Just recently turned 27 years old and still a virgin. You think its now time for me to hire a prostitute

[longbeach225]

I masturbate often and always imagine doing it with a woman and I been doing this for years, and I'm getting more and more sexually frustrated that I cannot have physical contact with a female. So I'm thinking of hiring a escort/prostitute to complete the physical needs. I'm just shy with women and I'm not good having a conversation with them because I don't know what to talk about (I can talk to a guy fine about sports, technology and etc...). I want to be able to enjoy some my sexual youth what I have left. By the time I hit 40 I might have ED and then I won't never have sex. I feel that a prostitute is my only outlet to have sex with someone. I'm just no girls type of guy. I just feel that every girl I meet they never really want to talk to me and give me any indication they are interested. Maybe I'm missing the point. I just turned 27 last month and I don't want to be a 28 year old and still a virgin. I go to college about to graduate next year and no luck with girls. Every girl I meet is always taken, get to know them about 7 weeks and then find out she has a boyfriend. It's a never a ending sight. If I do meet a girl who is single she would never be interested in me. I'm naturally not good looking no matter what I do I'm not good looking so that is off limits. Face lift might fix the issues and getting my skin bleached (since I'm Indian mixed with Latin). All my friends have girlfriends and getting to have sex and tell me their sexual experience and I say in my mind why can't that be me having great sexual experiences. I started thinking about prostitutes and I feel its a way to have physical intimacy with a girl. I just can't hold this strong desire for physical touching a female anymore. I just want to know what it feels like put it inside, as long as I wait I will never know. Another school semester is about to start and I can guarantee 1000% I won't meet anyone interested in me, just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

You're body has been wanting sex for a long time now man. We are talking since you we're 12 +.

That's natural. That's biological. That was evolutions way of ensuring human population as well a legacy. Again, normal.

In addition to a biological need, you are feeling a societal pressure as well. Everywhere and everything around is sex. Tv shows, movies, magazines, INTERNET, our own hormone-lead friends (who are just as influenced by these things as you are. It's a cycle, believe me. No one is safe lol.)

You see all these people having sex, you hear stories about people sex, you read about when people start having sex, and all these things have an effect on a person. Living in a laid back sexual generation AND pent up sexual needs, could drive anyone crazy. Women have same problem. Again, no one is spared.

BUT, what it sounds like to me, is whether you realize it or not, is a desire for intimacy (I'm not just talking physical) and perhaps confusing THAT for your desire for sex. You say your shy with women, your ability to approach or to carry a conversation with women is not as easily as it for others, and I sense insecurity about your outward appearance. These are things you need to work on, instead of looking for a "quick fix." Because like I said, getting a prostitute to fill your needs is temporary. Are you going to be with prostitutes for the rest of your life? I know you don't want that. Come on now.

Let me break it down for you. If you get a prostitute, here's what will happen. You will pay, you will be nervous as hell, the likelihood that you get an erection is not good. Chances are, you won't "finish" for the aforementioned reason, she will become frustrated as she has money to make (time is money) and will leave, with your money, and you will feel as empty as you did before, feeling worst than you started. And that's best case scenario: You COULD get busted by an undercover cop, get al "soliciting a prostitute" on your record that will effect you a countless of ways, not to mention a girlfriend or potential girlfriend finding out. And then you risk getting robbed, STD, or even beaten up.

I'm telling, if you have to "pleasure yourself" for release, keep doing it. Instead of putting this effort into finding a prostitute and having an experience similar to the one I have hypothetically described to you, WORK.ON.YOU. Sure, maybe it is difficult. Maybe it SEEMS hopeless. But without that being your first and foremost priority, not much will change in the love dept, both physical and emotional.

And maybe it's not as easy as figuring it out alone, maybe you help. Seeking psychological help has a silly stigma to it, and actually keep lots of people from getting the help they need. Chances are you aren't going to die anytime soon. You have plenty of time to find out what it "feels" like. It's great, but nothing to what you have built up in your head, I'm sure lol. That emotional intimacy with it? Now we are talking! But you got start somewhere.

[parkway]

No. You have more problems than your looks.

I have seen good looking women screwing guys that look like goats and smelled like horses. I have seen women kissing on home made sin. Looks have little to do with your problem.

It is all mental. If you think they are not interested in you and have that bouncing negative attitude your thoughts and fears will come true. The beauty of the law of attraction. You think it and it manifest it's self.

You don't need a prostitute, you need a jockey.

When I was in college I took philosophy and one of the great Greeks said that all women are prostitutes because they must all sell themselves in one way or another to get the attention and approval of a man. I have found this to be true.

If you had a date with a beautiful woman what would you do? Would you hold the door open for her, buy her dinner, some flowers, a small gift? Would you take her to a dance possibly shopping for some clothes or a new dress. If you would do this, then do it, but do it for a jockey. I am talking about the time of your life and the cost for the date or a week of joy $100-200.00.

The beautiful thing a bout a jockey is you never have to ask for sex or say how much, her purpose is to make you happy. Make you want to be with her. Can you imagine this?

Now nothing will make you feel better than knocking the hair of the dog off you. Once you have your confidence the girls in class will look at you different. You will have a dance in your step, a polish to you. The feel of confidence.

The airport code for jockeys is HAV and butterflies can be found at GIG. The butterfly is different.

Now back to the law of attraction, you ask should you get a prostitute when you don't want to, now you have your answer. God is good, God is great.

For the time of your life, kid.

[Olivia9]

So oppressing a woman is the answer? I think your should honestly wait a bit or put yourself out there more you honestly have nothing to lose. Also I think it would be hard to find a partner after having a prostitute. If you look at the questions about the whole should I loose my virginity to a prostitute the men feel emptier than before. Sex without love is pretty meaningless especially for your first time. You don't want to do something you regret. If that is truly what you want to do than do it. But:

1. You only loose your virginity once to ONE person

2. Having sex won't fix any of the problems

3.You will most likely feel guilty

4. When you do have a partner are you going to tell her that you lost your virginity to a prostitute how will that go over?

5. You have to look at yourself in the mirror afterward, and when it's done it's done. Would you rather spend the time and effort on meeting someone even if it's online or taking a class or going to therapy to get over any anxiety you have or a match maker. I mean it seems like putting a band aid on a broken leg. It won't solve anything. And given that you have to ask strangers online illustrates that you are having doubts about this. So really YOU are the only one that can decide, it is YOUR virginity it is YOUR love life. I just think you should take these points into consideration if you haven't already.

[longbeach225]

No I haven't gave it any thought. I just feel that I'm not likable by any women because I feel that I look odd. It has nothing to do with my dressing it just my natural physical facial features I feel is not great which is beyond my control. I just don't feel comfortable underneath my own skin. I would feel more comfortable if I was a white guy, then I will will feel that I'm more attracted to women. I guess because I see more white guys with someone than of my own background.

[Olivia9]

Well do you believe that hiring a prostitute will fix any of this? I feel like in the end yeah you won't be a virgin anymore, but you really cheat yourself out of an experience you can only share with one person in your life. Perhaps you should go in therapy in order to improve your self esteem or at the very least perhaps a matchmaking service could help you with women and give you tips I mean there are numerous solutions to the problem non of which involve prostitutes.

[Anonymous]

Will you really feel better afterwards? A prostitute is just the physical act. Unless this really will make you more confident, do you really want to spend your money on that?

Maybe invest in a life coach, someone to help you build the social skills so you can be comfortable with women.

I can tell you the story of my brother. He's turning 30 this year. Still a virgin. But he's been with his girlfriend for almost 3 years now. He didn't start dating until he was 27. He has a speech problem and most people think he's an idiot. In short, he's slow. It takes him 2 minutes to say something that would take you or me 30 seconds. He started by working out, he was definitely overweight before. He built up his own business (and no he's not rich) and bought a house. Then he got up the nerve to start asking girls out... actually myself and several of his friends really helped there. I spent the first 2 months that he was seeing his girl writing his texts for him. He picked one waiting for marriage and even though he'd like it before, he's waiting and he's planning on proposing soon. If my brother can get a girl, any guy can. Yeah, he had to find a special girl that can see past his disabilities but there's a girl out there for every guy.

[Olivia9]

That's so sweet congrats on your brother :)

[moviedude714]

Its probably the fact that he bought a house, became a homeowner that made him more attractive, able to get a girlfriend

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, I'm proud of him. Not out here, every guy I know over the age of 22 owns his own house. He had to renovate the whole thing and its way out from any town.

[moviedude714]

Its a double-standard I hate, a girl can live with her parents at any age and most guys won't care, unfortunately not the other way around

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know where you are but around here, only the religious girls live with their parents until they married. The rest of us either buy our own houses or rent a house with some friends. I don't know many people that still live with their parents. And those I do are guys taking over the family business so the parents are moving out.

[longbeach225]

I'm still not there yet I'm in school. I Don't have my own place yet some guys are just lucky than other guys. So no girl will be interested in me. So yes going to a escort is the solution. I just want to get laid and that it. So may be the escort is the best route for me. If women want all these requirements, then yes I'm going to go visit a escort. I should have to suffer my sex life because I don't own a home that is stupid.

[moviedude714]

I hate how people say it is never took late, that you have plenty of time

[moviedude714]

And the hardest part is being pro-active and at the same time avoiding coming across as desperate, needy and trying too hard

[Opinion Owner]

That is true. It might be too late with one person but its never too late in life.

[moviedude714]

What do you mean it might be too late with one person?

[Opinion Owner]

Well sometimes its too late to be with that one person you want to be with, they've moved on, found someone else, etc.

[moviedude714]

and why is it never too late in life? what is the logic behind that?

[Opinion Owner]

Because you can find love at any point in your life.

[moviedude714]

yeah but teens and 20's are the prime years, its not the same after that

[moviedude714]

I have autism, what does your brother have as a disability

[Anonymous]

It's not worth the risks. STDs, AIDS, unwanted pregnancy, JAIL, etc., etc.

Plus it will mean so much more when you DO meet a girl & lose it to someone you care about. It WILL happen. Just be patient...it will be worth it.

[NessMess]

Keyword IF not do.

[InquisitiveMale]

Girls, relationships, and sex... you need to be able to repeatedly put yourself in a vulnerable state to have any success at it. Why didn't you ask those girls if they had a boyfriend right from the start? Correct me if I'm wrong, but you were afraid to put yourself out there.

Will loosing your virginity to a prostitute change your willingness to be open and take risks with women? Will it encourage you to step beyond your comfort level with women in general? If not I don't suggest you loose your virginity to a prostitute. I actually think it would make things worse by adding another layer for your insecurities to feed on.

[Theguyoverthere]

Honestly I think you'd feel worse within a week having hired one. Plus a lot of prostitutes also have drug problems and such and if you get addicted to the sex, you'll end up wasting more money. Plus you'll then say to yourself that the only way you got sex was paying.

Personally, I feel masturbating leads to self esteem issues also. A lot of people suffer from guilt after masturbating and feel that it's the only way they get off. A lot of people who abstain from masturbating have more energy and an easier time during the day. Just stay out of the house and do as much outside as possible. The rest tends to work itself out.

[abundantlyrich]

get an escort girl

[1inmillion]

Try POF and try lowering your standards.

[longbeach225]

I'm on POF and not working for me since they are too many phony profiles.

[moviedude714]

you should attend a David Wygant bootcamp: link

[IHateBeingaMan]

I recommend it

[Vandal]

If you really want to. It's your life & your money. If you put that much weight on not being a virgin, by all means go for it.

[Anonymous]

Why are you trying to make a night with a prostitute sound like a hell hole? How do or can you predict whats going to happen? Are you a fortune teller? Can you see into the future? Are you comparing it the same way that happened to you or a guy you knew? How do you know it won't help him get more confident or have a great first time?
Why do you suddenly assume he will get an STD?
Why are you assuming all of this?

[Anonymous]

I too am 27, and have never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin and I would never think of hiring a prostitute. Not even getting into the moral issues of it, it's so dangerous. You could get AIDS and die horribly, when if you had not chosen to sleep with a prostitute, you could have lived.

I implore you, please do not do this. It's really not worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

if you want to get rid of the vcard then go for it. chances are you will lose some of your (unknown to you) awkwardness and gain some confidence that you too can take a girl to pound town.

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=BBNu1AErWAw

use the paul wall method of taking more shots to make more shots.

another option is to use the patrice oneal method and talk to more girls while being upfront about what you want from the start. don't try to friend in to a relationship/sex. let a girl know why you are even talking to her.

the worst thing that can happen is that a chick says no & turns you down. if a girl turns you down, blow it off and just think that there are 2girls1cup girls out there and you can find a girl like that (for free) at anytime if you put in the time.

last bit of advice is for you to know that you are a man and you are better than any girl. keep this kind of confidence and know that girls want a guy that knows he is better. you are something that they should want

[Opinion Owner]

*good call. get it done, get it over, get your auro looking better and go get a f*** buddy, girlfriend, or whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

Go for it. Just keep it a secret because many women totally lack sympathy.

Some girls, like one of the answerers here, think that it's oppressing women to enter into a voluntary contract with a woman. I have more respect for women than that. I think they have the capacity to make their own choices, rather than being treated like children.

[Olivia9]

So you think that there is no sexual or traumatic abuse that has occurred in order for women t o turn to prostitution. That is IF they are in fact choosing and aren't in sex slavery and human trafficking. But then again women aren't children or people for that matter, they are commodities to be bought and sold. I can see why you're anonymous.

[Opinion Owner]

Think rationally, not emotionally. Slavery is wrong because it is the use of aggressive force and the negation of choice. And yet you want to use force and negate choice, if a woman wants to make a choice that you don't like. Do you not see the contradiction there? Everyone is anonymous on here, apart from the people who decide to post pics of themselves.

[Opinion Owner]

If you really think women are commodities to be bought and sold, I think that's despicable.

[NessMess]

@Olivia9 cry me a river.

[Anonymous]

Will you feel more like a man who has entered the grown up world?

Or more like a loser who can't get a girl otherwise?

How you feel about it is what will impact whether its a good idea or not.

If you do it talk to a few escorts and choose one who seems comfortable in her work and you feel comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

I'd not recommened it since it's not safe in multiple ways. I'm a 24 year old virgin and I'm saving myseff for marriage. I'd recommend saving yourself for someone special as well.

[Olivia9]

Who downvoted this? lol

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows. There are a lot of strange people on GAG. Apparently they think it's better to sleep with a prostitute, which is illegal in many jurisdictions and puts you at extreme risk for an STD, than it is to save yourself for someone special who will appreciate you all the more for saving yourself for them.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead if that's what you want