It really has been a thing between us since slave days, and I don’t think anybody really knows why. Or there may be more than one reason. We’ve always been fascinated with each other, and it hasn’t always been good or bad. They like our skin, black male frame, our voices, and thick lips. We like their beige skin and the contrast of brown and black hair against it, the way they pull their hair behind their ear, their pink lips, and their voices. We are perpetually appealing to each other.
In today’s times certain groups of females have developed their own hateful ideas for why black men and white women have been coming together, only to slander black men and hold white women in contempt. You do have some negative cases for the reasons some come together, but it goes deeper than that for most of us. So for me, I want to detail what I love about coffee and cream, but also the things I do dislike. There'll be some who have to hate this post, but hey, let 'em have at it if it helps them sleep better tonight. The rest of us will celebrate the message.
How it is for me...
For me personally, liking white women goes a little deeper than skin. A lot of it has to do with my upbringing. My family is black, but we are actually very diverse and more open-minded, plus our sister was half white. Even our mom taught us that it's okay if we're not interested in dating our own, and that there's nothing wrong with being different. So although I do like white chicks, I'm also obsessed with Latinas, Filippinas, Malaysians, and East Europeans. A lot of this is also due to the fact that I've always been interested in other cultures and societies. So over time you develop more of a desire to connect with different people, especially when you're different from your own.
The sexual pull...
There is a beautiful contrast of light and dark in relationships between black men and white women, it does have a very nice look, even if neither of them may be very special-looking. It also has the beauty of the fact that these two people of different races can't get enough of each other and that race won't keep them apart. I have known some white women who honestly say they're not really into black men though, and it really doesn't bother me. Some black men think it's racist, but it is what it is. Some of them just aren't interested, and I'm not offended by that.
I must admit that I do like the way a lot of white girls are either obsessed with us or turned on by our blackness. It is flattering. But we black men feel the same way. Even as a little boy meeting white girls in school and in predominantly white communities gave me a spark and made me want to impress them. Neither one of us can get enough of each other. I do like that. We're both so damn curious. We want to see what sex with each other looks like or feels like both mentally and physically. We both want to show our passion and vulnerabilities admitting themselves to each other in the sheets. We can't help it. And I don't know about you, but there is something particularly sexy about a white girl on her knees being subservient and giving a black man a blowjob.
White girls can look good too...
I do like those beige beauties, but not because I think white skin is superior to dark. In truth I think black women are actually some of the most physically beautiful women in the world with some of the best bodies, and the big-breast factor in our women is always appealing. But I also like beige girls because of their own beauty, especially when they have dark hair. And, yeah, it is always nice to see a white girl with big, heavy breasts, which the appeal in that probably does come from the fact that I've grown up in a black community.
However, the really thin ones who are crazy about being health conscious and are vegetarians or vegans are not so special-looking, lol. Some of them have pretty faces, but they tend to look somewhat ill. A white girl with a normal body is fine to me. And I do like redheads, who doesn't? I also notice redheads tend to be busty ;-)
Character and personality...
Although every person, even of the same race, has a different personality, there is a kind of character and personality that can be stronger in different races. One of the things I like about white girls is their bright expressiveness and enthusiasm. Sure, some are blahzay and not very colorful, but in a lot of my experience there is a difference. Some women of other races tend not to be very surprised about anything, or don't express much surprise, but with white women they can be quite expressive. I love the way they just burst into major thrills when they see my artwork and 3D origami models that I make. They really enjoy it and get really animated about it, to the point where I can be shy about it in public, lol. Some of them will buy it from me right on the spot, and they like it so much that they will even pay more than the price I set for it. I do notice that white females tend to have an appreciation for stuff like that.
Even in conversations, white girls tend to be more enthusiastic, which I do like. Though sometimes depending on the topic and the mood, I just want to close my ears, lol. But overall their enthusiasm keeps me sprung and can even make my day. Even their voices can be sexy - not the ones that talk super proper or Clueless-like lol - just the basic sound of the white female voice.
Being a lady...
Although you have many white females today all about independence and giving up feminine values, you also still have many others who don't mind cooking, being a feminine, loving mom, being into traditional feminine activities, and being ladylike. Some black people who oppose white women and think black women are better call this being "docile," and even say it about Latinas and Asian women. It does still seem to be that white women still care more about feminine values in many ways, and I do appreciate that.
Even in Europe, particularly Eastern Europe, they are very traditional and feminine, and their men seem to take it for granted, especially in Russia where domestic violence against women is high. No wonder they want to be taken care of by men in the west who are more liberal. American women try to say European women are gold-diggers and only want us for the money, yet American women marry and divorce at much higher rates, and also for the money, so they're not in any position to accuse anybody. Russian men have low life expectancies, terrible alcohol problems, and take their problems out on their women. So they really have no right getting so angry when Russian women want to leave, or would rather want to be with black men who come into the country.
The things I hate...
If it's one thing I absolutely cannot stand, it's the white girls who feel like they need to be black in order to be with black men. They start talking black and acting black, and will try to put on that pinched, stern face when they're with their kids in public, because they see the ghetto black mothers doing it so they try to imitate it too, and say the same kinds of things, "Get ova here 'fore I whoop your ass!" or "Disrespect me again and watch me slam your mothafukcin' ass in the floor." I hate that shit so much. It's like I always say: just because you have a black boyfriend and some half black babies does not mean you have to talk and act black!
Some try to justify it and say "It's just who I am," just because they like black people or grew up around black people. And then others do it to fit in, especially with their black girlfriends so they'll be more accepted, knowing that black women have slandered white women for being normal white with the way they talk and act. It's weakness on the part of black women to only accept a white girl into the circle if she acts like them, showing no tolerance for different people, but it's also weakness on the part of any white girl to be afraid of being real and choosing to make a fool of herself acting like a whole other race.
Black men's need for big butts:
This is one of the most annoying things about coffee and cream relationships. A lot of black men are ass men, and you have the ones who will date a white girl just because she has a big butt, even if she's not attractive. I feel so alone sometimes because most of my black male friends are ass men and I'm a tits man.
There is a tendency among a lot of black men to want to date a big girl because of their need to s*domize a big butt, and I'm just not one of them. No doubt, nice full female butts can be very nice, especially on Latinas for me, but I don't need them to have it. And while I do like big breasts on white girls, I don't actually seek them out nor would I date them just for that. I've known some busty, sexually attractive white women I would still never date because of their foul, stuck up, bitchy character, which that alone repelled me. I know how to draw the line.
Black men who like to sport:
I also dislike the brothas who like having a white girl on their arm just to show off to friends. These are usually the guys in the ghetto, who aren't exposed to white girls too regularly, and feel like they've really won a prize that a white girl was into him despite his ghetto-ness and community. They like to make a show of their relationship in public by kissing and touching and hugging and calling her "boo" loud enough for the rest of us to hear. But then, the fact that white girls go for those guys and are okay with the advertisement says they like it just as much.
Some white girls just want to use black men:
Some white girls are not genuine about their attraction to black men. For them it is all about the sex. You do still have a lot of them that hear about our penises being bigger and they think they've just got to have it, and it's not impressive to me. And it's also contradictory: they don't want to be objectified for being blonde or as a white female sex toy on a pedestal, yet they will objectify black men for their genitals. Some white women have even told me they themselves are annoyed by other white women doing that, and say it's disrespectful and unfair to us as black men.
White women like that are also the same ones who would never stand up for black men or black people period when it really comes down to it. They like the sexual aspect of a black man, but on the wider scale of issues, we're just another n-word to them they really could care less about. We don't matter to them as a person.
White women who like hoods:
Similar to the previous one, what's also annoying are the white women who like black men, but only if they're hoods or thugs. In their minds, they think a ghetto black man is the epitome of a real man or a strong man who knows what to do or is somehow smarter than a white man. White women like this couldn't make bigger fools of themselves, and show the truth about their own class and ethics.
You even have some who are sophisticated, have careers, and appear like clean, decent upperclass white females, but in their private lives they like hoods and like having them over at their apartments on the weekends so they can fukc all day. White women like this are the scum of the earth. They use them for the sex and think hoods are better in bed or are willing to do all the gritty, dominant stuff she wants - which hoods will do. Both are foul to me, and she deserves to be in the projects of Anacostia and Congress Heights just as much as he does.
Coffee and cream is beautiful...
Despite these downsides, black men and white women together is still a sexy and beautiful age-old classic, and many relationships between them are loving and genuine, sometimes more than same-race relationships. Learning can be very valuable too, as it also offers each other the perspectives of the other races, and a look at their worlds. It's wonderful when white mothers are humble and acknowledge the racist world out there enough to teach their biracial children that they can face challenges because of it, and care about their biracial sons' safety in police violence issues just as much as they would if he were white. It's also great when a black man can be welcomed by her family with open, loving arms, accepting him just as much as if he were white, and even better when they don't care that his kids are half black.