First sex with a new guy. He's big, intercourse hurts. Does it get better?

[Anonymous]

This is my boyfriend. I wasn't a virgin. I've had sex for around 2 years with my ex but he wasn't big. Anyway, so when this guy and I had intercourse, the problem wasn't girth but length. I don't give a fuck about measurements. If he was thrusting hard, fast and very deep, it would hurt me A LOT. I can take some pain but at some point, I almost asked him to stop. When he goes relatively slowly and not too deep, I have no problem. It's just heavy pounding. With him, I don't enjoy some positions that allow deeper penetration (like doggie) cause it hurts too much. :( I feel VERY sore now. He tried anal on me too (first time for me). I didn't hate it but I'm sore there too, and I bled a bit afterward. Is that normal? I told him last night as we were going at it again to be gentle cause I was sore and he said I'd get used to it. I wonder if that's true since it's all about his length, not how stretchy in diameter my vajayjay is!

[Anonymous]

My first guy wasn't big. Somewhat under average and we were together for 2 years as well.

My second and fourth are both big, second is big in both length and girth, he was quite rough when entering, he never did anything to purposely go deep and he wasn't into positions as a whole, mostly missionary. He was mostly into thrusting hard which sometimes it did go deep but he never did anything to penetrate deeply, it hurt when he thrust hard especially when I wasn't all that aroused and he pushed more than half of his in, one sharp pain, however it mostly hurt due to him doing it 3-5 times each time we did it. It never hurt or felt pain if I was on top with him. He generally didn't care if I was aroused or if it was hurting me or whether I had an orgasm, he just wanted to get off.

My 3rd was average.

My fourth guy is slightly shorter but thicker than the 2nd. His is harder and curved unlike the 2nd guy's. We been doing it for 2 months now, the first time he entered he wasn't gentle and he did go quite deep with his first push in. It hurt quite bad. He was gentle with his thrusts and entered gently the first few times after that (was for a week or so) After that he usually isn't rough but not necessarily gentle to enter, if he pushes in hard more than half in then I feel that sharp pain. He is very much into full or deep penetration, usually after a few thrusts he would hold my thighs so my knees are by my chest and he would start to fully penetrate, if he does it slowly it usually doesn't hurt from him going deep but if he pushes in hard then that sharp pain comes and it is even more painful than with the 2nd guy, he does try to change the angle he enters, that sharp pain isn't there but it simply hurts from being stretched out. He likes doing other positions but most of it does hurt especially doggy as he still tries to fully penetrate unless I tell him it's just for a bit. He isn't into thrusting fast though he does thrust very fast and hard when I'm having my orgasm or when he is nearing his. He does make sure I'm aroused before entering and that I do orgasm. He does like it that his penis is hurting me though so usually towards the end he will thrust in a way that hurts.

If it is hurting from his length, there isn't much that can be done as it is bumping your cervix. Get him to try a different angle when he enters, that might make a difference.

[jcoldstream]

You get to expect and enjoy the pain. Long fingering sessions before the insertion helps a lot.

[AustinMan]

You'll get used to it. Another thing to consider: is he a little sadistic sexually? I am so, as a guy with a big cock, it turns me on when I know I'm hurting her with my cock. I also enjoy playing with things that are sore. If you can find a way for the pain to be erotic, it'll be much better. Also, if he'll get you really, really turned on, your endorphins will kick in and they really help block pain. I use a vibrator sometimes to get my wife that hot. As for a little bleeding, it's normal but he needs to let you control the penetration initially. I suggest you spoon, lube up, and have him be completely still while you work the entire thing up your ass. Once you're acclimated, he can start to thrust, slowly at first and then working up to pounding you.

[oddball]

so on behalf of every guy who read this. What do you consider big? in inches...

[Princesiddu25]

Yes it ll b better. All the time f sex with New boy with big things...