Love At First Sight DOES NOT Exist.

I think love at first sight is impossible, i sometimes see questions on here about love at first sight and see quite a few people who seem to believe in it, here are a few reasons i don't see how it is possible.

- Love isn't all about looks.

Love at first sight is genuinely all about looks, sure you can see someone and have mutual attraction with them, get to know them and then become something more, but you can't love someone just by looking at them, that is just attraction.. love is much deeper than finding someone attractive.

-You know nothing about them.

Love is something which grows over time, you can't love someone you know nothing about, it can take years to truly know a person let alone seeing someone in a room and "falling in love" what you're feeling is more likely "lust at first sight"

-It sounds like something out of a Movie/Not realistic.

I'm a hopeless romantic myself and i'd really like to find what i'd consider true love, but i know love at first sight in reality is ridiculous, even though one of my favourite movies is Titanic.. in reality, they didn't actually love each other because they knew each other 3 days, they were deeply infatuated which could of turned into love eventually, but they didn't really know each other, i think a difference between love and infatuation is love lasts and infatuation often does not, even though both emotions can feel just as strong.

-Everyone who told me they found love at first sight, is no longer together.

This one is personal to me and me only! yes i'm sure you know people who said they found love at first sight, and they're still together, i personally have not, every single person i know who told me they felt "love at first sight" broke up, and it just even more proves to me that it was just infatuation and there feelings for one another did not last.

-Its a shallow concept.

It's almost saying love is about someones outer appearance rather than who they actually are, how can someone say just by looking at someone made them fall in love? love is about loving someone for everything they're not because they're beautiful or attractive its because you love them for all there faults and funny little quirks, if you think you love someone because you think they look really good, that is not love.

Do you think love at first sight exists, why do you, or not?

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  • Oh but on the contrary madame
    Actually I've had love at first sight
    Its actually everything you said but the opposite.

    It is about looks
    But within the first 30 mins you develop this equilibrium and connection so fast. Its an organic connection and energy that immediately feels as if you've known tbem for years and both wonder where the hell you've been for the last 10 years
    And it just continues to sky rocket at the speed of light until you are in love. Nothing will stop it. We even had distance between us like 6-8 hours for months lol didnmt stop it. It even happened again lol recently. Maybe im just a hopeless romantic though ya

    --> thats pretty much love at first sight
    --> an important note: love doesn't mean it will last. Lasting together forever takes more than love. I still love the girl im not with even though im not with her

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    • I think your description is very accurate, I touched on the concept of intuition. I totally agree.

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  • Nah. Many people fell in love at first sight and lived happily ever after. Real life is more bizarre than fiction.

    Most people underestimate love at first sight because a) they never witnessed it and b) they think people fall in love by looking at the face so it's shallow.

    It's not. People fall in love at first sight with unattractive people as well. This is not about looks it's rather about the person's aura/vibes/energy/whatever that heavily attracts you towards that person and you feel like you two are a perfect match. Some say that they fell in love by looking into their eyes. This can happen because eyes actually tell us a lot about the person.

    About a decade ago the news of a real couple went so famous in media. It was about a man who fell in love at first sight with a blind woman. He did not even know that she was blind until he contacted her family to send a marriage proposal for her. Even after he got to know that she is blind, he still wanted to marry her. They got married.

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  • Quite frankly in a certain regard you're correct and in another you're incorrect. Allow me to explain...

    Love at first sight does not exist. BUT two people can FALL IN LOVE at first sight. Being "in love" is a mental state bordering and sometimes overlapping on infatuation. It turns off the reasoning centers of your brain and prevents you from thinking logically about a person. Puppy love is I think something similar. Point being two people can have an interest and attraction to each other that borders on infatuation from the moment they first meet. Whether or not that's love is another matter partly dependent on what you define as love. If love is defined as a certain behavior and action then it's hypothetically possible to display that along with being in love from your first meeting of a person, if it turns out they compliment you well just as a person the relationship could go well and you could live a happy loving life together. I think that's the sort of thing "love at first sight" comes from.

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  • Weither love at first sight is or isn't your reality is totally fine. But i wouldn't go as far to say that it doesn't exist. Though it might not happen in your very existence doesn't mean its nit happening.
    I could say a person cannot tell if they want to sleep with said person upon first impression.
    Well one night stand is word. So obviously that debunks my argument. But in my reality i can't see that, i dont, nor do i like the idea.
    At 1st sight you can build this flawless image of said person and trick your mind into thinking he/she is the shit. When you mind and emotions are in play you start have feelings and build attraction.
    But thing is you have push yourself. Looks plays a factor. Much like speed dating you dont have enough to go off of besides looks and how they act.
    Example. Guy sees girl walking pass him. In a seconds he thought about how good she look, how successful she is, her body, how can you talk to her and more things. He is now drawn to her and already feel he knew her for years.
    Girls its different but simple. Meh, just sayin.

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  • About some time somebody admit this and said it! :-D I give you a big round of applause for this take!!

    @Unit1 Agreed?

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    • I do agree. I doubt true love even exists nowadays.

  • Nonverbal communication is a big deal; there have been times when, aside from features or specific attributes like face, ass, and waist size, there has been some indefinable draw to a person I see, something you can't put your finger on that feels both deeper and more powerful than mere appearance.

    It's the way she holds herself, that look on her face and in her eyes, the laugh and it's exact quality. Sometimes I can develop a powerful attraction to someone in less than several seconds.

    This attraction is the start of love. Real love requires work, it takes time, and there are a lot of elements of character that factor heavily into it, none of which can be seen at a glance.

    I believe that powerful, lasting love is built on a foundation of shared experience and compatibility.

    But that doesn't make that first-glance feeling shallow, meaningless, or merely about prettiness. It can be more than that.

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  • I agree. I've been infatuated with someone at first sight, but it didn't grow into something greater until I got to know her better.

    Sure, she was physically beautiful, but that's not who she was. I could have fallen in love with her just getting to know HER. The fact that she was gorgeous was just a bonus.

    Honestly though, what would I know? It was one-sided and ended up being the most toxic relationship I've had with another human being. All I know is that I still think of how things could have gone, years and years later.

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  • Indeed, love at first sight is implausible. It's basically saying you fell in love with each other for their looks. I've heard people say, "from the first time I looked into her eyes, I was in love" or "The first time I smiled at me, I knew we be together for ever".

    It's never, "the first time we spoke and I heard her/his thoughts on quantum mechanics and string theory, I was in love". Because that would involve actually getting to know the person's mind and critique your interest in each other before allowing yourself to become enthralled by each other's physical looks.

    Not to mention I think the divorce rate in America is a good indication that love at first sight, is infatuation at first sight. By the time the two people finally realize the type of person their in a relationship with, they've been married for some time.

    At any rate, I do hope to find love myself soon, but her physical looks are merely what will indicate that she takes care of herself and exercises. I want to know her personality, interests, and intellect.

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  • Love cannot happen at first sight.
    It is lust or attraction.
    Cuz love requires patience and commitment and compromise.

    If you are not ready to compromise and accept the weakness of the other person then you will never be in love.

    Also love is a journey and not a destination.

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  • It is possible.

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  • It's a very shallow concept, and I can't see how it can have any basis whatsoever in reality.

    I think it's romance, for the most part, people saying when they're in the honeymoon phase, that it was love at first sight.

    But as you correctly say, how can you know them, if you've only just seen them? Plenty of attractive people have a rotten core...

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  • I'd agree with your points, but I'd also add that a lot of people think they are experiencing love at first sight when they encounter someone who reminds them of a person they did love or fits the profile of their idealized love.

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  • I do believe in the concept of love at first sight. You can see someone from across a room and instantly have a connection with that person just of their aura and the way they carry about themselves. Many would say "we'll that's just lust and not love". But I disagree. Getting to know that person and falling "in love" a few months down the road just confirms and solidify your original feelings of LOVE when you first saw each other.

    So yes relationships may fail, but that doesn't mean the love you both shared wasn't real... And you can't erase the feelings you once had for someone , even if it doesn't go as planned. 😎

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    • I beileve you can feel drawn to someone and have mutural attraction, but that isn’t love 💕 love is something you feel after getting to know someone on a deeper level not just seeing them and liking there aura, what you felt before those months down the line was attraction and chemistry the love comes after.

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    • Ok I disagree lol, but understand why you’d class that as love, just that isn’t what love is to me that is just mutual attraction, if you never saw them again after seeing them that one time you thought you felt “love at first sight” I doubt you’re going to be thinking about them in years to come thinking you loved them because at that moment you did not.

    • You just prove my original point. Because a relationship doesn't workout. It doesn't mean the original feelings weren't real.

      My mom and dad were married for 35 years and she said it was love at first sight... So Boom! I win 😛

  • I agree.. Love at first sight is a silly notion really.. Now somebody said somethin about havin an instant connection with somebody, and I agree that that can happen.. But even that ain't love.. It means y'all just have a special connection that can easily lead to love..

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  • Love isn't at first sight, lust is at first sight.

    I don't know if I love a girl when I first see her. But I do know if I wanna go inside her. Love is something that only happens when you love what is really inside of them. Not sex, bad pun. I mean who their character is.

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  • I would argue that love, romantic love, at first sight could exist if sight was not the first thing. For example, say you live in an apartment complex. For whatever reason, everyone in the building is confined to their rooms. Some girl is playing angry piano in the apartment below some guy. He shouts and asks her to stop, yada yada yada they get angry at each other and then realize that they were incredibly rude, so they both apologize and have a conversation, all the while not seeing each other at all. They find they have everything in common from music taste to political and even religious beliefs. Then they see each other for the first time when they can leave their rooms, and they already know plenty about each other to love, and it's solidified when they find out that they're both gorgeous human beings, so they love each other at first sight.

    But yea I pretty much agree you can't really love someone's being if all you know about it is the shape of their body.

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  • I agree, people who claim it does have never experienced love. Because "first sight" without speaking to someone, means you make a judgement looks alone and that is lust.

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  • I understand & accept this is your personal opinion, but just because it was love at first sight does not necessarily mean it will be something lasting. Some people will experience love at first sight at a very intimate & deeper level than most people only because it was meant to only last for a short time to make that person believe that love exists & that they are deserving of such a love. Certain things happen in a way for a reason to which we may not know or could fully understand as to why it even happened in the first place whether in the moment or months after. I think that certain people have all sorts of experiences for how they come across the feeling of love with whomever they see & want or are with. I firmly believe we go through all kinds of relationships/dates/FWB until we can find such a person who makes all the pain & happiness complete worth it irregardless if it lasts. Of course we all wish things can last, that's where we have to put in the work to keep it going until death or the bitter end when for some they cannot go on because what they once had is diminished.
    I used to be such a person who would never say that love at first sight exists, until it did happen & then I put in the work. It was some of the best moments of my life & if I was not a risk-taker I would've completely missed the whole experience. Just my thoughts on the matter.

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  • Agreed... it is a false notion. There are many people that believe no genuine love can exist between woman and man , many men believe a woman is incapable of loving a man at all.

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    • thats sad, i think men are amazing.

    • Thank you for your appreciation !! Sadly , this mindset is growing among men of all age groups , but you will likely agree , feminist & other misandrist propaganda has poisoned the minds of girls / women , hence so many treat males like dirt... or even less !!

  • Being rare and it being impossible are two very different things. I also think it is rare, but I don't think it is impossible by any means.

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  • you take an analytical approach whereas love is very different. it is a bit like magic. it can happen in a blink and leave you wide-eyed and instantly under its spell. on hello, i was in love with my ex

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  • I think the phrase shouldn't be taken literally. True love at first sight only happens between a child that just born and its parents.

    In the case of romantic relationships it's different however taking it to literal in that context its a mistake. More than love it's attraction, and not physical, I think its a special kind that's related to specific behaviors and a specific personality we find very appealing.

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  • Here's my closest interpretation to "love at first sight" that I apply to myself:
    I met my current boyfriend in high school and immediately got a big crush on him. I felt like I had to have him or some kind of "destined to be together" feeling. Unfortunately, I already had a boyfriend that time. Years later, I met my crush again (this time, in college) and he later became my boyfriend. Now, 20+ years later since our 1st date, we're still very much in love with each other! We're now engaged to be married back in our homeland (USA) next year. I somehow feel I was meant to fall in love with him that 1st moment I saw him. <3

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  • I agree. I am head over heels innfatuated, lusting and sweet on the guy I am dating. Our 1st date was the beat date... ever. I have decided one day i want to marry this guy!! But it's only been 2.5 months. And i recognize, if I'm honest with me, thats not love. Love is built over time, with trust, and support during the crappy times. The fresh new date is fun and anyone can be a good mate on one of those. It's how he acts when you have a bad bout of diarrhea and you haven't cleaned the dishes in a week or wjen you run out of gas an hour away and call him for a ride. His reaction to those fun situations is a testament to his love. So i agree. It might be lust or even extremely like at first sight, but unlikely true love

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  • I know exactly one couple who had a love at first sight meeting where it worked out. They stayed together until she died of lung cancer a few years ago.

    So out of all the “it was love at first sight!!!” meet cutes in the world, that’s the only one that I know of where it worked.

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  • I agree with you... I do not think love at first sight exists.

    I guess it comes down to how people know they are in love. To me, love takes time, it takes knowing someone (inside and out) and knowing I will take all of them - the good and the bad. To me, that takes years.

    I do not trust people's judgment if they fall too soon and/or too quickly. I do not find falling soon to be a good thing. I think it shows a lack of good judgement, if I am honest about it.

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  • Until you experience it 1st hand - you will never believe it. It is possible and it is more than just about looks. You feel an instant connection with that person to where they feel like you've known them your entire life and you can talk to them about anything (which normally you can and do). Good luck to experiencing it yourself. When this happens, it's at the least moment you'd ever expect it to happen.

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    • I've felt this. At the least expected moment. We both did. But
      distance :(

    • Well, that's a connection not "love" at first sight per say.. But I do agree that this can happen.. Love always requires growth...

  • I thought think its love at first "sight" like most people here. I genuinely believe it's something physiological that attracts us to one another. For example, have you ever seen a ridiculously sexy woman, but don't wanna date her? Have you ever seen a cute girl or a decent looking one and can't get her out of your mind? There is something working deeper than just physical attraction working in my opinion.

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    • I get that logic actually I agree, but I don't think that feeling is love, but I agree that feeling isn't always only about looks.

    • Yea I get what you are saying. I guess it's the closest description to say "love at first sight"

  • Well duh.. I don't know anybody who really thinks they can fall in love with someone from just looking at them. You migt think it's love when it's really just attraction.

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  • Yes it exist. But it is not allowed and not accepted and you get rejected. But it does exist even it makes many people extremely jealous.

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  • I disagree. I believe that love at first sight does it. I've felt it three times, and I'm still with the third person.

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  • Nice take

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  • Love at first sight exist. And it is from God.
    People who are anti the law of God are satanists they like to control people what and what not to do. :)

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  • Well said. Love isn't something that just pops out of nowhers, it grows slowly and need constant nurturing from both sides to thrive.

    Good Take.

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  • I don't think it does, I feel it happens once you get to know someone and you get over the initial lusting (well for me when I fall in love the lusting goes up a little bit 😋) because you know them and you love them for everything. My husband said he felt it when he first saw me, and that he'd had a vision of me before we met and it sounds so sweet and I love it, I just feel bad it wasn't the same at first sight for me. I think you can fall in love very quickly, that's happened to me where I was going to stop even talking to this guy but a few months later I realized I was hopelessly in love with him. Back to the first sight, there's people that catch your eye that your body instinctively is attracted to but I have never fallen in love just by looking at someone

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  • This is true, especially if you are drunk ;)

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  • I totally agree!! You can't fall in love with a person's appearance, love is based on an emotional connection you share with another person, and their mind and soul. It has ALMOST nothing to do with their looks. Appearance CAN affect sexual attraction, but so can a powerful mental/emotional connection (or lack thereof).

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  • FRICK! FINALLY!

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  • I sort of disagree.

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  • I think it's more attraction/lust at first sight than actual love. But i do believe we can feel deeply attracted to someone we just met, and feel some kind of bond or connection with them (whether they feel it too it's a different story! Although i'd like to believe they do)

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    • "But i do believe we can feel deeply attracted to someone we just met, and feel some kind of bond or connection with them"
      absolutely i've felt this, but i know it isn't love as i don't really know them.

    • And sometimes it's better when you don't. Once you know something about them that you don't like too much, it's like all that energy suddenly dies and it leaves you feeling empty for a bit.

    • Yes, i've felt that too lol.

  • Love at first sight does not exist. It is just myth. I agree with you.
    Love grows by time. You get to know them you like them as they are. You like them more despite their crazy habits. Now that is love:)

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  • Yeah you're right it doesn't ...

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