In general, it means (to guy) that they want a girl who is ENTHUSIASTIC about being sexual, and who PARTICIPATES to some degree, even when "on the bottom". Lying there like a limp starfish is NOT sexy. We want to know how much the girl wants it, likes it, and how good we're making it feel for her.
When it comes to "skills", girls really have two ways to show skills: BJs and "girl on top". Again, enthusiasm and participation are keys to being "good".
For BJs, that means paying attention to his reactions, and learning to do more of what works best for him and less of what doesn't. It also means "participating" by doing things like: using your hands as well as your mouth (besides jerking him off, rubbing his stomach, (lightly!) messaging his balls, grabbing his waist/ass, etc.) or rubbing your boobs on him as you give him a BJ.
For "cowgirl", it means learning to "ride" in different positions. Due to gential angles, girls have to move their entire bodies up and down, which means that you have to move most of your body weight. That's much more physically difficult than guys, who thrust front-to-back. It's going to wear out your leg muscles quickly (unless you practice a lot, which give you a good workout), and we UNDERSTAND that. It also means you have to change position variations a lot in order to give those leg muscles a rest, and that's okay too. Don't feel bad about it or anything, just do your best, and don't be afraid to ask us to take over for a bit every once in awhile (we can thrust from below), so you can rest. Again, enthusiasm and participation: use your hands (rub him, or yourself), your mouth (kiss him), and your boobs (play with them, put his hands on them, put them in his mouth/face).
None of this should be difficult to understand, or even that hard to do, but a little bit of effort goes a LONG, LONG way for your guy, and he'll definitely appreciate it!
Makes sense. I was just curious what people thought. So... in terms of not being a limp starfish ha ha (sorry that term is funny), how do you make it seem like you're really into it if ALL of his body weight is holding you down. I like to grab my guy's hands, lace our fingers and put them above my head and make it likes he's holding me down anndd try to make out. He's a big guy and I'm tiny, and it's hard to get ANY movement in on my part. I'm over a ft shorter.
Okay, that's perfectly fine. That's participating. Keep using your hands, making noises, kissing him, etc. He can't expect too much more if he's got all his weight on you...
Yeah... I'm kind of a tiny person. Alright, so there's hope haha
A good partner for a guy would be a girl who is genuine and shows her passion through her eyes during sex, and one that is equally a giver as she is a receiver, but ultimately, I personally believe that the girl will only be as good as the guy, so if any guy feels that the girl was poor during sex, then he should look at his own efforts before blaming hers for spoiling it, because for me, women are natural pleasers, but good sex comes from good effort, not anything to do with how good she is in bed, because every woman is naturally good in bed if he's half descent himself.x
I like that... that's nice and it makes sense. I think women really are natural pleasers, that's why I asked this question
It means to have a wow factor for people of all genders, for both males and females it is a combination of enthusiasm, knowledge of anatomy and sensitive spots, good rhythm and speed, being vocally sexy and knowing what to say.
if you are a girl and want to amp it up learn to deep throat or twerk on a guy's d*** and get flexible
for men learn to the erogenous zones on a woman, and learn to make a girl squirt , don't just focus on the hip action, stimulate the breasts, the clitoris,
if both partners are kinky biting , scratching and spanking is sexy
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!The REAL version young lady, differs from individual to individual. There is no standard rule for 'good in bed'
There are those who like their man / woman in a certain way and while that person may be GOOD and EXCELLENT for one he/she may not be so great for another.
A woman for example may be awesome at a handjob or a bj but she may run into a man who just doesn't like these so she will wind up being 'not good' for him and likewise with women :)
Not everything that every magazine writes is crap. One cannot generalize and must not hold onto what a mag says as a thumb rule. Articles are meant for reference and general understanding based on certain surveys done on a particular population of a certain geographic area. It depends on how one understands and knows what to take and what to leave out :)
very true, good point!
Thank you and again, there's no thumb rule - just some general perceptions by the majority :D :)
I don't need to be impressed in bed.
She doesn't have to learn to do a double back flip to land on my penis.
If we share the same kinks, and there are strong feelings, then it will always be perfect.
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Ever heard of a "dead fish"? The opposite of that is probably good in bed.
Imo, a girl is "good in bed" if she's SINCERELY active or into it (doesn't have to be crazy) and gives good oral. Also if she ejaculates easily, as that's hot and always bring out the personality.
Yeah... what is that and what does it mean?
dead fish? lol. It's when a girl just lays there on her back with no expression, interest, or body movement.
hahaha yeah that'd be boring
Uninhibited and enthusiastic. There are a few areas of foreplay where her technique helps, but no technique but into it beats good technique but not into it.
For men, skill and control are a little more important, though I think some guys can go too far into thinking that they are the only things that do, when its important for guys to bring or show passion enthusiasm and desire as well.
I think men have to concentrate more than women.
They generally have to do more things specifically for their partner to get off, and they need to, in most cases, actively avoid having an orgasm for a time. What guys who care about being decent but are inexperienced tend to have trouble is they focus ENTIRELY on doing what she needs and 'not having an orgasm' and in so doing can seem tentative, bored, and not like they're enjoying it.
Yeah, I could see that!
I think if I'm with a girl and I enjoy the relationship, the sex will be good. We would be pretty agreeable, open and caring about each others desires. Quantity is important to me as well. I think that could be a huge deal breaker for me in my next relationship. If I get a hint of their lack of desire or something similar I will likely end it. I'm over that.
I think I agree with you on that one. A good relationship to start is key.
A woman who listens to what makes me feel best. A lot women think just showing up is acceptable. Actually, I noticed this across the board. Women are bringing less and less to the relationship, in general.
If you want "the real version", invite me over.
Guys want a girl who is "into it". Shows she is having fun, and it feels good...not just going through the motions. We want her to be just excited and passionate about sex as much as we are.
god it... makes sense. So more talking, kissing, moaning? giving directions?
Well, we want you to moan, and show affection because you want too...not just so you can humor us, and stroke our ego. We can tell by the look in your eye if you're into it or not. Talking? Not so much...but a smile, and authentic moaning goes a long ways. Initiating sex, and asking for round 2 and 3 would be great. Nothing will make a guy happier than if you ask for morning sex after you've had great sex the night before.
good*. Sooo what if he's not doing a good job and you kinda have to fake moan? ha ha Idk, hypothetically speaking...
Those magazines are pure bullsh*t. Those articles are written by people who know near to nothing about sexuality, don't pay attention to them.
Being good in bed is about satisfaction, no more and no less. If you have sex with your partner and both are satisfied with that sex, that means you're good in bed.
Of course, this is also very personal. You can have chemistry with someone and have amazing sex with him but, at the same time, being really bad for other people. I can tell you things I like in bed, and for every thing I tell you I could think of someone who would find it a mood killer (or even disgusting).
Yeah, I always wondered about those magazines. They seem a little intense.
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