Is my boyfriend overreacting about my bikini accident in front of his friend?

Question

It was finally warm enough yesterday to go to the beach here in South Florida although the water is still pretty cold, my boyfriend, 2 of his friends, and myself drove down to Key West yesterday to go to the beach. They all brought their surfboards although I did not plan to surf I just wanted to lay out on the beach.When we got there they all ran straight for the water I laid out for a while then my boyfriend tried talking me into going surfing with them but I told him I wasn't exactly wearing the best bikini to be surfing in and he told me not to worry about it, I warned him again that a big boob girl should not be trying to surf in a strapless bikini but he was persistent. I got on the extra surfboard and swim out with them and that's when the bikini started acting up, when I would straddle the surfboard my bikini bottoms were kind of small so they kept riding up my butt cheeks higher than I like to show and I figured that's why the guys kept paddling behind me. I caught a few waves and constantly keeping an eye on my girls to make sure they did not fall out. Right before I was about to go in I was trying to get up on the last wave and fell off into the water as the wave rushed over me, my boyfriends friend was right next to me so he gave me a hand getting back on my board, when I got on I sat up and that was the one time I forgot to check my bikini top. We sat there together for a minute while I was trying to get my ankle strap back on, I looked up at him and he was staring right at my boobs, I looked down and realized my right boob had fallen completely out of my bikini top and the left side was barely on but my nipple was still sticking out of it, I was embarrassed pulled my top back up really fast and my boyfriend saw the whole thing.He did not really say anything at first but I could tell he was little bit upset by it and then later in the day he got pretty mad about it, I tried telling him that I shouldn't be surfing in this bikini but he was persistent on me going, he started telling me that it was my fault because I didn't check my top before I got back on the surfboard. He still mad about it and not really talking to me that much I just tried to explain to him that it was an accident but he doesn't seem to understand, he still says it's my fault he is acting like I did this on purpose or something. He is not even answering my text today. Is he overreacting or was I really in the wrong here? I don't understand why he thinks it's my fault when I told him that my bikini was not appropriate to be surfing in. What's the deal here?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah, he is overreacting. I mean, technically, under different circumstances, I think he'd have a bit of a right to be a bit upset over it. HOWEVER, you repeatedly told him your concern (which was exactly what ended up happening), and he completely dismissed it and wanted to to take that risk. It's his fault. He knew the risk; you told him the risk. The risk became a reality, and he got angry that he made you take it, but decides to blame you because (I guess in his mind) you could have prevented it by saying no, despite him persisting that you say yes.

Are you responsible for giving in? Sure.

But he's responsible for the way he guilted and forced you into it, so the blame lies with him. If I were you, I'd wait for him to apologize rather than text him. You should be the one ignoring his texts, not the other way around.

sexhelp101 · Accepted Answer

Ask him if he feels bad that you were embarrassed like that. If I were there and didn't know you, I would even feel embarrassed for you. Ask him "What if it was you and your d*ck popped out - should I get mad at you?" He really needs to grow up. How is he going to feel when you're having his baby and a room full of people are staring at your p*ssy? Or every time you go to the gyno? Look, we all have times that other people will see us nude. What probably happened is that you were embarrassed so you laughed about it and he saw that as you were doing it on purpose to show off your big boobs. If he thinks he's with a ho maybe he should just go find someone else.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I doubt that he's mad at you personally, he's probably just mad that his friend saw your boobs. Regardless; he has no right to be mad at you, it's not your fault. Especially since he's the one who told you not to worry about it. If he isn't over it in a day I'd be surprised. But if he still isn't, have a talk with him. Try to be understanding like "I get that you're upset your friend saw my boobs, and I'm upset about it too, but you're the one who told me not to worry about it so you have no right to be mad at me. Nothing will come about over this, let's just all forget it and move on." If he STILLis mad, dump him. Hope I helped :)

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

Wow what a baby. Look he's just feeling pissed because he knows that you know that he's the one who got you into the situation and indirectly he's likely just embarrassed by the aftermath caused by his lack of understanding in *girl problems*. This reminds me of the time when a guy kept bugging me about me not swimming when I was on my period (I don't like tampons) and then I eventually just got up and said "listen here idiot, I'm on my friggen period OK?" .. he went dead quiet. Guys don't always understand girl problems like this so just give him time to get over his little pity party.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He's an idiot. You told him several times that you didn't wear the greatest bikini ever for surfing. Tough shit. If I were you, I'd be pissed at him for overreacting this much. Seriously, he needs to get over himself. It was an accident. It's not like you purposely flashed his friend. He's just a jealous moron.

smilingirl · Answer

why was he mad at you but not his friend? who would like to show their boobs naked in front of anyone on purpose?

bDizzie · Answer

Your boyfriend is a boob. You're with him why?

DutchAtheist · Answer

How considerate of him to give you shit about an already embarrassing moment.

And you are all adults here right? Come on.

What bunch of babies. The friend too by the way, he could have looked away and warn you.

BillyTheMountain · Answer

What is going on?  Your boyfriend is an idiot.

Dionysos · Answer

He needs to gfow a pair and quit being jealous and controlling.

serp777 · Answer

Your boyfriend has a low IQ and has that overreacting personality thing going for him. How do these guys get girlfriends in the first place?

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Tough shit for him. Your boyfriend is an idiot.

Tell him something like this to show him how ludicrous he is being.

"oh gee, boyfriend...I want your friend to see my breasts, so instead of just showing him when you're not around, I had to plot and plan for the perfect combination of warm weather and wave height so that I would fall off a surfboard right in front of him, then pull my top down so he could see my tits".

And if he never replies to you, I think you're better off.

cutekid · Answer

I don't see how you re wrong in anyway...the dude is upset with himself for making you go surfing in the first place..but just give him some time and withdraw from texting him so he will get over himself...

Bluejeanshorts · Answer

I think no foul you where trying to do right by him and things like that happen. And he should have back off if he was going tobe upset if that happen

jacquesvol · Answer

I don't think you'll find many girls who never had a 'bikini accident'. Nothing to worry about. Nobody ever died from that.

RedThread · Answer

He sounds completely irrational and unreasonable. He's being ridiculous.

GreatnessPersonified · Answer

He's being an idiot.  You tried to explain and he didn't listen, so when boobies fall out, it's what happens naturally.  You did nothing wrong.

Shaft50 · Answer

He should take some responsibility... he was the one who pushed you into surfing even when you expressed your doubts. And you had a bikini mishap... how embarrassed were you? It would be different if a stranger saw... I hope he at least showed some sympathy and compassion for you as you were the victim...

soe11 · Answer

He need to be mature.

croxy · Answer

I see absolutely no reason for him to be pissed at all.

FriendlyGiant1 · Answer

sounds like "much a do about nothing" to me...carry on...nothing to worry about here...

greycadillacs · Answer

He's being childish and is not being understanding in the least.  A healthy reaction would be to laugh at the situation that occurred and move on with your lives, there are far greater things in life to get upset over, a wave knocking your bikini off is not one of them