People are always asking me and my other friend who's also black why we never hang out with other black girls. They never ask other kids in the school this. They say it like we're obligated to hang out with only females within our race. Now I don't have a problem with black people. The reason I don't really talk to them is because they usually don't really like me or I just can't really vibe with them. They also give my friend Laura a disgusted look when they find out she only hangs with black females. If I go into the store, I have someone staring down my back. They must think I have no money and my intentions are to steal. If I don't talk with Ebonics, people say I sound like I'm white. My real hair is medium length. It's more on the long side. It's almost to the middle of my back. It's shiney also because I perm it and straighten it. People tell me I'm lying about my hair length and that it's impossible for my hair to be as long as it is and that I must have some sort of extensions added. And I especially get judged because I don't really fit in the black stereotypes like being loud, violent, and whatever black stereotypes there are. If I voice my opinion people assume that I must have an attitude problem or I'm mad. Black boys don't wanna date us because "we're too crazy." Why can't people stop judging me so much based off what they know? I just wanna live already without being judged.
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On the bright side, you are now able to discern whom to befriend and whom to ignore.
You are not obligated to answer them or respond to them. If you contemplate about responding to them and the conversation would not be, in any way, enlightening, then you have to do your part by treating their words as dull arrows to your impenetrable shield.2