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My boyfriend was drunk and slept with someone else! I need advice!!

Hey, So basically my boyfriend admitted to me about 2 hours ago that he had sex with another girl at his house. Apparently, he had been drinking and she came over around 12 am to kiss him and tell him that she had feelings. My boyfriend remembers the kiss and told me yesterday about it. I wasn't that upset about the kiss but still wanted to talk to him today after work about it. Well I was about to drive to work and he called me and told me he actually had sex with her but doesn't remember doing it. He can only remember like snap shots. I guess she came over last night too and he asked what happened and then the other girl got really upset. I know this is complicated but I am emotionally wrecked right now! He said he wants to be with me but how can he do that? I have been with him for 6 years and we Haven't had sex yet because we were going to wait until marriage and now you sleep with some random girl! And he knew this girl liked him! Plus he said he was drunk when it happened. I said, "well how much did you drink"? he said only two beers! And he is a big guy and I know that is impossible! I always thought we would end up being together. I don't want to date anyone else but I feel like I can't be with him either. I mean... how can I be with him after I know he's cheated on me? I feel like my life is a Jerry Springer show and that's not a good feeling!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • so wait... Lets get this straight.

    So... Your boyfriend was at home one night.. And his "friend" called him to hang.. And she brought alcohol over, seduced your boyfriend, and he doesn't remember?... BULLSHIT!

    First off, he allowed her to come into the house, weather he knew she was coming or not. He still let her in the door. Second, he did this, knowing he has a relationship at the moment. AKA you.

    Listen sweety, take it from a real man aka me. He planned this, and his intentions from the start were to sleep with this woman. 2 beers, doesn't make you not remember anything. Actually, even when your to the point of puking your face out, you still remember everything that happened the night before.

    Dump him and never speak to him again. This probably isn't the first time he has slept with her. Just to let you know. And if you continue with him, how can you ever trust him again? He's clearly a f'ing moron.

    If I was you, I wouldn't give him the time of day ever again.

  • I'm sorry

    but some people get drunk and get wasted pretty quick, it's because how their body reacts to alcohol. but you have been with him for 6 years so I suppose you know how much he can drink while being conscious.

    saying that he was drunk may be an excuse or may be not, he might telling you the truth.

    then you mentioned about waiting till marriage., whose idea was this? both or only one of your idea? if it was your idea and you still want to be like that can be something to think because if you haven't done anything physical for 6 years can be something he couldn't handle because people get horny, some can control it some cannot.

    if you feel like there is nothing to discuss because he cheated on you dump him.

    else you can discuss what happened and come to an understanding to what you guys need and if there's a possibility of something like this can happen again. I would say discuss over it and take your decision

    • k stop trying to make her boyfriend look better. He's in the wrong.

    • he is obviously wrong. the asker knows it better than us. if she has no problem dumping him she would've dumped him already. don't just judge the world by how you see and who you are. he admitted that this happened, he could keep doing it without her knowledge if he wanted to. real man? real man? he confessed like a real man unlike most men and women not do although he cheated. so I think he deserves to give an explanation.

    • what if she dumps him and find someone worse than him? at least he talked the truth. and just don't try to argue with me it's her choice to make

Most Helpful Girls

  • I am so sorry that happened to you. :(

    I would break up if I were you. I can imagine how horrible you feel right now, but I think some time apart would do wonders for you. And by that I mean break up.

    You can always get back together in the future if you decide that's what you want. But you need time away from him to gather your thoughts and attempting to do that while still maintaining a relationship with the guy who you have to think about is not easy.

  • Forgive him.HES BEING HONEST so that means he loves you.and no no he did not drink just twobeers.two beers does not get you like that unless the drinks had something in it.who knows.my point it , if he was another guy he wouldn't of told you what he did but in this case your boyfriend is being honest and that counts alot.have a talk with him and tell him to not drink anymore.he loves you :) good luck

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  • Sorry,

    I started typing before I finished reading...I stopped at "2 beers".

    He cheated, plain and simple. Dump him and find someone else.

  • He was not so drunk that he did not know what he was doing. Break up with him!

  • Well it's honestly a tough cookie

  • lol 2 beers don't dent a big guy

  • He cheated break up with him. He is lying about not remember as well

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