Parents found out that I had sex with my boyfriend they didn't know I had...

[Anonymous]

my parents are super over protective of me, and they would never let me have a bf. Finally, I decided to go behind their backs because I really liked this guy and he likes me too. Anyways... yesterday, my dad caught us having sex ( he got home earlier than I had expected). he seriously won't even look at me. my mom has been gone, and doesn't know about it... ive tried talking to him, but he is avoiding me. the only time he communicated with me, he yelled and grounded me from pretty much everything. Isn't he over reacting a little? i mean, I'm 16... almost an adult. shouldn't I have a little more freedom? How do I get my dad to understand where I'm coming from? I feel like I always have to listen to what he has to say... but he NEVER wants to hear what I have to say.

[CheerPrincess08]

Think About It Like This...

If You Were Your Dad Would You Want To Know Your 16 Year Old Baby Was Having Sex?

Probably Not...

He Will Get Over It...

It Will Just Take Time...

Just Like Everything Else That Makes You " Grown Up"

It Throws Parents Off Guard.

They Don't Want Their Kids To Grow Up.

I DOn't Agree That You Should Put On An Act.

He Knows Now... Don't Say Your Going To Go Back In Time And Be Perfect...

Don't Try It.

It Will Just Make Your Dad Suspicious Of Your Lying...

I Don't Consider 16 Almost An Adult.

I'm Only 19...

But I'm Not Criticizing.

My Suggestion Would Be To Write A Letter To Your Dad Explaining What You Felt For This Boy And How You Feel About The Situation.

Thats What I Used To Do With My Step Dad Because He Wouldn't Listen To me Talk.

Don't Expect Your Dad To Be Happy, He Isn't Going To Be For A While...

But AT Least You Can Explain Yourself.

I Live By Myself, Pay All My Own Bills And Everything And My Parents Still Think They Have To Remind Me To Take My Birth Control And Have Safe Sex.

My Stepdad Says It Isn't Right To Have Boys Sleep Over...

Its How Parents Are.

They Want The Best For Us...

If You Get The Chance I Would Ask Him When He Lost His Virginity, If His Parents Were Like He Is, And How It Made Him Feel...

Maybe You Can Get Him To Open Up And See Where Your Coming From?

[lizzygirl]

Ultimately, it is your life and you are I the only one who can make those kind of decisions. However, as you are only 16 and still a minor, you don't really get to have all that much freedom. Since you acted like an adult by having sex (took on the responsibilities and possible consequences) you should try to be as adult about it as possible. If you want him to listen to you, explain yourself in a mature way.

And your parents are going to be angry, there really isn't any way around it. Sneaking around behind their backs like that isn't going to get you any more freedom, actually much less as you've seen by the fact that you've been grounded. Just be as mature as you can about it, know that your parents want what is best for you, and if you are still going to have sex regardless of what they say... make sure you are using protection ALWAYS to avoid unwanted pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

You're not almost an adult.

And I pretty much guarantee that when you are legally an "adult"

you still won't be.

But no sane parent is going to be okay with their kid having sex with the consequences it brings.

[l-hedoniste]

Parents freak out because they love you. Love, however, isn't necessarily reasonable.

He's put you on notice that your sex life isn't an available topic of conversation. It's sad that he's closed the door on that part of your relationship, but if you're smart, you'll take him at his word.

He should see nothing, and know nothing. You don't even know what boys are. You're modest, chaste, and contrite--a nun in training.

A ruse, a sham? Yep. But such shams make teenage life tolerable.

And be sure to have your bags packed on your 18th birthday.

[sirbles]

16 is not that old for your parents to let go on you. Parents are just like that, concerned. My mom had to accept that I am grown up when I was already turning 21. Before that it was hard for me to convince her that I was grown up even if I was already staying alone. Parents will always be parents just make sure you don't do anything that disappoint them. if you want to have sex have it where the won't get you. trying to convince them that you are grown up is a non starter.

[rdxhai]

It's not there life to make all the decision. You did it because you were ready to. They will get over it. If they give you too much sh*t ask him when he lost his virginity, might be in for a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Think about it you are living under his roof so that mean you got
to go by his rules