys who want a submissive girl and can't find one aren't attractive to them.Therefore I would like to know: if you *are* a (sexually) submissive girl, what kind of guy attracts you, and what kind of guy doesn't?

Naturalfemalesub · Accepted Answer

I am dominant in my daily life, also the way I behave and look is polar opposite to how I am in bed (given if I find a decent dominant man). I probably am not easily found by the right man I'm looking for because we are both very particular about keeping our sexual lives separate from our public lives (unless we are enjoying each other publicly while in our relationship ;).

The kind of guy I'm attracted to won't be seen visibly... They can only be found through conversation or someone going out on that limb first. Vulnerability isn't easy for us in public. It's not necessarily tall dark and hansom that I look for, although ideal... But it's the overall feel of control that they can possess over me. It's also a feeling of security I get from a man that allows me to be my true self, and THAT is what is attractive to me.

Most men these days are not accepting of anything natural, raw, and real. They want to be with someone who they think is safe (bit later complain that their wife doesn't have sex with them as much anymore after they got married). I just know I don't want someone who lives in The Stepford Wives.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i am a 'submissive' girl, that stuff Really turns me on. but I don't know if I will ever meet the perfect dominant guy (for sex) because usually people hide that sort of thing well and when it comes to sex, well people can act completely different in bed. I don't think there is a way to tell because the kind of guy I want, I don't exactly want for him to act like that in public around other people. just around me. I hope this makes sense ..somewhat :)

honesty321 · Accepted Answer

Maby the man did not seek a submissive girl but made only propaganda to make it look as if it is nice to be submissive what it is not in reality and they know it. It is all a game. People are normal and like to act normal. But that is not allowed to say because we all must admit we secretly like it while we do not but are not allowed to say it. It is the will of using power wrong.

voodoochild · Accepted Answer

Submissive girls get really turned on my alpha males who take charge and make the first move in everything.

Camomila2 · Answer

I am attracted to a man who is confident, loves to lead during sex, and loves my suvmissivenes.

bebebunny143 · Answer

im submissive and I like the guy being in control of a lot of things just because I still believe in the roles of men and women ...

nana522 · Answer

I don't think you understood his complaint. Yes most girls are submissive but I think he meant being submissive as he wanted to truly dominate them, as in being very rough and controlling them.

rosaliethayer · Answer

I like to think I'm submissive, I've just alwayss gotten turned on by being dominated, being controlled. I like a sweet guy that knows how to take charge when it's time.

babysteph · Answer

I think that girls who are naturally submissive are attracted to men who are naturally dominant. If men are going out of their way to show everyone how dominant they are, most naturally submissive women will see through it. There’s something more subtle and refined that I think a lot of submissives are looking for.