Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

I used 'gay' for the title, but I mean every teen who is LGBT+.

Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

Yes, You're Old Enough to Know

People say that teenagers are too young to know their sexual orientation or whether or not they're in love. But they're old enough to be deciding what career and degree and life they want to have forever? How convenient.

Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

Homophobic/Transphobic Parents are Not Okay

This might seem dumb, but I know lots of teens are criticized so much by their parents for being LGBT that they feel inadequate and horrible and wrong. But you're not wrong. Yes, your parents may have religious reasons or something, but they aren't valid reasons.

Your mother should not be able to say "I don't care the gender as long as the baby's healthy I will love them" before going into labour for 8+ hours but then 17 years later kick their daughter Jessica out of the house because she was born a Justin.

Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

You're Valid

So what if you don't know what you are? So what if you're trans but don't pass as your gender? It doesn't make you any less LGBT. It doesn't matter what your label is. And if you do have a lot of labels? Well, congratulations on figuring yourself out!

Its okay to be confused. Its okay if you're a trans guy but used to identify as a lesbian, or a trans lesbian who used to identify as a gay cis guy. It's not uncommon for gay trans people to have felt gay before they knew they were trans. It doesn't mean you're faking or anything like that, and you're not alone.

It's fine to question your identity. You have your whole life to figure it out.

Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

It's Okay to be In the Closet

Sure, it sucks pretending to be straight/cis, but sometimes it is necessary. Don't force yourself to come out if you live in an extremely homophobic community/family. It will make your life worse in the long run. Coming out should not be held as a higher priority than not getting kicked out of your house.

But please remember: To all the queer kids who are in the closet on a day that really focuses in on couples...it is not always going to be this way. Someday you're going to boldly hold hands with your partner on Valentine's Day and be cutesy cliche with candy hearts and flowers. You're going to be okay.

Things Gay Teens Ought to Know

The road to LGBT has never been straight:)


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  • Thanks for sharing. More kids need to know they're accepted

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    • You've kids?

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    • Is that your job? Or part of your job?

    • @Political_dude It was/is. I used to work at a locked-door psychiatric facility which was very hands on. We had floors for geriatric, child/adolescent, general adult, and high acuity patients. I worked on all the floors with a wide variety of people.

      Since I moved across the country I am now working at a youth home for children/ adolescents who've been displaced, basically for one reason or another they've no home to go to.

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  • I'm sick hearing about LGBTGAGDHFJAJSHXYZ

    Give us all a break. You're all over the news. You're shoving all your 'rights' in my face. Constantly crying about how you're so hard done by.

    This is all just one big political agenda... wake up! Want to cull a population? Convince all of those who might be a little/confused and impressionable to come out of the closet. SNAP. Population problem solved.

    And you all think it's your own choice, maybe take a look at your society, propaganda and government and you'll see they've opened every trap door for you.

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  • great take. hopefully both LGBT and non-LGBT teens see this

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  • https://i.imgur.com/CoWZ05t.gif
    The philosophy of "being gay" is extremely flawed and problematic when it is taken beyond the confines of a simple dictionary definition and when morphed into an entire identity that dictates your life.
    And not to mention unnecessary.

    Simply recognising a characteristic you have such as being an introvert is completely fine but morphing it into an ideology is ridiculous.

    Pressuring young people into these ill-defined, arbitrary and divisive groups and further sub groups, indirectly forcing them to adopt an identity which dictates their sexual behaviour alienates and confuses them and can be harmful and poses many problems.

    You're a human being, that's good enough. You don't need a post modernist socially construed identity to have self worth or to be valid as a person.

    Gay pride is also quite silly. Assuming you're born gay, what is there to be proud of? How can you be proud of something you have no control over (supposedly)? And if this pride is due to persecution, then those who have not faced persecution have no reason to be proud.

    Don't tell kids to disobey their parents, kids don't know shit, they're naive and immature. "Religious reasons or something are not valid reasons? How so?

    Also the T should not be part of LGB, it's a completely different issue and is not solely based on same sex attractions.

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    • The whole LGBT+ thing happened because society doesn't treat people as human beings who are good enough. It has taught people that they *do* have control over sexual orientation and that they should be ashamed of not being straight. That's where Gay Pride comes in - turning shame into pride.

      Have you not been listening for the past 20 years?

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    • Oh, sorry - I should have clarified. I was referring to the American Psychological Association and the American Psychiatric Association. These are basically the authorities when it comes to this subject, for the United States.

      Now your turn - tell us a couple of groups of scientists who think it's a choice.

    • Social constructs have real effects. Self inflicted wounds are still wounds nonetheless. Homophobia, racism, sexism, etc. are some of society's self inflicted wounds that are rooted in established norms that fail to incompetence the range of human diversity. That and the shittyness of terrible people.

      You are right in saying that that problem lies in what has been socially constructed as norms. However, you are wrong if you think the effects are any less real. Acceptance of people's differences can only lead to the total end of things like homophobia, then and only then can the labels be disregarded. However, until said time "gay" people are going to have navigate the world as it is for them are treating it like a social utopia that it just isn't yet won't help. "gay" people don't let homophobia affect their lives, it just that it really does affect their lives.

  • I always find it funny how people like you dismiss others views as invalid only to ask these same people to accept yours and then call them homophobic/transphobic when they don't (the same way you referred to unaccepting parents).

    Not supporting/being against LGBT is okay and shouldn't be forced down others throat like a religion.

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  • Omg...
    It depends on how much you don't like gays.
    Being homophobic means to show that you hate them.
    When you just don't want to be one, you're not homophobic.
    When you don't like them, you're not homophobic.
    When you hate them, you're a kinda homophobic.
    When you bully gays in public, you're homophobic.
    When you murder someone because he's gay, you're very homophobic.

    It's so clear. Just read the definition 😒🙄

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  • It's odd how you believe people are born homosexual, yet people are also born as male and female too. So people are not born a transgender.

    You equate that if they're born a homosexual, then that's right. That's how they're born.

    What about you're born a male or born a female, so you're born right too?

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  • to the whole gay community if it is normal to be gay why do you think or feel you have to defend or explain yourselves to us non gays? Think about that? Let me answer that for you because it's wrong. Listen you'll never hear us explaining Or defending ourselves to anyone about our sexuality unless it's a gay person trying it hit on us. Get the fuck outta here...

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  • Just because gay people in general have it so much better than my generations youth, doesn't mean they have it easy, so good on you for trying to reassure them.

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  • As a teacher of teens, I know PLENTY of students that are LGBT. I have a transgender student & an openly gay student in my class as I type this!

    Not a big deal

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  • I wonder who people think they are to tell "in-the-closet gay peopl" that they are "valid" and "valuable" and so on. They aren't God, after all - just another guy/gal. Therefore, your opinion carries no weight (unless you're talking to somebody close to you, of course).

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  • Actually it is not at all uncommon to feel sexual attraction toward both sexes during puberty, and then have it recede in the later teens into boring, uncontroversial heterosexuality.

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  • Well said.
    It's encouraging to see this , hopefully all LGBT and questioning youths can see this as a step in the right direction and not be afraid of the unknown.

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  • They should also know that moving to Japan would be better, the people there are more accepting of lgbt because they have been corrupted by western religions.

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  • Good mytake, people from the LGBTQ community should be accepted worldwide

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  • Thank you. At the end of the day, I never understood how parents couldn't accept their children.

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  • You forgot to tell them about Gods commanded view... and the ramifications of their decisions they make otherwise. How convenient...

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  • Phobia by definition is a hatred, using it as a fear is a bit of a bastardization but there is such a thing as homophobia. Also, you don't grt to tell people they are not afraid of gays.

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  • You are going to get flak for this take, but not from me, good take

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  • Gay teens having anal sex for the first time. Use lots of lube. I'm more inclined for homosexuals to get castrated.

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    • If they naturally like men, there is no societal advantage to including homosexuals into a eugenics program.

  • I disagree about trans people. In my opinion it is possible to determine if you're gay or lesbian in teenage years but not if you're trans. I knew I like girls since I was 6 but teenage years are hella wavy. When I was 15, at some point I felt I'm a girl trapped in a male body but after 2 years now I'm damn sure I'm straight and it is impossible for me to even watch gay porn.

    Those are static decisions. And of course if you say you're trans at that point then you'll go under gender surgery in which they also pump female Hormones in your body. So even if you're straight or slightly homo, you don't really have option or control over your sexual feelings

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  • "Yes, You're Old Enough to Know"

    No, you're not.

    "People say that teenagers are too young to know their sexual orientation or whether or not they're in love. But they're old enough to be deciding what career and degree and life they want to have forever? How convenient."

    Whoever said they were ready for that either? Careers don't really unfold until well in one's twenties... and that was starting to be true 30 odd years ago!

    The fact remains: A Hell Of A Lot happens between 16 and 26. So when teenyboppers tell me "they know" they are gay, I roll my eyes. A hell of a lot of changes are a-coming. Just saying...

    On the other hand, if you think you are gay at 25? Yah, you are.

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    • See I disagree. I knew I liked boys from the age of 3. I don't see why gay teens would be any different. I think it's got more to do with the fluidity of sexuality as a whole but why does it matter, like a girl, like a guy does it have to matter?

    • Like everything else in life, it's possible to not know something about yourself until later in life. It's also possible to know it from the get-go. These two things aren't mutually exclusive. I think the OP's point is that if you know you're gay when you're young then you shouldn't doubt yourself. That doesn't mean everybody knows their orientation when they're a child.

      Besides, who are you to tell someone else what their sexual orientation is? You aren't them, and you don't know.

  • I'm straight and I find gay men and gay sex disgusting
    And I don't mind if gay men find me or straight people disgusting in general

    But to call me a "homophobe" over it is ridiculous...
    Call the ones that openly hate and kill gays in 3rd world countries as homophobes and explain it to them
    Not to people in civilized societies who are simply saying "I don't give a fuck if you're lgbtq+"

    And since people like you want to implant their ideas on how parents must treat their kids, and when people like you sit in positions of authority and make it difficult for proper parenting and family life, no wonder parents don't want to raise kids or even have any... just look at the dropping birth rates

    It's one thing to raise kids, it's another to constantly be careful about raising them because the government keeps sticking it's ugly nose into family business
    That is Marxism at it's finest, which destroys the fundamental building block of society, which is a family

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  • This is an interesting issue. Namely because it crosses into so many others.

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  • Homophobia: Fear of homos?

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  • There are only two genders

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  • Very interesting

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  • I'm a gay teen

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  • Nice post.

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  • Great take

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  • Thanks for sharing

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  • Thank you

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  • I personally do not see why some people discriminate against LGBT. I am not part of the community myself, but I, one, do not bat an eye to anyone who is, and two, don't give a fuck what sexuality you are. If you are a person, you deserve to live a happy, healthy life. The heart wants what it wants.

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  • Self acceptance of who you are is good. As for the parents who don't believe that, it doesn't matter if they spent 8hrs or 8 days delivering you- there expectations is what overrides all at the end of the day.

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  • i really feel for those growing up in strict religious households. i mean some still accept them, but most don't. always thought the shit was contradicting and hypocritical, since most religions are meant to be acceptance and to help and love others. lol but that's only if criteria is met

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  • I want them all to know they are loved and accepted and that there is even homosexuality in the animal kindgom. It's OK and nothing to be ashamed of. You love a PERSON not a gender.

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  • Thanks for discussing this. I support the LGBT+ community and it's people, even though I am straight. There is no reason to judge. Great myTake. Thanks, and I hope you get lots of likes :D

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  • Does it make you homophobic if you don’t like gays?

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    • depends how you dont like them

      if you believe what they're doing is wrong (dating the same gender), no it doesn't. if you believe they should be beaten to death, locked up, and have nothing, then yes it would

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    • @MsLoli that has nothing to do with what I asked but okay. I was just curious.

    • NO IT DOES NOT!!!

  • Okay, bullying anyone is wrong. Homosexual or not. That's clear.

    But, same as gay people have the right to not want to be straight, we have the right to not want to be lesbians/gays.
    Same as we can't say "your love is invalid and not real ", you can't say our reasons are invalid, because to us they are valid and real. As simple as that. To each their own. If you don't accept homosexuality as an idea, it doesn't mean you're homophobic.

    Im Not with homosexuality but I would NEVER harm anyone for being like that. Hell, I wouldn't even make them feel like they are anything other than human. But don't force me to accept it cos I won't.

    They can't be forced to be straight and, straight people can't be forced to be gay or accept it. (that DOESN'T mean we can harm each other in any way tho)

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  • I’m a lesbian, but no one knows. I’ll have to stay in the closet a bit longer.

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  • Nobody says your not a valid person, nobody really says anything about y'all. You do whatever YOU want, but don't be trying to confuse kids further, or be as vulgar and gross as some or most lgbt+ are. Can y'all just go live whatever lifestyle u want without trying to make some sort of statement about acceptance, because frankly, every person has their opinions, and can decide for themselves about anything and everything, because they're adults. But definitely leave kinds out of everything. Your not born gay, you were born hearing something that made u want to be gay.

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  • thanks for making a great take

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  • I really needed that. Thanks. <3

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  • Thank you for thisss

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  • wow, cool take

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  • Love the last part!

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  • Wonderful take:)

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  • Good

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  • Very important

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  • I totally agree with this mytake. Good job

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  • Let people be attracted to whoever they want. Nothing is wrong with being LGBT

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  • Thanks.

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  • I wouldn't kick my kid out if she/he was gay but no I wouldn't support it.

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  • Thank you.

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