What in your opinion makes a guy good in bed or bad in bed?

[NotSoBad]

What in your opinion makes a guy good in bed or bad in bed? Have you been with a guy who was bad? Have you been with a guy who was good?

[gnarlysteeze]

Well. I'm a guy, I had a partner for nearly 2 years, we had sex quite a lot. We're not together anymore.

I think I'm half decent in bed, I love to pleasure the girl I'm with, it's completely the only reason I do it, obviously it feels great for me but I just love to pleasure her as much as I can. Although I'm sure I could probably improve? Any tips? :)

Things I do: I'm rough but not too rough, I moan, kiss, touch and of course change positions, I love fore play and rather be doing it to her and let her relax and enjoy it, I always prefer to be on top, it's a must, or on bottom still doing the most effort!

One thing that I didn't really understand was..

2. ) change positions (but remember, women need to stay in one position for them to have an O)

What in gods name is O)! Also, is it better to stop sex after you make you're lover/partner/fling orgasm? Or do you as a girl like it if a man keeps going so you have another orgasm? My last partner liked it more if I carried on and that lead to several orgasms, just want to know that's all! :) Cheers x

[Anonymous]

Being un-sensual is the worst. Definitely caress her body and enjoy it. I think women like the same attitude as men - enthusiasm, being in no doubt he wants you. Passionate kissing is a real turn on for lots of women.

Please don't try to stuff more than one finger in her and frig furiously, I think that's something men have learned from porn, it's a complete turn off.

Touch her body like you're really enjoying it, I mean if you're not enjoying it then you're not enjoying sex.

Mostly, be sensual. The worst two lovers I had were mechanical and unsensuous

Definitely don't start introducing kinks in the first month, and even when you do (for example if you like hand cuffs or something) suggest it, tell her it turns you on. Don't just suddenly snap them on!

And for god's sake don't, as one guy did to me, introduce your cross-dressing interest by 'surpising' her by wearing a dress in bed. How would you feel if you turned to kiss her and she was wearing a stick on moustache!!

[ashley23]

I have had good and bad sex but I can't blame it solely on my partner because I believe it takes two people to make sex great and vice verse. I do however hate the guys who think they're in a marathon and head straight for home. I mean come on what's sex without a little foreplay! I have had great sex with three of my partners and it was only because we were open with each other and told each other what we wanted. I just got out of a relationship because he refused to be open about it I mean we had a fair sex life but nothing to really brag about. So in short I would never say a guy was bad or good just we weren't good together or we were great together!

[tashatho2001]

I think the biggest determination of weather a guy is good or not depends on the girls likes and dislikes. If a girl likes foreplay a lot then sex won't feel as good, which will make a girl think a guy is bad in bed. The more a guy knows about the female body the better he will be. I've been with Extremely GREAT men because they knew what I liked, the men who weren't that good, were mostly people I was not in a relationship with.

[angeldevilwhichone]

confidence is always good.

moaning is really hot.

i also like lots of touching (all over my body) beforehand

and generally just make the whole thing not too rushed!

[hmc540]

if a guy is good, he usually is a bit rough but at the same time considerate to her. variation is key, when a guy goes hard and slow its nice, sometimes when its fast its nice too. if their shy about having fun and just do the bare minimum of getting off, its a turn off. you have to have fun with it. also its really hot but suprisingly uncommon for a guy to moan, big turn on (:

[mbeth881]

What makes a guy good? Well, strength for one. Another thing is foreplay -- that's BIG. The most important thing is that he makes sure she's enjoying it too.

What makes a guy bad? Weakness, making HER do all the work, and not making sure she's comfortable.

[Anonymous]

I have been with four guys, one of them was an ass, too cocky, he didn't really care if I was satisfied or not. The second one whispered a lot of stuff as if he were in a porno and I just found that funny so that sort of ruined the mood for me. The third one was couldn't get "it" up, but he ended up pleasing me in another way which was great. Finally the fourth one, he cares if I'm having fun/ and am satisfied. I have had the best sex with him because he isn't just a fling and I have gotten to know him.

Good things a guy can do in bed:

1. ) change the pace from time to time

2. ) change positions (but remember, women need to stay in one position for them to have an O)

3. ) be willing to try new things

4. ) kiss, make-out, lots of foreplay

5. ) smell half decent, please remember to take off your smelly socks

6. ) Don't pressure us to do something we've already told you min. 4 NO!

[Anonymous]

I've been with 2 guys.. one was wonderful the other was horrible. I don't know what made them so different.. but number 2 never did anything right and it just never felt good! We used to fight about it so much that it ended the relationship. I guess that if you aren't "in love" then it makes a world of difference