Can the male body be the object of desire?

[joeteen]

I may have asked this before in a more complex manner but I'm gonna make it more simple this time.Do girls crave guy's bodies as much as guys crave theirs? Do they get off from us getting off as we do from them? I know they crave for sex but that's not my question.They can crave sex or how guys make them feel or how they please them,they can even crave pleasing guys but do they crave the male body itself? I know a lot more men go to strip clubs to watch naked girls than girls do to watch naked guys.Same goes for dirty magazines.In bed,whether it's the guy or girl in charge and whether the guy or girl doing the work,the woman's body always seems to be the object of desire.Even the look on a woman's face having an orgasm is an amazing view for guys.I rarely see a woman just enjoying the male body for what it is.I don't even know what girls like.Do I have to have abs and biceps?Do girls like hairy asses? lol.I rarely see a guy teasing a woman with his body.What will he do anyway? shake his butt or chest or flang hisd***like a helicopter then she'll go all crazy and wanna eat him?! Looks kinda weird.Say we put an average naked guy and woman in the street.I bet most guys will look at the naked lady,as for girls,some will look and others may look away grossed out ! How many man and even woman have you heard calling the female body an art but not the male body.I know some girls are even disgusted by it.I don't care who's in charge nor do I care who's doing the work but I think as a guy I want to feel wanted not just for what I can give or do or for the boost of ego or confidence you get if you blow my mind but for just being a guy.Show me that my body is desirable whether you're in control and I'm doing the work or the opposite and whether me or you are both in control and doing the work.Am I the only guy who feels like this? Is this too much to ask for a guy? Am I just denying the truth that we are not as much wanted ? Let me know what you think.

[udolipixie]

Can the male body be the object of desire?

Yes there's quite of male celebrities desired for their bodies aka Justin Beiber for quite a lot of tween/teen gals and for the general population I would imagine homosexual guys would be a prime example of the male body being an object of desire.

Do girls crave guy's bodies as much as guys crave theirs?

Not according to studies going by the different sexual drives of the genders.

Do they get off from us getting off as we do from them?

Not according to studies going by the orgasm gap for gals.

They can crave sex or how guys make them feel or how they please them,they can even crave pleasing guys but do they crave the male body itself?

Meh I find gals generally crave a specific male body that they have attached emotions so the desire is a desire for him not simply his body which is unlike guys who generally crave any gals body they find attractive because they want to bust a nut in/on it.

Am I the only guy who feels like this?

Unlikely as I find most guys feel like this as it seems they think being wanted will mean they can f*ck more.

Is this too much to ask for a guy?

No as plenty of gals want their partners body as again I find gals want a specific male body they've attached emotions to not just any male body.

Am I just denying the truth that we are not as much wanted ?

Egh in my opinion gals want guys more than guys want gals. It seems guys are wanted for themselves with gals wanting his body because it is his thus they are uniquely wanted just for being them while gals are wanted for their body/body parts just because it is attractive and are thus interchangeable, replaceable, and upgradeable as shown by how they are sexualized and objectified with no inkling or connection to them as a person.

[needhersobad]

I disagree before I started working out girls didn't give me as much attention. So fact is my body played a big part.

[needhersobad]

homosexual guys would be a prime example of the male body being an object of desire. And no playgirl magazine is actually read by more women then gay men. It isn't socially acceptable for women to view the male body in a sexual manner. if a women does so she is a slut if a guy sleeps around with multiple women he is a player if a girl does this with many men she is a whore.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad Perhaps you didn't pay attention to the gals that did give you attention and it's more of the gals you wanted didn't give you as much attention as before. Or perhaps you are quite lacking in romantic/partner appeal so your body is the only/one of the few positives you bring.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad

The credible evidence for your claim?

Playgirl magazine is not a supporting example as it ceased publication in 2008 after it's failure at marketing to women as in 2003 50% of it's readers were homosexual men according to Mark Graff the president of the brand management firm for Playgirl ( link

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad

Playgirl magazine has now just come back in February 2010 and the same month they (Daniel Nardico Playgirl spokesman) admitted their audience is predominately homosexual men. ( link

More gay guys read Playgirl than straight gals so much so that marketing to gals was a flop that they cease publication and started anew marketing for gay guys. So where did you get your claim?

[needhersobad]

Every girl I know drools over channing tatum and his body you are biased and most girls are sexually attracted to the male body. And no Playgirl is read by women it isn't socially acceptable for women to talk about sex. I can't count how many times I get checked out by girls when I go shirtless.

[needhersobad]

Almost every girl loves a mans ab muscles and broad shoulders and that is physical attraction and you can't deny it. Women are sexually attracted to the male body. Just because you aren't doesn't mean other wise.

[udolipixie]

@needherbad Nice evasion of providing evidence for your claim that "playgirl magazine is actually read by more women then gay men". LMFAO You switched from claiming "Playgirl is actually read by more women than gay men" to "Playgirl is read by women". Nowhere did I state that Playgirl isn't read by women so it's irrelevant to tell me "and no Playgirl is read by women". So where is your evidence for your claim more women than gay men read Playgirl?

[needhersobad]

Again women won't admit that they read it when infact they do and nowadays its much easier to view pictures of naked men online which many women look at pictures of dudes.

[udolipixie]

@needshersobad Different experiences as I know many gals that don't find Channing Tatum attractive. There are few guys I know that every gal drools over...o.O. I'm not biased for having a different opinion than yours especially one supported by facts and studies..o.O...Though do tell what is my bias and what am I biased on?

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad You keep falling back to this women won't admit that they read it...when facts show that not enough women were reading it for Playgirl to be success with a heterosexual woman audience. It's not that women aren't admitting to reading it. It's that most weren't. Nowhere did I state that women aren't sexually attracted to the male body. I did state that studies show women aren't as sexually attracted to the male body as men are as sexually attracted to the female body.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad You seemed to be confused and reacting emotionally rather than logically. "Almost every girl loves a mans ab muscles and broad shoulders and that is physical attraction and you can't deny it." Nowhere did I state, suggest, imply, or mention that I'm denying gals physical attraction to guys. Show me where I did such?

[needhersobad]

Men and women are not all that different its how were raised men are taught to be tough and not cry women are taught differently. Its all cultural based women hide their feelings for guys when in fact they do lust for men. In a traditional household women were supposed to stay home and cook take care of kids. Every girl has different tastes some might like channing tatum others might prefer brad pitt or zach efron just like guys might like taylor swift and others might not.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad "Women are sexually attracted to the male body." Nowhere did I state, suggest, imply, or mention that gals aren't sexually attracted to the male body. In fact I even stated that yes the male body can be an object of desire "Yes there's quite of male celebrities desired for their bodies aka Justin Beiber". Stating that studies show gals do not sexually desire guys as much as guys sexually desire gals is not denying physical attraction or saying gals aren't sexually attracted

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad None of what you state has any relevance to my post. How does any of that disprove or counter that studies show do not sexually desire guys as much as guys sexually desire gals?

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad You seem to be illogically ranting making claims without evidence and implying I'm saying things I didn't. Show me the credible evidence for your claim that more women buy Playgirl more than gay men do? Don't bs with "women won't admit they read it" when the brand itself flopped with a female audience and from the get-go their main audience was gay guys in fact it even came back predominatly marketing for gay guys.

[needhersobad]

fair enough. plus another socially learned factor is women waiting for guys to approach them not many women I know will make the first move they feel it is the guys responsibility.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad Show me where I state, suggest, imply, or mention that I'm denying gals physical attraction to guys as you imply in: "Almost every girl loves a mans ab muscles and broad shoulders and that is physical attraction and you can't deny it." Show me where I state, suggest, imply or mention that gals aren't sexually attracted to the male body as you imply in ""Women are sexually attracted to the male body."

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad Again none of that socially learned trope has anything to do with my post..o.O. That's not a plus. That's irrelevant. You seem to cling onto this "women won't admit" due to social learning to dismiss biological facts like generally gals have lower sex drives than guys and studies showing over and over that guys are more responsive to visuals than gals are. It's not bias of me to state that studies show gals generally don't sexually desire guys as guys do with gals.

[needhersobad]

in your answer only teen girls desire the male body not women. You make no mention of women and you only focus on celebrities not average male.

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad Nowhere in my answer do I state only teen gals desire the male body not women. In fact nowhere did I use the word "only"...o.O Show where you got that "only teen girls desire the male body not women"? I gave an example of how the male body can be an object of desire doesn't mean that's the only possible way. I did focus on the average male "and for the general population I would imagine homosexual guys would be a prime example of the male body being an object of desire."

[udolipixie]

@needhersobad Also while you show me where my answer says "only teen girls desire the male body not women"? Show me the evidence for your claim that more gals buy Playgirl than guy guys? Show me where I denied gals are physically attracted to guys? Show me where I stated gals aren't sexually attracted to the male body? It seems you have quite a bit of projection issues.

[Arcano]

In the words of Seinfeld's Elaine Benes: "The female body is a work of art. The male body is utilitarian. It's for gettin' around. It's like a Jeep."

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=a9v8hcAezkk

On a more serious note... men and women have different triggers that pull our attention. Each person varies in their stance on attraction, but, in general, it can be agreed upon that men are far more visual, whereas many women are in a contrasting mindset where the closeness and bond of two people takes the front seat.

To continue from there, I think that is why there tend to be questions that periodically pop up on GAG along the lines of "How did HE get a girl like HER?" Again, this doesn't lump everyone into a mold, but guys place higher value on physical appearance than girls. Women can "overlook" or learn to love traits in a man if he matches what she looks for in character, personality, and beliefs.

Perhaps this is the female side speaking, but I don't see viewing bodies as "objects of desire" to be particularly healthy. I may be attracted and drawn to someone, but I don't salivate with lustful ardor.

[joeteen]

but how do you explain that a woman's body can be the object of desire of another woman in a lesbian intercourse? They can be pretty visual and lustful there.

[needhersobad]

@ QA lesbian womens brains are like that of a straight male. And Arcano you are wrong women are taught not to be visual it isn't socially acceptable for women to do stuff like that when in fact many women at my school have shirtless dudes on their dorm walls, laptop screens, etc.

[Arcano]

QA, I am not going to pretend I know the minds of lesbian women. Like needhersobad said, I think, to a degree, they may think similar to a straight man (especially a "butch," rather than "femme"). needhersobad, all I said was that guys are /more/ visual. Sure, girls like shirtless guys-- look at the bedroom walls of many preteen girls, hah. They just don't tend get aroused to the same level that a man may if he saw the equivalent picture of a female.

[needhersobad]

Depends on the girl I've encountered some pretty visual girls.

[Izzy2102]

Idk how much guys desire our bodies so I'm not sure, but I def do desire a mans body. If it's well formed. Doesn't have to be ripped, but chubby isn't that attractive either.

I love it if a guy has broad shoulders, flat but strong chest, muscular arms and an attractive face. It make me want to touch him all the time. I think what is most attractive is the upper body though and most guys show that anyways, so it's not that special anymore.

I think Liam Hemsworth has the ideal body and face.

I also think guys more expressive when it comes to that. I wouldn't really go around tell guys they're hot. I'd rather enjoy in silence

[NerdGirl]

abs... *melts*

[needhersobad]

best answer.

[ChooChooHaha]

LOL, "If you men ONLY KNEW."

You don't notice it. But if you were female... YEAH. It's plain as day.

My hottest sex dreams are of men. Things I spend WEEKS dreaming of. Men can fluster me, make me think things, can get me to want things to happen. Hair or not, unless you're like homo habilis status... no one cares. At least I don't. If I REALLY like what I see, and he has clothes on, topless, whatever, in person, I'm usually all quiet and nervous with his attention. But if I think you're not noticing, good luck trying to get me to look away! He doesn't even have to be a stripper to tease, he can just in proximity and touch me sometimes. He doesn't even have to touch, he can only be in proximity, check me out, and never let up eye contact. You ever wonder why we women want muscles to some degree or another? Abs and ass on you men?

[Anonymous]

noooooooooooo not for me

[Anonymous]

To be honest only like 5% of men are that appealing.

[needhersobad]

And I can say the same thing for women not that many make me go OMG SHES SO HOT.

[Opinion Owner]

LMAO. No you can't say the same about women. Women are gorgeous. Maybe if you men worked out more you would get more women's heads to turn.

[Anonymous]

the body in itself, no. I desire guys who don't necessarily have perfect bodies and I won't look at a body alone and want sex with him.

don't get me wrong, a guy I like will turn me on VERY much and my desire for him will be just as strong as the way a guy would want a girl's body.

but, the way attraction works feels different for a girl than a guy.

[joeteen]

yeah,but it's the sex yu want and the feeling of being touched or whatever not the male body itself.Thx for being honest

[Opinion Owner]

It's the sensation. I like the erection because it turns me on but I don't like to look at it I like to feel it on me in me etc. It gets me aroused. I also look at broad shoulders and hands and they get me more horny because they are masculine but the body gets me thinking of the sensations I want from it. Women are just less visual than men.

[Anonymous]

Not unless he's perfect looking so they probably find one in a thousand physically desirable

[needhersobad]

wrong. come to my college campus and girls check us guys out all the time "omg he's so hot" omg what a hottie, I hear it and see it everyday.

[Anonymous]

Do girls crave guy's bodies as much as guys crave theirs? I personally do! I love to kiss my boyfriend all over. I even like to bite his butcheek! lol. He hates it but I think his but is just so irresistable that I cannot help it! I love to feel him when we make love and I love to lick every part of his body.

Do they get off from us getting off as we do from them? I love to please him and watch his face as he orgasms. Even just that alone can bring me to the point of an orgasm.

My Boyfriend does not have abs..but he is sexy AF!

Yes, his but is hairy and I love it, lol.

[joeteen]

Damn,I want that,wish more girls were more like you !

[Opinion Owner]

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