Seeing an escort this weekend but growing nervous and with cold feet?

[longbeach225]

I have an appointment to see an escort this weekend but I’m feeling nervous as the days go down, and I guess because I’m thinking of the possible dangers. STD is part of it but I have some thoughts it could be a trap to get me in some way, and maybe the risk of getting caught in general. Getting caught is more minimal. But I do have this want to be intimate with a woman something I never had experienced and I’m 27 years old. I’m still keeping the appointment but I just have second thoughts about it. When I first setup the appointment through email, I was a bit like wow I’m going to get intimate for my first time. Now I feeling a bit shaky but then at the same time I would like to get intimate. Someone told me I should try Cougar Life website where older women are looking for NSA or friends with benefits especially the divorce ones. But then again, I still have to be an attractive guy in order for these girls to be interested in me. Also I’m not sure if Cougar Life is any good, if it’s even legit. Additional reason to why I’m visiting an escort: Meeting a woman is very hard for me because the only place I could potentially meet anyone is at school but it’s not a socialize place to meet someone like at a bar or club. I’m not a clubbing or bar person, so that is why for me to meet women is really hard. The bar and club scene just don’t fit my personality. I can meet guys with no problem I made 4 friends with males and 0 with women. I socialize easier with men because I don’t have that pressure like with women. Women, I can talk to them for a short time and gets quiet I just don’t know what else to say to keep or get her interested in me; maybe I focus on impressing her. I just get nervous with pressure. I live in San Francisco, CA still have a hard time, so being in a big city has nothing benefit. So that is why I’m going to see an escort because of this social issue and shyness with women. Sometime there is one lady I want to say hi but then I’m afraid she may think I’m a weirdo or if it does work then I know I won’t be able to hold a conversation because I’m thinking hard to search for the right words to say to her.

[lamasdura88]

do keep your appointment if you meet her and do not feel like going further pay her a portion of her fee and be honest. ask her what her cancellation fee is as it may happen that once there you simply don't click with her.

i see your anxiety as a huge barrier.

just talk to anyone make it a goal to talk to 100 women every week small talk anything just to get out of your shell.

if you are polite you will be fine. Also learn to read body language a very important skill.

i live in NYC

also frequent places that have your interests and meet women there.

also join okcupid.com they have events where members can meet in real life in low pressure group settings and the plus is you know everyone there is looking to date so that makes it more fun.

good luck if you are ever in NYC look me up on my profile here as it has my Facebook link

[Cajsaghannam]

Oh, come on you are a guy so why you nervous? Meeting with an escort is not a big deal just take it easy if you desire to have fun with that escort girl. One of my friends was also feels same when he met with an escort girl first time in Dubai (booked through an escort site at dubaicompanionsservices. com). But now he do not afraid to do the same fun with an escort girl.

[Hanzo]

Be careful, make sure she is verified...do not enter the house or room until you see who is exactly behind the door. Check all rooms and make sure she doesn't lock the front door as soon as you walk in. You can ask her to just close the door and not lock it yet. You can also ask if she is clean or has papers but most likely they won't have prove and besides they could ask the same of you. Use condoms.

Cougar life sucks, its all bots that try to get you to go to their websites and get your membership so they get commission.

[G_GTom]

Seeing an escort is no big deal. It's a trade off between time and money. If you got the money, why waste the time? As long as you don't think she wants anything from you but your money then I don't see the problem.

Also considering the quality of women out there, I don't blame anyone for not wanting to date and refrain from being around them unless it's just for sex.

[Tarvold]

I just want to say, this is the bravest and most courageous post I've ever seen on this site.

Wear a condom, don't kiss anything that doesn't look like baby smooth skin, and open your mind to whatever might happen.

Have fun.

[moviedude714]

I wish this industry was legalized in the US

[Anonymous]

You're an idiot. Do you think escorts try to trap people? Do you think they can stay in business if they indulge in risky sexual behavior ?

I guarantee her most recent STD check up is a damn sight more recent than yours.

Put your fears to one side and just do it already.

[Anonymous]

Are you fat and/or ugly?

and/or short?

[longbeach225]

I'm not fat or short but yes very ugly. If you saw me you would want to move to another planet.

[Opinion Owner]

you can't be that bad if you're not fat, and not short, and properly groomed with decent clothes.

[Belleoftheball]

" if you saw me you would want to move to another planet" LOL

[longbeach225]

@ Belleoftheball: Just only telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn't recommend going through with it, but it's ultimately your decision. I'm 24 and still a virgin, so I know what it's like to have never been intimate with a girl into your mid 20's (I've never even kissed a girl), but I also feel like my virginity is a special part of myself that I should save for someone who truly cares about me.