If he was taking steroids (aka artificial testosterone), his body will reduce its own testosterone production. When he goes off steroids, it can take quite a while for his normal testosterone levels to rise back up to normal levels. It's a really bad idea to take steroids for that reason (among others).
The stress doesn't help, your comment didn't help, and putting pressure on him to perform only increases the stress.
You need to back off some, take the pressure off, and give him some time to decompress. Let him know that you desire him, and that he can have you anytime he wants, but that you're going to wait and let HIM make the first move. Then, do nothing more than perhaps a bit of teasing or strategic skimpy dressing. It shouldn't take long before he starts to relax, and then his natural horniness will build up. That, combined with you dressing skimpy when you're alone and teasing him a bit will have him ready to go before too long. It might not be at the pace you had before, at least, not right away, but it will still be much better than it is now.
In the meantime, get used to masturbating, and don't be afraid to let him watch you sometimes...1 0 0 0So I took your advice, bought something new and sexy and NOTHING. Not even a comment or cuddle or anything. How does a girl not take that personally.
"You need to back off some, take the pressure off, and give him some time to decompress." When I said "time", I meant a week or two at least. THEN you can wear the sexy outfits. I know you take this personally, but I promise it isn't you. Give him some "no sex pressure" time until you get the feeling he is ready (at least a couple of weeks), and then try again. Even then, it could take a couple of days before he pounces.
I guess I should throw this info I'm also. I caught him looking at a dating site, he constantly says he's leaving me but never does and then moves his stuff in to my house and is all baby. It's been 3 weeks since we were intimate but I have been asking so I will try going a couple weeks without any advances. Maybe I should just go. Thanks for all your helpful advice. It great to hear a guys perspective.
I am sorry but steroids do the exact opposite.This guy has had the same job since before you met him?So you guys go at everyday and he just now starts having stresses.Might of been the emasculation comment.Sounds like he started taking those steroids again,.
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It sounds like your boyfriend's been under a lot of pressure which in turn has affected your sex life. Try focusing on the intimacy between you and him for now. Like just cuddling, kissing and caressing him and maybe ask or show him how you would like that in return. I don't know but I think this kind of phase happens in a lot of relationships and it could be either partner... and please remember it's not about falling out of love or not having an attraction. Hope things improve for you and him. Hang in there.
0 0 0 0If he's a workaholic and under a lot of stress and tiresthat would affect his preformance big time.
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0 1Pointing out or if he thinks about how embarrassing will just make it more difficult, just tell him to clear his mind, and don't think about it while your making out and boom. He got it, my ex did this once when I was under pressure for a project. Try it out
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