I'm kinda to people because I don't like being mean. Unless someone has pissed me off already or acted like a dick, I'm generally afraid to say or do anything that could be offensive. I hate hate hate hurting feelings. After an interaction with a stranger I wonder "wow I hope I was nice enough?" I don't know I just hate when I'm snubbed by people or they are rude, I would spread some happiness because that feeling when a total stranger is super sweet is amazing. That's why I'm kind, I guess. Oh, and I like giving stuff to hobos because I feel bad for them, it's also why I volunteer places. So don't be so cynical... some people might be kind for bad reasons but I'd say most people are empathetic human beings enough to be kind because WE'RE ALL PEOPLE
I'm kind and everything until the person stop using common sense. Like this one chick on gag. Asked is this a sign, he looked at me for 6 seconds. I went clean fk off and told her don't get all wet over signs and etc. all feed backs I got was " harsh" " I got feels you know." And etc. I'm kind and being lv 5 I have my fair share of telling it like it is and not being so kind. I can't speak for everyone else motives though but I guess that there's 3 types of gagers1kind, solve, and go2 horny and go3 kind for attention proposes.
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Very good question. U r right. There are a lot of people who do charity and humanitarian gestures only bcoz others are watching. One of the Indian proverbs says that "the right hand should not know what the left hand is doing," which means that we shouldn't keep track of what favors we do. Doing favors to get an ego boost is not a pure act, and will not achieve the intended purpose as the doer's focus is more on maintaining a good reputation than helping others.
It depends. If it feels like the person's kinda forcing their "kindness" onto you, it's an ego boost and they usually have issues going on underneath the surface. But some people out there are truly well intended and just wish to help.
both. people are kind because they want to help; they are also kind because helping others makes them feel better about themselves. there is no such thing as -true- altruism, imo.
What if you have struggled. You sympathise when you see people struggling- you want to ease their stress.I know plenty of people like that, myself included. Like, helping others to feel good about yourself is one thing.But helping others, because you see they need that help and then feeling good, as a secondary (unintended) result, it's completely different, no?
@Mgoods someone just inboxed me with the same idea. that -is- different. and definitely less clinical than the approach i took. :p
Haha, yaaay! See, these people exist!!!And my mother is the most charitable person I have ever known. She's had a hard life, so she doesn't think twice about helping anyone she can. Even if she can't, she will find a way- even if it costs her a lot.I get it from ma mama! ^_^
@Mgoods my mom is the same way. she goes out of her way to help others. i try to be like her... clearly a work-in-progress :p i kind of answered this question with more cynicism than was called for lol
I understand, it's easy to lose faith in humanity, at times :)
i think they are kind because its popular. en.wikipedia.org/.../Lawrence_Kohlberg's_stages_of_moral_developmentim a stuck up highschooler taking psychology and i clearly know everything there is to know ever.
kind is popular? what world do you live on lol, so i can join. People are mostly decent, in REALITY... online, not so much. stop overthinking
im talking about "kind" as in social norm but not real kindness
i doubt kind is the right word to use. Kind is rare. Decent, on the other hand, is what you should use. and yes there are very many decent people. and NO, it doesn't give anyone an ego boost to be kind/decent. Its more a "treat others how you would like to be treated" thing...
i didn't know that i dont have much social experience even at my age. that helps much
you are very welcome. and if you want more clarification. You sound nice/kind/decent... you are probably that way to others.. does it boost YOUR ego? or is it just because you don't want someone else to be an absolute douche to you in return...
u didn't leave a question mark is that a statement about me or a question? im a truly kind person but i follow social norms and i try to be nice. i do kind things out of my good heart but sometimes i will not want to help someone put a stroller into a city transit car train because I've done it so much and everyone always expects me the good looking guy to do it. well what i mean to say is i do it from something inside and not external validation.
i know that. it seemed redundant. exactly.. so you understand it then. and we all do it because you hope to meet someone similar.
Some people, like me, actually are kind =) I got no reason to fake it, because thats just a part of who i am. (in case you're wondering, people told me i am kind, so thats how i know i am kind) =D
I'm actually kind. Why keep score? I always hope my kindness to them will be a "pay it forward" kind of thing. We all need to help each other but not to a point you're being taken advantage of.
Some people are truly kind and some people put on a show.
Some people are actually kind, others are kind out of a selfish desire for praise.
This is a rehash of the old questions does a purely altruistic act help, people have been debating for centuries and the still don't know
It's not popular lol. You can always tell when someone is faking it.
Hmm interesting. I would say both. There are people that fake it and pretend to be kind for various reasons. There are other people who are actually genuine and empathize with people and want to help and do something. For example if I donate stuff or money its because I want to and feel strongly for whatever it is and because I want to help people and way I can because I consider myself lucky to have what I have. On the other hand I can help someone with directions because I like to make myself feel better and competent. Does that makes sense? Thats kinda how I see it.
yes! and for me im kind i love helping ppl.. i feel good when i do that
I want to help and be kind but I get too shy sometimes because when I do my friends would tease me about it. And I find it hard to approach strangers specially the people on the streets so I'll just walk to them awkwardly and hand them food then silently walk away.
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