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Boyfriend too generous in bed ?

We have been dating for a year and half. He claims to have lost his virginty yet I doubt it because he is really good in bed and he lasts for hours ( I read virgins come within one hour, but my boyfriend never did our first time). He is extremely generous in bed, and I love it but I'm wondering if there is something wrong with me? I have very strong orgasms, to the point where I will feel dizzy and wet the bed. He says he likes pleasing more than receiving but how can that be ?What can I do to please him in return? I dress up a lot And I'm very open when it comes to sex. Men's opinions ?
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  • My first serious girlfriend felt the same way at first - she told me that I was "too good" and that, after talking to her friends, was convinced that she wasn't the first girl I'd been with (she was). The reason I was so "outside the norm" is because I had read books about sex for several years before (whatever I could get my hands on, being very curious), so I had a very good idea of what to do and how to do it, as well as what was expected of a good lover.

    It sounds like your boyfriend is the same way: he isn't selfish and self-centered like so many guys are, and while that's a bit rare, it's far from impossible. He's just making a real effort to please you, and I'm sure it's a huge turn-on for him to be able to cause you so much pleasure. THIS IS *NOT* A BAD THING, except in one way: he may spoil you for most other men.

    How can you please him more? Just let him know how bad you want him, and how good he makes you feel. Tell him in detail about anything you'd like him to do, or any fantasies you have, and be open to his. I mean, sure, give him BJs and try new things with him too, but mostly, enjoy yourself in bed and let him see/hear/feel you enjoying yourself. Let him know how horny and wet he makes you, and how bad you want him when he's not around, etc. That will really turn him on, boost his ego, and make him feel closer to you.

  • Guys that say they like pleasing more than receiving are typically older than 40. They know the importance if connecting with a woman both physically and emotionally when it comes to sex. Plus they're enjoying the time they're spending with they're woman. Young guys are typically selfish and in it to have fun and get there rocks off. Sure they like getting their girl off, but it's more of any ego trip for them than actually caring about her needs.

    There's nothing wrong with you. Lay back and enjoy it. Let him do what he wants to do to you.

    It' is possible that he could be lasting that long because he's taking medication of some sort. Do you know if he is? There all kinds that can affect a guy's orgasm. Some can cause a minor sexual side affect, like difficulty in having an orgasm, while others can a have significant sexual side affect (inability to orgasm). I've been on meds and have experienced both the minor and major side affects. Bad for me, good for my wife. ; )

    • We are only 18, so I guess he is just doing it for the ego boost! But you're right, there I nothing wrong with me just sitting back and enjoying it :)

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  • Virgins last a minute, if that. But having a generous boyfriend in bed must be amazing, most guys (I don't mean to offend anyone) are sexually selfish so just be lucky that he isn't. Try giving him head and asking him how you can make it more special for him. He could very much be completely happy with the sex you two already have but you never know until you ask.

    • See I do blow him and I'm always open to new things even super kinky things, I'm just not sure what more I can do haha

    • Have you tried asking him?

    • Yes! I buy a new linqurie set every month, even let him pick it some times, done all his fantasies and I buy his favorite lacy panties all time! He says he honestly doesn't need more, but I just feel selfish that he can make me orgasm like 15 times and can just go on and on but I can't do the same. I'm a lot like him, I like giving more than getting

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  • WOW :o he lasts for hours ?! I measure by the minute. my boyfriend was a virgin when we met and he couldn't last a minute. even with breaks he can't go over 5minutes. he can go several rounds however.

    some people really do prefer to give rather than receive.

  • awh I really wanna do my husband now haha. he's probably just really attracted to you. when a guy really is attracted to a woman and cares about her he will do all he can to last and please her.

    • I agree with this!

    • I just feel selfish at times...

    • just gotta suck that dick haha like ya mean it!

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  • 1. I'm sure he doesn't do things intending a barter :)

    2. If you think you must do something in return do as you genuinely please OR ask him :)

    3. There are people who derive pleasure from knowing their partner is pleased (I'm and have been always that way)

    4. I'm sure he likes you a lot and adores you for the way you are which is what makes him do what he does :)

    5. I have always been the way you describe him since the very 1st time and that does not make something wrong with the woman I'm with :D 'Virgins don't last long' is not a thumb rule

    6. What are you doubting yourself for? enjoying or cause he lasts forever and is all over you? ;)

    • Im not complaining at all, just wondering :) I just also like giving more than receiving so it bugs me that he does so much for me ! I just wish he could experience the pleasure I get from him, but I don't think men can have multiple mind blowing orgasms one after the other haha. It's hard when we both want to please each other more than have the pleasure done ourselves

    • I'm sure he'll be more at ease, pleased and euphoric knowing that you are enjoying yourself :) (I would especially if I was told too). Don't get into the 'give and take' barter stuff though I know what you mean, let it remain mutually pleasurable and enjoyable :) The more you get into this, the more irritable you may become and thus leading to problems in the relationship :) You guys got a great thing going, enjoy it :) good luck :)

  • Some guys really do get more out of pleasing than receiving, I personally do myself, so you ask, whatcan you do to please him, just let him know how much it pleases you and how much you enjoy it, because he will get a lot more out of that than say you giving him a bj would, and yes, some guys will try and go as long as is needed to please their woman, because to them, that's what's important,x

  • Dunno first time for me I lasted about an hour.

    • Really ? I know guys are all different but he didn't come until like the 3rd time we had sex, plus he made me orgasm for the first time in my life within the half hour ! Did you come faster after your first time ?

    • Not really most guys last longer the next time. Possible he could have masturbated before but I would tend to agree with Anon he's probably already experienced. My first time I might have lasted a bit but that has stuck with me through life so far. But I was awkward in performance at best. Only reason my first got off was through much patience and enthusiasm on my part. You could be one of the women that is almost hyper-sensitive. But IMO it wasn't his first time. SOme guys can stoop pretty low.

  • I keep telling girls here that there are guys out there who get off on you getting off. The sight of a woman in extacy from what I'm doing to her turns me on more than anything physical can.

  • One hour? He must be taking enough opiates to put a small elephant down.

    I'd say average time for sex is 15 minutes, although 30 minutes it good, but 45 is exceptional.

  • You have a keeper.

  • lol so what's the problem?

  • i'm generous as well. I always give as much jism as possible

  • I'm a bit like your boyfriend and he's not necessarily lying. I like more pleasing than receiving because it's extremely arousing for me. Not that I don't enjoy receiving, but nothing turns me on more than giving pleasure to my girlfriend. And yes, I lasted hours the first couple years having sex, I had to adjust myself because my back then girlfriend got sore.

  • He will be proposing soon. I think you have a Keeper. If he actually lasts too long, let him know ho long you last and tell him you want to come together.

  • Lasting too much long is not surprising for many, but it hurts the girl and if he do not come in within few minutes - sex will be dry and hurting. Real love always feel pleasure in giving.

  • lol where did you read all of this from? virgins would probably last a couple minutes at best (coming from a virgin myself) I wouldn't expect myself to last an hour on my first time, not even close.

    he sounds experienced, like a seasoned player that has strung on many girls before you. don't be so naive.

    • I mean he still can't event find my bra and how to unhook it, you really sure he is lying to me ?

    • nearly 110% sure.

    • Well that fucking sucks.

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