Girls, do you enjoy degrading sex and cuddling?

[Anonymous]

If you knew your boyfriend loved you, would you be down to have really rough/dirty sex where he slaps you, pulls your hair hard, chokes you, puts you in whatever positions he wants and f***s you hard, basically just uses you as a sex toy, then holds you really tight and tells you how much he loves you and how much you mean to him. I'm asking because recently I had this type of sex with a 17 y-old girl (I'm 22) and it was our 4th time doing it and she was pretty wild before so I sort of just did her like this. After which we just lay there and I held her pretty close and said some really nice things (I didn't tell her I loved her since I don't, we've only been together for one month). And as I was saying these things she started crying, and I thought I hurt her really bad so I asked but she said it wasn't the sex that made her cry and she can't control it, she doesn't know why but she just feels the need to cry, and she just kept kissing me. Anyway is this something girls like? Also is it common for girls to cry during/after sex and what causes it?

[Anonymous]

I enjoy that very much and I don't think it would be considered degrading. I would just say it's a rough/wild sex. Anyway, maybe you should ask and find out her dating history or something. She might be feeling content having you right now. And you don't wanna end up hurting or disappointing her.

[Anonymous]

I love that so much

but 17? Damn that's young

[MissConfused93]

Okay she's 17?! What the hell are you doing with a 17 year old?

[Asker]

It just happened the first time... She made friends with my sister at the gym, and I was at my parents' house one day and her and my sister were there. And my sister had to go for about an hour and I was watching a movie on the couch so she joined me. Things went from there... And then I saw her again two weeks later and she told me her parents were out of town, asked me over to spend the night.

[MissConfused93]

No I mean do you realize how f***ed up that is?! Disgusting. Is that even legal?

[Asker]

Legal age is 16 in Maryland, and no it's not disgusting, it's one year short of 18 and I'm only 5 years older. Your guys' age of consent is 14. So please, spare me the morals.

[MissConfused93]

No, it's 16. Actually. And she's basically retarded still at the age of seventeen. Doesn't say a lot for you going after a child.

[Asker]

No, 14 with a 5 year window. You're 2 years older than her. In some places age of consent is 21. Shall we just assume you're retarded then too, since below the age of consent? Or how does that work in your brain? Either way I was going into it looking for a relationship. She has an extremely perfect body, gorgeous face, and she's wild. And besides, it's not like I went chasing her.

[MissConfused93]

link

Hopefully you can read, though I have my doubts.

[MissConfused93]

& no sh*t she's wild she's going through the rebellious teen phase, and is learning how to drive, probably just landed her first part time job, and learned how to tie her own shoes! & I'm 20. That's three years.

[Anonymous]

WTF? 17? Really.

Anyways, I like it a lot.

[Anonymous]

I like it. It could be how sweet you were being when you cuddled, also maybe becuase she just needs to cry about something with someone she loves!:) I just cried like a few days ago with my boyfriend about how wonderful of a boyfriend his is but she could have cried over anything lol.

[Anonymous]

I would be furious if my boyfriend all of a sudden started slapping me. There would be no cuddling after and there would be no relationship after either.

I'm not into that sort of thing. I am not his sex toy. I am his girlfriend and I am to be treated as a human being during sex, not an object.

Girls cry because sex is tied to emotions for us.