- Yes, it is.Vote A
- No, it isn't.Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
First, don't compare things you can't change. Accept it and move on.
Second, compare a whole package, not just one aspect. You may be chubby, but you can be excelled in computer engineering that employers'd love to hire you. Good look can gain you an edge, but you gotta make your brain and personality attractive and cool. Physically attractive people suck if they're hollow inside.
Lastly, choose your comparison "battle", and be ready to lose, because people are awesome. Not JUST because they are super pretty or own expensive things they got from their parents. It's because they know how to build the awesomeness from their activities, their habits, and their passions. Compare things that matter.
Plus, comparison is time- and energy-comsuming. Spend them on yourself! Comparison is healthy only when you do so to your past selves. I hope you see improvement.
A simple experience is already a good gain. Doesn't have to be useful. It is valuable just by itself.2
Most Helpful Girl
I've always been a strong believer in not comparing yourself to others. Everyone is different, has a different life situation, a different mindset, different preferences etc. Comparing yourself to someone else is therefore pointless, because you have such different starting points.
Think of it as being good at drawing. Some people have more of a natural gift for it; seeing shapes/sizes and being able to draw them out nicely, getting a hang of it rather quickly. Others have to work a bit harder to become good at drawing. But in general, I feel like practicing is what makes or breaks an artist. You will never get better if you don't spend hours upon hours of doodling, studying your own work, looking at what you're doing wrong and what you're doing right.
You won't get better at drawing if you just sit back and envy other people's artwork, and compare their drawings to yours. You won't get better at drawing if you feel defeated just because someone else is better at it than you.
What has really helped me as an artist, is taking a look at what my art looked like a couple of years ago, and comparing it to what it looks like now. Not only do I actually get to *see* myself evolve and become better, but it's also a massive confidence boost to focus on just myself and the progress I'VE made.
That's why I'm a strong believer in simply competing with yourself. To strive to become the best version of you that you can be. To compare yourself to the past you, and to look forward to the changes and progress you can make in the future.
Can you use other people as inspiration? Absolutely! And that's fine, it can even be healthy. But you can be inspired by someone without comparing yourself to them, without feeling as though they're better/prettier/smarter/more talented than you.
So, like I said, comparing yourself to someone else won't really help you in the long run. What will help you, though, is to study yourself and the work you do, to look at the progress you've made and to set up achievable goals for yourself in the future.0