I sent NUDE pics to a guy I like, is that bad?

[Anonymous]

So this guy in my college used to have a girlfriend, but he would always tell people that he thought I was hot, he wanted to sleep with me, and if he broke up with her, I would be the first girl he'd go to. Anyway…he broke up with her and messaged me on FB right away. Then gave me his number. We have been talking for a little over a month through text, and have hooked up once (the one time we hung out alone). Now it's been winter break so we couldn't hook up for 5 weeks but we've been contacting each other almost everyday through text or snapchat. I honestly don't know why he is shy, he is gorgeous and on the college baseball team, he is a starter. Anyway we are on winter break right now and he was on vaca, and he called me from a bar and talked to me, then texted me. When he got back to his hotel he kept asking for sexy pics. At first I was sending him snapchats in a bra and panties, then he texts me pics of his d*ck hard and videos of himself jacking off. I kept sending pics, then he told me to take everything off and I could trust him. So I snap chatted him me naked, boobs and vagina out. Then I texted him 4 pics nude. He was saying really dirty things how he wanted to f*ck me and I was hot. He kept sending me back pics of himself jacking off. Then we face-timed and he came on camera... after that we texted normally and the next day we texted normally. Is he gonna think I'm slutty? Do you think this hook-up will go anywhere? If it was I don't know why he would keep texting me.. We didn't sleep together and I didn't give him head. Literally all we did was make out and touch each other, and sext. Feedback? So basically, 1)does he think I'm slutty? 2) do you think this is this gonna go anywhere? I've never sent pics like that but I like him. Help..

[RyeLee]

This is my personal thought, and I certainly may be the only person in the world who thinks this so don't be too hard on yourself (or me!) when you read my humble opinion...

I have been in your shoes before and I have seen this movie a hundred times in my lifetime. In regards to the outcome you are hoping for, you have done some damage. What I mean by that is that you want this guy to like you, possibly want to be in a committed relationship with you, and see you as a classy (not slutty) potential mate.By giving in to temptation early on through hooking up and sending dirty pictures and texts, you have shown him your self worth. Why buy the cow if the milk is free? In other words, if he can have you without having to work for you or be committed to you, then why would he want to mess up that easy situation and make it harder on himself by dating you? He will take the path of least resistance of course. Bluntly, he probably does think you are promiscuous at this time, but you can change that image and prove him wrong. Make him want to work for you. He already finds you physically attractive. Now it's time to show him that you aren't a just a rebound free meal in second place to the girl he was in a real relationship with! Good luck! :)

[pickledxtofu]

"but he would always tell people that he thought I was hot, he wanted to sleep with me, and if he broke up with her, I would be the first girl he'd go to. "

No where in there did you mention that he said he wants to date you. So yes, he knows you're desperate for his attention, you've confirmed that you're easy so no, it's not likely to go anywhere.

Doesn't mean he thinks of you as a slut, but you've been fuck buddy zoned (similar to friend zoning).

And I hope you understand, that you're not a special snowflake. He acted a certain way when he had a girlfriend, he'll act the same damn way with you. He may not have actually cheated on her, but his shady behavior is a habit he'll continue. So I wouldn't put my eggs into one basket if I were you.

[katiesmuff]

Sexting in general is bad karma! Somewhere somehow people other than the one you wanted to see your pussy will also see that plus your face! Really bad move on your part!

You had better hope he really likes you and doesn't just consider you just fucking material or you can expect your pictures to make there way across your college campus.

[Mrstraightanswer]

If I were him, I wouldn't think you were slutty. He's into sports, physically active, men who exercise are typically healthy with healthy levels of testosterone, this would make him more likely to pursue women, especially you if he knew you were into him. If he is shy, as you say, then he is familiar with you, he knows you, he is more likely to bond with you in favor of going out and trying to meet a new girl because of his social inhibition.

You gave him the attention he sought, and he still maintains contact, so I would say that, unless he is Psychopathic (Has persistent trouble with relationships due to an emotion distance, among all the other unpleasant symptoms), I would say there is a high likelihood of this going somewhere.

However, just like you were the first girl he would go to after his previous breakup, don't expect to be the exception. My mom always told me that "If a girl is willing to leave the man she's with to be with you, you can expect her to leave you for another man somewhere down the road." It may be hard to think about, but it's just uncommon sense.

[indy7]

Not sure if it's gonna go anywhere or not. I'd have to see your pics to figure that out. LOL

Why would he think you're slutty? He already knows that. jk And what difference would that make anyway? He's the one who sent the dick pic and masturbated while Face-timing.

Gonna go anywhere? He's gonna see it as a sexual relationship. At least for now. You'll have to figure out how to shut down the brain in his shorts 'cuz the one on his shoulders ain't gonna be working for awhile when it comes to being around you.

[Dionysos]

There's a thin line between slutty and hot.

[steveisbored]

Honestly that is pretty normal, especially these days. He obviously was crushing on you for awhile, and all that time away I am sure he was really horny. And you both sent pics to each other and it sounds like you were both somewhat into it at least. He is going to think you are awesome and he already thinks you are hott, and I am sure he will want to hangout when you are back at school

[GreatnessPersonified]

Slutty = easy, usually. It's not like you do this for anyone. So, if he does, then he's an idiot. I'm not sure why it wouldn't go somewhere, but send pics only? Why not send...yourself. Get together I mean.

[oddball]

never put your face in the pics

[JennieF]

My husband has some of me.

[baldballs]

i think its OK. I send nude pix to girls all the time

[shakeel321]

Yahhh I love boobs

[Anonymous]

well I disagree with the guys here ,

there is a possibility he thinks you are easy and slutty yes.

As for sexting in general , it can be fun when you are already in a commited relationship , but fi not it can be very dangerous ( even with snap)

I had a pic of me once in highschool going round after the girl I sent it too felt like I hurt her. So I learned my lesson.

As for him liking you yes or no , it might be that he likes you , but why reveal everything ? it takes away the fun of flirting and getting to know you in real life...

anyway , you'll see where it goes , just stop the sexting untill you really can trust him and feel commited to him. No guy wants a girl who easily shares her body to the first guy who walks along and is interested ( even when that guy happens to be him)

In the beginning it's cool , but after a while he'll start to think : " to how many guys she sends those things ? "

[Anonymous]

You got duped, I'm afraid to say. You were just something he needed when he was feeling heated and he got it.

[Anonymous]

1) I doubt he'll think you're slutty because if you've ever noticed, slutty only ever gets dropped on someone who is outside the situation. A person calls another "slutty" as a derogatory remark and since the guy obviously benefited from seeing you naked, he's certainly not looking down on you for it.

2) Anything's possible and you know the situation more than anyone here, but I doubt it will go anywhere. If a guy is looking for frisky behavior straight out of the gate, then he was obviously looking for that all along. People always say that once you give guy sex (or in your case, dirty pics) that he loses interest, this is probably one of the most baseless and un-thought out statements out there. People don't seem to connect the behavior of a guy looking for sex right away as meaning he was never interested in a relationship to begin with. But it keeps getting said, nonetheless.

But no, I doubt it will go anywhere. He wasn't looking for anything more than sexy time with you.