The first part of the question is an unconditional "yes." There is a veritable mountain of data to support the proposition that children do best with a father (and mother) in the home. On the second part, there is not any really clear data that I have ever seen, though it may stand to reason as a logical extrapolation.
On the first part, Dr. Warren Farrell in his book, "The Boy Crisis" has illustrated that, particularly for boys, a male role model is absolutely essential. Fathers tend to be stricter - more black or white - about rules and this channels the overflowing testosterone in boys, helping them to manage their aggressive instincts and control their feelings.
The effects of this are pronounced. Boys with fathers in the home do better in school, have fewer disciplinary problems, are less likely to run afoul of the law, are better at holding down jobs and have higher incomes. They are also more likely to form stable romantic relationships.
Indeed, there is even something of a historical perspective to this. African-American boys in the Jim Crow era were relatively close to the average in terms of academic accomplishments, employment and other factors. (This allowing for the obvious effects of institutionalized discrimination.) In fact, divorce rates were below the national average.
Unfortunately, the initial Great Society programs that came in with the civil rights movement - separate phenomena but more or less parallel in time - made no allowance for families. A woman who was alone needed more benefits and got more benefits than a married woman with a wage earning man in the home. This undermined the economic need for men in the home and divorce, single parenthood and spousal abandonment soared and with it illegitimacy rates and thus the number of boys being raised in single parent - female run - homes.
In due course, the Great Society programs were adjusted and the "marriage penalty" was adjusted, but the damage was done and illegitimacy and divorce rates remain above the national average to this day. As night follows day, crime, delinquency and drug addiction and a whole plethora of social pathologies have followed.
Mothers are necessary, of course. However, they tend to be more empathetic than rules oriented and this does nothing to help a boy channel his emotions and discipline himself.
With girls, the situation is a bit more complicated. With lower testosterone levels, the issue is not so much aggression and such. Rather, it is searching for a model for how a man ought treat a woman.
Girls learned how to be treated by men by the principle man in their lives - their fathers. When a small girl sees her father treat her mother respectfully and is protective of the girl herself, this becomes her normalized standard for what male-female relationships ought to be.
In a home where there is no father or the male is in some sense dysfunctional, the girl is apt to internalize the wrong behavioral lessons. She is thus left to the tender mercies of males who, themselves having often been raised sans a male role model, are seeking sex or will otherwise treat the woman in ways that are, to say no more, less than ideal.
Thus are many of the culture's social pathologies born. Though it should be stressed that this is only a partial explanation of an infinitely more complex phenomena. It turns out that evolution knew something that the social engineers did not. Children need both parents and the social trends that placed the emphasis on women - in part, to be fair, to compensate for prior cultural injustices that had been done to women - has proved a ticking time-bomb in terms of its unintended effects.
The problem, of course, is now that social patterns have been broken, it is very difficult to reassemble them. It remains to be seen if humpty dumpty can be put back together again.
I think it's possible to turn out completely fine with a single parent or same sex parents, but it's a huge advantage having a good mother and father. When you've two parents of different genders, you get to learn about the different gender's perspective and often they can help you in different ways. Daughters may prefer to ask their mothers about period advice, while sons may ask their father about male problems. I think it would be embarassing for daughters to have two fathers when they're on their period, because of they've no female to ask at home. Both the mother and the father are normally equally important. Single mothers and fathers may be equally good or bad.
Having a father and mother figure in the home is extremely important for child development. So that they can learn a healthy balance between the feminine and the masculine. Mom helps a boy grow into a man who is compassionate about his family and when to show the softer sides of himself when it's needed. Dad helps a boy grow into a man by showing what it is to be man, and that's by having honor, leadership, and pride and what he does. Not telling him to never cry, but teaching him to know the right moments to express emotions in level headed manner instead of always going off the rails. Obviously either one of things can teach these things, however women can't really teach a boy what it's like to be a man cause we're women and men can't teach their daughters how to women either. That's why both the sexes are important.
Mother's and fathers each play a different role in their children's upbringing and help create a family dynamic that the child will grow up in.
Discipline and obedience are some things I certainly wouldn't have had without a father - along with perseverance, and cooperativeness - among others. Maternal love, cooking skills, sowing, and politeness are some of the things I learnt from my mother.
A child needs both a mother and father to be well rounded, but not all those who grow up without them are sex workers and criminals - just a greater number of them.
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u There are many statistics about the deficits of children raised in single parent homes. Yes, kids need a mother and a father, not just a mom, not just a dad, not two dads, and not two moms.
a child needs a stable role model whether that is a father or 2 or a mother...
some guys and women aren't cut out to be parents, and as a result become unhealthy role models who can contribute to a child's view on life
I have to disagree that fathers tend to do a better job, as the fact remains single fathers and mothers tend to be on even footing where capability is concerned... i have known both single fathers and single mothers and they are some of the strongest people i know, but i have known some who aren't equally as such, and even some couples who are the worst parents...
Whatâs more important than anything is that their parents are role models. If any member of the family is abusive or cruel, they need to go. It doesnât matter if they are the mother or father; if they are not doing their role as a protective, loving parent, the child would be better off without them. So yes, while a woman may think sheâs completely capable of raising a child all on her own, it would certainly be a lot healthier for the child to have a male âparentâ, even if they are not their biological parent, having a stepfather who is a good role model and good with kids will help the mother and child a ton. The same goes for the opposite effect. A child needs to learn from BOTH sexes, which is also why I donât believe that gay couples should raise children.
A man can be loving, supportive and give a child structure growing up and teach them responsibility as a single parent, while a single mother can't teach the same to their children; they can be supportive and over protective but to take account of their mistakes or responsibility for their lives. They even can't even admit being wrong in public or to themselves in private; the majority of the broken homes/ families are single mother based because of the lack of structure, discipline, respect and responsibility in the home.
I do think it is better for a child to have two parents for psychological reasons. It doesnât necessarily have to be a male and female, homosexual couples have been proven to make amazing parents.
A note: the pictures you posted with this question blame girls who get pregnant and get left behind for not being picky enough. I think it would be fairer to blame both partners for letting a mistake like that happen, and blame the father for leaving his child and itâs mother. Itâs his own flesh and blood why do you not blame him for leaving?
We don't need fathers or mothers, we need role models. A lot of kids grow up with abusive or neglectful parents, some fathers even rape their daughters.
So, no, I don't think sex workers and criminals are the consequence of children growing up without a father.
The latest blame-game for the younger set is to their upbringing. Newflash you special snowflakes - lots of people of hardship and cruelty they endure, but only a very small percentage turn into felons or murderers. Adults get to CHOOSE their reality. Criminals decide that it's okay if they are what they are - you can't blame it on their upbringing.
Same for mass-murderers. "Oh, my father beat me so I'm going to kill as many people as I possible can". Sure, you idiot.
It's like blaming Trump for gun violence. How 'bout blame the one that pulls the trigger? After all, THEY are the ones that CHOSE to do what they did - no one MADE them.
Yes a child needs a father but not to be rude there's many guys (and they aren't all the bad guys or party guys, etc..) that still abandon their baby and the mother of their baby.
They're just regular immature guys that are like "Oh I'm too young to have a baby, etc..." and then they leave the girl alone.
Personally I would have grown up without my father if he hadn't gotten sick, he would have kept working being out all weeks and just come back for the week end then leaving on Sunday evening / night. It really suck to not have your father with you but only blaming it on the mother isn't helping the situation.
This goes too far against single Moms as many of them would have never have chosen it and do an incredibly hard job!!
But yes, I agree children do need a father (figure) so long as theyâre good and not toxic obviously.
My uncle is a single father. His White baby mama got hooked on meth and left. Now heâs raising his child.
My friend who is biracial is being raised by her black father cause her white mama went off and left.
My other friend and his 3 siblings are being raised by their black father cause once again the white mama took off and left.
I don't get what you really asking here, I mean first part sure I get, second part... what? (second part: "Do you believe female sex workers & male criminals grew up without a father?" I think a kid needs more then one to take care of them, I don't think it matters if its a mother or a father or a care taker.. just as long as someone is there to take care of them
And one is able to do it, but its hard to impossible, so its best when there is someone else there to help
I do believe that a child needs a father. I think many of societies problems these days are due to lacking a father in the home. Without the father often there is a lack of authority, discipline, and accountability for the children. Additionally a mom canât teach a man to be a man very well because she isnât a man.
Well there has been a strong correlation. The mother can't be there for the child cause she needs to work and do errands. And with no male role model most looked up to the thugs on the streets.
So... Yeah not good. Unless the single mom is rich I don't think it's good.
Complete nonsense. A child needs parents, they dont care if its fathers or mothers.
www.sciencedaily.com/.../100121135904.htm
Well statistically I think its 80% of inmates come from single mother homes, and again, statistically a woman with a poor relationship with her father or none at all is substantially more likely to be promiscuous and thus more likely to be a single mother, as well as just generally be unhappy so yes fathers are very important for the proper development of a child. That should go without saying of course but we live in a screwed up world.
The evidence is pretty clear that men make better single parents.
Plenty grow up without any parental support.
Just being a father doesn't make that person a good parent. Same for women being mother's.
I grew up without a father figure, and I say that children do need a father in their life.
Have noticed it's more common that single moms that fucks up the child than the other way around.
They think they are entitled instead of seeing to the better good for the child in the name of better good for the child. (emotional selfishness and games for something personal)
Um yes a child definitely needs both parents but sometimes people in a two parented household still make a decision that can hinder them. Some fathers are emotionally unavailable that does nothing if youâre just âthereâ
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