Am I crazy to still like him? Blowjob maybe?

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So I have a tiny decision to make. There is a guy that I really like, but he is the antisocial type, and he also plays hard to get. He knows he's attractive and yet he pretends like he has no confidence when he is actually really arrogant. Nonetheless, I am hopelessly obsessing over him. First time we met we hit it off instantly, we kissed several times and even under fireworks. He constantly complimented my kissing skills and my lips. I could tell he liked me. But after that night we didn't speak again.. until I talked to him one day (5 months later). Long story short we ended up going out for a coffee and later a cruise. He expressed interest and said some things i.e. ''I need you in my life'' (although in context it didn't stand out that much, but when he said it it was a sentence of its own and his eyes where open wide, plus he kind of looked embarrassed after he said it). We kissed at the end of the night, and again he made sure to mention how much he liked kissing me. He told me he likes how we can talk about anything and nothing is awkward between us.That was all about a month ago. Since then, it's been nothing but flaky conversations over text messages and one kinda sweet comment towards me that he said to a friend of mine. I tried making plans but he didn't have time apparently. I stopped talking to him and he hasn't talked to me either. He's like this with everyone. Except for some girls on twitter. He has a lot of girls waiting on him and he does date a lot. Although he doesn't care to call it dating. Anyways, this guy is everything I could ever want in someone, we have almost everything in common, which always proved to be a great thing in my experiences. Now the weird thing... I think that if I give him head he will be hooked. I know it's a funny thing to say but I am that confident of my blowjob abilities. And he agrees with sayings like ''if you blow him he's yours'' and ''all it takes is one good blowjob'' etc... Is it crazy to think that he would commit? Should I give up on him? Technically I'm not physically doing anything to see him but I always think about him. Should I blow him if I ever do see him again (I wouldn't mind.. actually I'd like to)And one last thing... How do I get him to see me? What do I say to him to get him as interested as he used to be when we first started talking last month?PS: I should mention that he has kissed other girls, including my closest friend (the same friend he said the sweet comment to) and he kissed her after we went out. But there's no chance of a relationship developing between them, they are good friends though.

WhoisJohnGalt · Accepted Answer

This guy sounds like a man whore. I think he is playing hard to get, because it's getting all the girls.

If you want to just have a sexual relationship, I say do what you want, but if you want a romantic relationship, try getting him to have conversations with more substance, and not just flaky texts. I'd also see if you can find out from any of the other girls, what their experience was like with dating him

Blueeyes300 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like from your description that this guy is playing the field. It's obvious his interest ends at hooking up and the lack of interaction after the face-to-face time. You may be great at giving blowjobs, but I don't think that will make this guy yours.

madhatters4 · Answer

it isn't wise to think you can use sexual activities as a way to get or keep a man.

it sounds to me like he simply isn't the commitment type. I would not give him a bj thinking that he will suddenly decide to be your boyfriend as a result