Do most people have an unrealistic/fairytale imagination of what a functional marriage is supposed to be?

I feel like people come into a marriage thinking it is one thing, but when reality hits them then they suppose that the marriage is not working in some manner. Evolutionary biologist Bret Weinstein talks about a functional marriage being very similar to a sibling dynamic, which makes sense because once you marry someone, their siblings become your sister/brother in-laws and their parents become your mother/father in-laws. People come into a marriage with perhaps a certain level of facade or “fakeness” that isn’t what they are really like. Maybe this is natural and inevitable for humans to revert to, but nonetheless results in early terminations of marriages and relationships. Many people think of marriage in such unrealistic terms, so when they come into the marriage with this misconception then they are wondering why it isn’t like what they imagined. They think something is wrong with them, their partner, or marriage as a whole. In effect, marriage is an EXTENSION of a friendship or sibling relationship in a way. Similar to the views of Bret Weinstein, marriage is not supposed to be looked at like some fairytale of love, rather, something pragmatic for CHILD REARING.

Women needed to know that the man will stick around to help raise the child. Men are selected for the fact that they do not want other men to bed their wives, because raising another man’s child is resource intensive for the other man. This is why women are pickier, because women bear the GREATEST COST of sex, which is child rearing.
Do most people have an unrealistic/fairytale imagination of what a functional marriage is supposed to be?
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