I felt underestimated almost everytime in the past. But, i decided to grow on my confidence to speak and act with confidence. Then, people started to listen to me. What you think of yourself is more important than what people think of you. Sway them to your thinking..Dont give up.. Its a process :)
I have just found at urban dictionary the meaning of "sway" but i couldn`t get it. You mean, make them think I`m really not an average guy? And yes you are right, as long as I think myself as great, that`s more important if they don`t acknowledge me. I don`t want to brag about but those people are really overrated, they are not better than me, on the contrary they are not like me
I mean if u believe strongly tht u r gd enough, u will b able to get people to think the same way as u do. Instead build up ur own confidence and dont b dependent on wht people say or doesn't not say about u. U r good without or with anyone's acknowledgment
thank you for advice Lightblue, you are right, I don`t owe anyone anything... I don`t have to prove anything to anyone... the only thing i need to do is building up my confidence, and fuck what the others think of me
Yes build ur confidence with the best version of urself.. Then, u will suddenly find how awesome u r. Those people who dont appreciate who u r, dont mind them coz u know u r awesome!
thank you for this advice... now that i'm rereading this i can proudly tell to you i have improved my confidence a lot through these years
People who know me personally know better then to underestimate me and if they do well I'll prove em wrong.
how do you prove them wrong?
That depends on what they underestimated me on.
Have an opinion?
show them how bloody wrong they are, thats what i do.
sorry my English is not my first language but what do you mean by "bloody wrong"? this implies in some sort of violence or something?
haha no. its just slang, sorry.the bloody didn't need to be there. it's kinda a replacement for 'fcxking'. if that helps.
Show them you are not to be underestimated. Stop being a pushover and be more dominant. Show them what you are capable of, if you really think you are being underestimated. Don't take shit from anyone.
How being more dominant and less pushover? Some examples?
Prove them wrong. Or, tune them out. Or, find a new crowd. Or, withdraw yourself and find satisfaction from within.
What means "tune them out"? Finding a new crowd it`s not available unless I move from this place. Telling you the truth it has been a long time that I want to live another place, even abroad like US or Canada or England
Tuning them out like, not caring about what they say. In a way trying to make their words have less impact by making them less important figures in your mind.Moving abroad would be a good move. Like studying in an overseas university instead of your home country (is it Japan?). But of course, overseas isn't perfect too, you have to adapt to the mild social segregation of Asians vs westerners too.
I see, I need to do that, to make other people less important figures in my mind. Thinking this deep I don`t know why I place some couple of people I know as a big deal in my head when I`m clearly superior than them, they are just piece of garbage which does not have the talents that I have, cannot have a great vision of life and so many things why really bother?So i will be isolated again even if I move abroad? But I`m already a bit used to it, so that`s not a big deal. Well at least this changes the environment I`m used to, and maybe meet a pretty blonde chick! lol
I don't understand why too. I was bullied in the past too, and i also can't help but get affected by the taunts either. Even though they were not important people I should care about. Even though I know their own life is going to be a worse mess than mine a few years down the road.I wouldn't say you'd definitely be isolated. I haven't spent time abroad myself, but I know many Asian friends who bonded across nationalities over there with other Asian coursemates. It would be best if they had American or european friends too, but racial/cultural gaps are a bit hard to cross. And well, if Asians go overseas for degree studies, because of the effort, cost and uncertainty they tend to be more of the studying type who cares about their future and are mild-mannered, than the rowdy type.
thank you for the advices before a possible coming to America and i will try to not be so much nerdy and study all the day lol
I don't do anything at all. I know my worth, it's their problem, not mine.
Try harder, then dismiss their opinion as irrelevant.
i would prove them wrong by challenging them!
Prove them wrong.
yeah i'm doing it
In what way? Prove them wrong, within reason. Or ignore them. Or use that as motivation to prove something to myself, regardless of whether or not they see it.
It`s difficult to explain in which way, I mean in some certain social situation. It seems people does not give so much relevance to what I say or seems to even put me down. For example, this weekend I have arrived late at a party, and then when I came to the 2 guys that were at the front of the house, one of the guys just said: "why are you coming here? what are you doing here now?" sort of some people don`t want my presence around
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