Other girls are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them.
Personally for me, I have once been a very insecure girl. Very much to the point of jealousy and competition. Even to this day. Recently, I saw a very beautiful YouTuber and her makeup was always done so perfectly in each of her pictures, her hair was my ideal length, and she had hundreds of thousands of active, positive, happy, uplifting and engaging followers and supporters always telling her how pretty she is. Of course, and I'd hate to admit- but it honestly made me a little jealous. I began to doubt myself and nitpick at all of my flaws. I began to see myself as less... because I don't have 100k followers or subscribers on YouTube and I don't get swarms of comments every day and I can't do my makeup as perfectly and effortlessly as she can. I began to see myself as worthless and inadequate. I began to doubt that I'll ever be as good as her.
But then I've realized.... she is actually my inspiration!! She's the woman I wish to be like someday, the role model I want to be for younger girls one day. I started to adjust to the idea that perhaps someday my makeup will look as beautiful as hers, maybe someday I will have a positive, uplifting and loving fanbase, and one day I will perhaps reach 100k subscribers on Youtube and have a larger follower count. That someday, my hair will be down to my waist, I will have crystal clear skin and a thinner body, (although I weigh like 130 pounds 😅). I began to replace those nitpicky, negative thoughts with positive, endearing, and happy thoughts. Once I started to develop those positive attributes in my mentality, I have slowly noticed my insecurity beginning to fade, and I begin to let go of that unhealthy mindset, that is:
"The beauty and talent of someone else is the absence of our own."
For beginners... you should never have to question your own beauty and your own worth just for admiring someone else's, because you never know what insecurities that "someone else" could be dealing with themselves. The beauty and talents of someone else is not ever the absence of your own. Sure, they could inspire you. But you should never admire someone else and question your own, simultaneously.
I've adapted a brand new, positive outlook on things by accepting that someone else's positive attributes does not subtract from our own. We are each beautifully made in our own special and unique way. We don't need to compete with one another or feel insecure about ourselves simply because we see more positive attributes in someone else than we see in ourselves. If you see a pretty girl, just smile and accept that you're just as pretty as she is. A little complimenting won't hurt also; because you just might receive the same love right back, which will ultimately boost your self esteem of course ☺️ Because, c'mon, a really beautiful girl complimenting another really beautiful girl? It's just double the love! 💕👸🏼🌷✨
I've recently heard of a very popular quote, which genuinely applies to this take:
"Other girls are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them."
This quote is absolutely so beautiful, and a true symbol of girl love. I think that we should all stand together instead of against each other and competing with one another. It's un-ladylike to be negative and bitter, especially towards other girls. Please spread love and positivity, because whatever you put out into the universe will always come back to you, whether positive or negative. 💓