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My boyfriend wants me to masturbate in front of him?

Let me begin by saying that I am not usually shy or self- conscious in the bedroom. I am sexually quite open and I am not opposed to experimentation. Last night my guy asked me to show him how I make myself come. For some reason I just couldn't bring myself to do that in front of him! I'm OK with touching myself while we are having sex to help things along but the idea of him just watching while I get myself off makes me so embarrassed. I want the men here to tell me if it's a huge turn off if your girlfriend won't flick the bean while you watch? Also, can anyone give me any suggestions on how I can make myself less self conscious about touching myself in front of him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Own your orgasm. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If it's OK to come with him coupled to you, there's nothing wrong with cumming in front of him. He's gonna think it's incredibly hot, and he'll learn how to be a better lover. You might even come harder from him watching.

    Most of us grew up trying to keep folks from knowing when we were fapping. The change to doing it right in front of someone you care about can be hard, but its totally worth it.

  • its a massive turn on...simple as that...

    maybe try this...

    you said you're OK touching yourself during sex. so perhaps when you're having sex and you're touching yourself...look in to his eyes and get him to with draw and just carry on.. I'll bet you a dollar the look on his face will keep you going...he'll be enjoying the view so much he won't be able to hide it, and I'll bet you another dollar you'll probably reap the rewards from it too

Most Helpful Girls

  • lol the same thing happened to me! and we tried the mutual masturbation thing where we both do it. it didn't help me very much I was really embarrassed I couldn't come for him but over time I realized my mindset was probably in a state where I was thinking why are we doing this individually if we could do it for each other...TOGETHER...if that makes sense lol. I guess my advice is to just not think like I did or try not to. just relax and lol have fun.

  • I felt like you did. Boyfriend was more than happy to help me work through it. I close my eyes and kiss him for a bit to relax and get into it. He has to keep his hands on me, usually he just runs them up and down my back. Typically I'm in his lap, facing him.

    It takes time and confidence. I still feel very self-conscious if he's not touching me or also masturbating.

  • Well, I think the first thing you should do is talk to him.

    And, here are some things I found that might help:

    *You could drink beforehand. Might loosen up some nerves.

    *Get him to masturbate at the same time (at least until you become more comfortable).

    *Close your eyes, so at first you can pretend that he's not there.

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  • once again I agree with yaddayaddayadda02, it's a huge torn of if you do it, but not a very big problem if you don't.

    if you want to try it, dim the lights or light up some candles, put in some nice music, make yourself comfortable and watch him masturbate while you do the same.

  • It's not a huge turn off, but it is a huge turn on if you do it.

  • You just have to get comfortable with him, just give it a shot, it takes practice just like everything else.

  • Try closing your eyes let go and do it how you normaly would when your alone.

    You know this is turning him on, so just think of how he is enjoying every movement and facial expression you make.

    Don't fake it cause then you would look stupid. Just actually enjoy what your doing to yourself.

    • Have you? Would you? Could you?

  • I have asked a few girls I've been dating to do this, but none of them would ever do it. They would say the same thing, they just felt self conscious or a bit weird about it.

    I wasn't turned off by the fact they wouldn't do it, but I always wished they would have been comfortable enough to do it.

  • sounds hot but seems awkward at first.

  • You can't enjoy sex if you don't feel comfortable with your boyfriend. We don't mind if you don't masturbate in front of us but we do mind when these "I can't do that" pile up when we do anything you ask us to do. This is the main reason men look around for other girls that actually do these things you wont.

  • My girlfriend masturbated in front of me awhile back and it was was of the hottest things I have ever seen

    • wow, thanks

    • your welcome :D

    • Also, I got so turned on I started masturbating as well!

  • well I wouldn't say its a turn off , I would be disappointed a bit because its a huge turn on to watch and then help again :P

  • It's super hot and will really turn your boyfriend on. Don't feel embarrassed, but that is normal to feel that way.

  • My wife regularly does when I ask for it. I love to watch. It's a huge turn on (and I "reward" it afterwards).

    Try it, you can still stop if it's not your thing.

  • I think it's sexy when my girlfriend masturbates. It's a huge turn on for me, and her. Masturbation is a part of life I guess you could say.. There is nothing wrong with doing, and there is nothing wrong with not doing it either. But as far as I'm concerned.. It's amazing!

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