In the past, I’ve faced some of issues or annoyances you’d commonly see.. such as women not going after what they want, efforts to impress the opposite gender, and other terrible things that some or all of us have or will have to face. There are also some other things that I would also see improved, things that need a bit of a buff in the right direction.
Now for all the things that I’ve mentioned before, these changes can be made either on your own, or with help. Either way, they are all reversible, and that’s why I list them down below.
More Security Among Looks and Personal Things
It’s painful to be insecure, and it sucks to have to go through something that’s less precise. This is a very specific matter, however I still feel as though it has to be addressed.
People, you are going to attempt to make yourselves look more attractive somehow, someway for physical enhancements, or for attraction for the opposite gender. In a way, someone is going to find you attractive, whether you believe it or not. Likewise, people are going to find you interesting, based off of you and your personal interests in anything.
General Bullying and Discrimination
No one needs bullies.. The only possible thing that bullies could do to help a person and their lifestyle, is to possibly toughen them up by learning and absorbing their experience with them based off of what happened for preparation for anything similar, but this doesn’t happen all the time. Others aren’t as lucky.. and can be more effected by the bullshit than the rest.
Less Domestic Violence
A very serious issue, would be domestic violence among dudes, and abuse with women. Now women, I do understand that men are durable and can take your hits or slaps better than you can. However, by doing so you are causing pain, pain that should not be unreciprocated. Hitting men when you believe that they are stronger is unacceptable. If only this spark would vanish completely, we wouldn’t have to worry about men hitting women back.
And men, I do believe that men should hit women back when necessary out of respect for yourselves, and your physical well being. However, it looks like you’re trying to hurt any person (especially women) that hits you, merely because they’ve done so themselves. Are you actually trying to hurt the woman? If a punch or slap was done out of emotion, a punch or slap back is going to rile up more, and that ABSOLUTELY sucks..
I hate this double standard as much as you do, and don’t disagree with it to an extent. But I’m not going to knock a dude down because he or (or she) slapped me out of rage. Out of personal experience, that’s going to pose even more trouble, and that ain’t something I need.
Dormant Slut-Shaming
Yes, yes it’s true.. it is easier for women to get sex. Curvier outfits WILL attract more attention to women based off of their sexual heath compared to the skinny girl. One thing I’d rather women not do, is to change themselves and their sexual health out of fear of being shamed. If you have bigger boobs or a bigger ass, all it really does is attract more attention. That is ALL it does. It doesn’t make you a slut for having better curves. All it will do it bring up more attention to the opposite sex because they will of course find you more attractive that the other.. and being more attractive does NOT make a person a slut.
Less Entitlement
Women: Believing that men should pay for dates in general absolutely sucks. Men hate paying for the first dates because it's all a risk.. The reason why most men do so is because they DO like you, and dream of the best chances of a possible relationship by doing so. However, expecting them to pay out of entitlement is a whole different story. Men that don't pay for dates refuse, because there is no relationship yet. The two of you are still dating, and you could flee at any moment, wasting his money if the two of you didn't happen to connect well enough. It is always best to split the dates in order to avoid such mishaps, and there are definitely better ways to tell if someone actually likes you and respects you on the date rather than having the man prove it to you by paying for them. The man does not know if you actually like him, and could constitute distrust in the dating phase.
Men: Women are NOT going to have sex as easily as you can. You are not to be entitled to anything because you gifted them with dates, food, or even friendly banter. You are going to have to establish a trusted, emotional connection of some sort before she's going to think about it. Now I know, women can get sex more easily as men, but it doesn't mean they actually want it from any dude. You're going to have to be someone whose going to stick around. The women do not know if you actually like them, and this could propose a similar problem and a similar fate if you were to leave, kinda like she did.
In life, I learned that you really don’t get what you want because you’re a certain person (aka male or female). Not because I wanted either of those things, but because of the other way around. When you’re needier of things, people are more likely to take notice and lend a hand. Now personally, I hate asking for things if I need it or want it, but feeling overly entitled to something ain’t something people can live up to.
Better Social Interaction
And not exactly with just friends or family sharing personal connection with each other either. Personally, I always bring cards with me everywhere I go in case I want to make new friends. I liked overall conversation better then, because people were more social around each other and would have a knack at kicking each others asses to see whose better at the game. I’d always lose, but I’d always laugh.
I’d like more people to play interactive games (definitely including video games), because it’s really just as fun as kicking their ass at the real thing since they get to yell and shout at the television out of excitement, surprise, or enjoyment. I’ve honestly never really been able to laugh at something just because someone texted it to me from over the internet. It just doesn’t feel as fun like as if the person were there with me.
And for those of you with Crushes...
You are going to have to get them yourselves if you want the best chance, and the fastest chances of finding someone you’d want to be with. Like I said.. in life, you go after what you want, and quickly. You can’t wait on someone or something to come to you..It’s kinda like waiting for a raise at work for you to come when you feel as though you’ve earned it. And as soon as you do so, you’ll really feel as though you’ve earned that raise.. trust me. I will give you this though, the more signs you see, the better the chance with the person you like now. Remember, if there’s something you want in life, you go get it.. not wait for it to come to you.
I'd really like for us to be stronger, more determined. If you like the person, why wait? Isn't there something you'd like to do?
I see these things almost all the time. Do we really have to accept this? Just as you've noticed that there are some things that you don't like that people do, you also have the encouragement to stop whatever's happening.
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