Being turned on by extremely smart people?

[Anonymous]

I think it's so sexy. The guy I like is Ivy League educated. I am significantly above average in intelligence but not at his level. But, we can have good conversations as we are both philosophical and enjoy the same subjects in school and such. If we can hold a good intelligent conversation will it matter to him that I am not as genius-like as he is? Whenever we talk he looks very happy and he gets a huge smile on his face. He is a little bit awkward in a sweet and endearing way and with other people he seems much more reserved than with me. I think it's adorable. Also, I am a girly girl. I am more introverted and a bit shy but not awkward. Will this personality difference matter? We seem to interact well.

[Anonymous]

No it won't matter much. You should just go for it. I know lots of intelligent guys and probably most guys actually are a bit shy or feel awkward when they try and ask a girl out so he might like you back. Intelligence to me is fairly sexy too but its not a deal breaker if she is not that intelligent. I go for things like how hard she tries at something and if she fails and gets back into it then I'm impressed.

[Dandeus]

Some highly intelligent people are very egotistical or insecure and don't like their intelligence threatened by a potential significant other, so prefer to date people less smart than them so that they can feel needed or superior. Others like the challenge of another intelligent person and thrive off it.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is like that...every time he throws out something I never knew, it reminds me how smart he is and I feel that much more attracted to him.

To me, it doesn't matter how good looking a guy is..if he's dumb, I'm not interested.

Considering your situation, I'm sure it won't matter. He'll likely enjoy teaching you new things and he is obviously into you.

[Asker]

I hope he's into me. How can you tell he is?

[Opinion Owner]

You said he looks happy/smiles when you're around, so I'd definitely say he's into you.

[sangini93]

Smart people are not trust worthy. I will never give my mind for them. Good physical fitness, well dressed, plenty of money or cleaver talks are not my turn on. I respect the man who is gentle in behaviour and he is care taking, respecting my feelings. I like honest - not smart.

[Asker]

Someone can be both

[ArabianPwincess197]

I like guys I can hold a conversation with - but some smart guys are egotistical, vain etc

On the other hand, some are very nice like my friend Nicholas

What matters is whether a guy hasa good personality which appeals to you

[Asker]

This guy is very sweet I like his personality

[ArabianPwincess197]

thats great :)

[kheserthorpe]

It's unlikely he will care.

[kheserthorpe]

I think there is some tendency for this to happen (re update). I recall somewhere reading that people of somewhat above average intelligence are on average the most successful with dating. The very smart are likely to have fit in less growing up and have worse social skills, or to over-think things. Some very smart people actually develop excellent emotional IQ and learn in a less instinctive way how to 'date' -extremely- well. But they're a minority.

[Asker]

Could he like me?