Very well said.. I guess I don't worry how people react cuz they get Im sincere.. I compliment men or women 🤷🏼♀️ like the chick in the store yesterday with the awesome jacket which made her day, or the chick waking in front of me who sprayed body spray as she was walking and it smelled good, she didn't think I was some lesbo hitting on her, she laughed cus we were walking past a burger King do said that must be you, know burger King done smell that good and we both laughed our address off... I think people overthink things too much instead of just boring themselves and yes said he to a guy in way too store to which he said Hey gorgeous, and man you're beautiful, which if you'd a seen how bad I looked yesterday 😱 but I just said thank you... I didn't get offended cuz he wasn't offensive with it... Just blind 🤣🤣
*so said*Asses not addresses 🤣
You didn't slap him and shout "Stop objectifying me!"? LOL
Thanks for the MHO, my friend.
Welcome and no I just said thanks.. even when I suspect once I passed him he may have turned around and been checking out my butt, but didn't turn around to see and even tho I told my kids I had eyes on the back of my head so always could see what they were doing, that wasn't really true 😂😂
Hey. I hope you gave it some extra swish just to cheer him up.When I made that last comment, I was thinking about certain types of #MeToo women who act like every guy who glances at them is undressing them with their eyes or visually raping them. It's really sad and sick. People like you have a good attitude.Do you remember the Ruth Buzzi character on Rowan and Martin's Laugh In? She wore frumpy clothes and a hair net and hit people who talked to with her purse. I saw her play that character on a Dean Martin roast one time and it was freaking hilarious.
No but that's how I probably looked that day minus the purse, cuz had just got done exercising and normally take a soak or least shower but was feeling sick and pushing myself why thought what he said was funny cuz I looked a hot mess 🤣🤣
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You get it!! It takes a strong person to stay nice and kind in a world where do many don't deserve it... But I'm not gonna stop being who or what I am, cuz then THAT'S when I would truly be weak by giving in to others... The way I see it anyways 🤷🏼♀️
@Jaximus-Lion. For some reason, your comment reminded me of a time that I went to Dan Haggerty's (Grizzly Adams) house with a friend who was installing a music system in his car. He was big and burly, but you couldn't meet a nicer, more soft spoken guy.I've also met hard core bikers who looked scary as fuck who had personalities like that. They would help or defend anyone in need, but were normally sweet and gentle.
@Lliam This is how we show love 😁 and that is how i was raised to be, a gentleman. The bikers! They are a family too, they ride together and of course if someone trys to hurt them! They will give the same energy back. No doubt about it
During the summer after 8th grade, I went to work at my uncle's gas station on weekends. That was when gas stations were full service. There was a Hessions headquarters right down the street and a bunch of those guys would come rolling in for gas regularly. It was my job to go out and attend the pumps. At first, I was super intimidated because they looked so scary. But those guys were really nice to me. Have you ever heard of the BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse) team. What they do is heart melting.
@Lliam never heard of them, but there is many does similar in Sweden. My brother is a member in the bearded villian group (am bearded too) but i don't do social media activities with them buy i do help doing bracelets for cancer foundations all the time. We donate all the money we get in, it's very simple and nobel thing to do.
Maybe tho because they afraid to be that way anymore... But noone should ever have to be afraid to be themselves or act different cuz other people don't accept it... I'm not ALWAYS upbeat, but I'm usually friendly till someone gives me reason not to be.. It's finding that balance... But the balance that works for "you" not other people or society
Oh but... "Won't you be my neighbor" 🤣🤣🤣
That's another matter: nowadays if you're yourself, people won't necessarily like or accept you. People care too much about what others think about them, or being accepted. And social media does not help matters at all!!! Kids especially are brainwashed into believing happiness=how many "friends" or followers you have online. So how do they do that? Put on a "happy face" and pretend to be someone they're not to be accepted by others! Even if it means jeopardizing their own health and happiness in the process. Pathetic really. I'm glad I don't let others influence my happiness... probably why I'm so damn bitter and cynical, LOL. It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood; yes it is :)
Omg I need my glasses, I thought that meme said fuck your ass🤣🤣🤣🤣And agree, butt it's also adults in here doing anything for "likes" or attention 🤷🏼♀️
I just read your comment after I sent mine. Lol. I used the same words you mentioned here. Totally agree. Too positive can be scary sometimes...
@el_Te_de_la_Rosa Exactly! I'm just wary of people that are too positive! It seems like they're either up to something or hiding their real feelings for whatever reason.
I agree that there are plenty of fake people. I'm reminded of a neighbor we had when I was growing up. She was my best friend's mom. She became a doctor of psychology. I noticed that she had developed a practiced, non-threatening smile that stayed glued to her face even when she was talking to someone she hated. A person could say they tortured puppies and wanted to murder children and that smile would stay there. The thing is, I was around her a lot and knew where she was coming from. She was a pain in the ass and her smile was totally phony.I'm also reminded of certain people who put on an ultra-spiritual, peaceful and loving attitude but are actually sanctimonious hypocrites. But bbb isn't talking narcissists and psychopaths who are only nice in order to manipulate people for personal gain. She isn't talking about hypocrites. In fact, a person experiences person joy while making others feel good for no reason. It feels good when someone is truly grateful for a kind word or an act of kindness. There are countless stories about people performing random acts of kindness that made a huge difference in another person's life.
In my late teens, I volunteered for Meals on Wheels for a while delivering food to people in need. Some of the elderly people on my regular route were so grateful for the meals and the friendly visit. They acted like I was doing them a personal favor. Some would look forward to my visits and do little things like offer me cookies or soda something. I may have been the only real person these people ever saw from day to day. As a self centered kid of 18, it softened my heart. I grew to love some of those people. My attitude toward "old" people shifted.
Bottom line: Genuine niceness makes the world a better place. It's like sunshine on a cloudy day. But that doesn't mean that nice people have to be door mats or Pollyanna's. It doesn't mean that they have to be phony at all. In fact, phony is not nice.
@Lliam great points as always friend 👍👍
Very well said and very true!! Misery loves company
Yes. I think so. People who are aware of their own flaws don't feel good when they see happier and nicer others. They like who are alike, and share the same values or morals. In where I live, "nice person" is often said with a sarcastic tone. It means more like "Stop that. You make me look bad."
I hear you
🤣🤣 seriously tho there is a big difference between constructive criticism and negativity and hate
Oh yes of course, you didn't use hate in your question though.Generally, people respond to both positive and negative reinforcement. So each has their place. That's all I meant.Now if you are asking about someone who is being hateful, then there is nearly always an agenda driving that hate. And it can be as simple as one women is jealous of another women, and demeaning her clothing allows the hateful person some internal comfort. Though that is only a band aid for the hateful person. As usually an underlying issue is causing such low self worth, and that creates the hate. And I think more and more people are becoming frightful and insecure in these modern times. Personally, I think mentally stronger people are able to be verbally more positive. They are able to cope with the world better, and understand that a kind word can do wonders for the person its aimed at, but also the person that said it.So to conclude. Hateful negativity is on the rise, and is more accepted. Though externally positive people are more mentally strong and I would argue are more likely to find happiness in life. All that my opinion of course, I am happy for that to be challenged ;)
No this time I think I might agree with you 🤣
I think it's a little worse and more serious than that lol cute memes tho
I think people view others that are too cheerful as fake, that's the memes point. It's showing that negativity can be more honest than positivity. It should not make sense but I could see that being a mindset of some people
To negative people
Yup. To negative peoples view
Great answer my friend!!! Very well said and again we are a lot alike... Scary ain't it 😱😂
@Brainsbeforebeauty It's kinda not that scary as I choose my friends on here as the ones with the nicest personalities, so I'm not shocked when they agree with me! lol
Yeah that's a good friend to have 👍🙂
Well said!! You're on a roll, or on a bot 😂 😂
lol thanks Toots... you never know... when I typed the above, maybe I had AI Bot looking up at me lol :)
No maybe about it lololol
lol... yes... you are correct ;)
Sad state at that
Yep, and it may be just the way it seems to me but in my reality it's almost always the case.
Yeah but I'm not going to stop being me, cuz when you confirm yourself to others that's the truth weakness. Takes more strength to remain true to yourself in a world where kindness is less acceptable than rude narcissistic people.. What's wrong with that picture 🤔
What's wrong with that picture? Think of it like the bible. When wronged you're supposed to turn the other cheek right? And i try to do that. But the onlything that tells the offender is rhat you're a target. So when they invariably wrong you again i say you've run out of cheeks to turn. What's wrong with it? Nothing! And if it were a fair world it would mean something. You have to recognize that.
I'm 48 lol so I'm sure I remember it better than you lololol well except the senior moments I seem to be having lately, or just more blonde moment lololol...Seriously tho, I really miss life before social media and cell phones
You just said it there 👏👏👏👏
Yeah but more people need to just stop giving a fuck about that utter nonsense... Haters ain't gonna stop me from being me, why should it 🤷🏼♀️
Assholes will always be assholes. The media needs to quit giving them all of the attention. I would like to turn on the news one evening and hear about all of the good things that people do every day, all over the world. But they do those things everyday, so it’s not news worthy.
That don't sell news, too many people glorify, crave negativity and chaos... These days nice and kind are mistaken for weakness... When will people get it's easy to be mean and hateful... I'm really good at sarcasm and insults if I want to be, much harder to be nice and kind in a world where some people don't deserve it.. That's REAL strength, remaining true to yourself instead of selling out just to fit in or be liked by others, that's REAL strength... Maybe people will wake up eventually, for their sakes hope it's not when they on their death bed and it's too late
Read some the threads and then say that...
Sad state that people trust rude and mean and distrust nice and kind... Or mistake kindness for weakness when it's really the weak that have to resort to being rude
That's great of you 👍👍
I try haha
No muffins today.. Baked chicken with steamed veggies in garlic sauce
Yummy yummy for the tummy 😂Miss brains is making the king hungry 😋
The veggies weren't as good as the verified I made with the roast cuz thus time used a frozen veggies mix supposedly steam right in the bag but eh I didn't think they were that great... Chicken was good tho...
Next time they will be better, keep repeating it until you master it miss brains and when your ready i'll come to eat the perfect meal 😌
No just next time cook my own rather than the frozen bag
I agree, fresh veggies 🥬🥦🌶
That is so not true
negativity is more solid and rooted, while positivity is more detached and spiritual,negativity is like a giant boulder it weighs and is real can be seenpositivity is like a gentle breeze, it's swift, can't be seen but can be felt
@NatalieKeller95 well said!!!
Umm this is more than just about guys getting laid
Lol right 🤣https://youtu.be/jz5E0SQ9dGQ
Me telling the chick at the store yesterday her coat was awesome did nothing but put a smile on her face... Or the chick waking in front of me on way home that sprayed perfume and it wafted back to me so told her she smelled good had to be her not the burger King we were walking past and we both laughed...Or the guy on way there who I said hello to in way there, who said hello gorgeous, then said man you're beautiful.. Okay that one was really funny cuz if you'd a seen the hot mess I looked yesterday 😱😱😅😅People on here talk so much about approaching people blah blah when being naturally nice and friendly would go a long way to solve some of those issues, fears
Yeah but you are talking about people like us who are naturally charismatic and outgoing and can instill an ease among people around us. We are a select few that can do that. There are others that just don't have what we have. 😎
That doesn't excuse being rude or hateful tho 🤔🤷🏼♀️ Or hating others because they ain't negative like they are... That tires back into the jealousy thing...
True but you can not change what others do only what we can do ourselves. 😉
True, but don't mean gonna put up with it anymore either!
No way. We should never put up with it. 😃
Exactly!! people Mistake niceness for weakness... They'll find out the hard way how untrue that is 🙂
Hell yeah!! Lol
Cheers 🍻🍻 even tho HATE drinking beer, makes me have to pee too much.. If I had the equipment to write in the snow, forget names, I could write a paragraph 🤣🤣🤣
We can drink something else if you want. 😎
All's I have here is beer till my homemade is done, got three bottles going but ain't ready yet
I could always bring something. 😎
Sure never turn down free alcohol.. Lol
Sad tho that people are more accepting of rude than nice, just cuz someone isn't rude or mean all the time don't make it fake.. And don't mean nice people are nice all the time, means they know how to be and there's a time and place to not be so nice instead of being an asshole ALL the time 🤷🏼♀️
Even the nicest person can be a big Ahole when the moment is wrong or bad. There are people, a lot of influenzer, who Fake their personality for profit but it just destroys the good will in other people minds. Being good and doing good for others isn't as appreciated as it should be, but thats a Problem in our modern society
How do people know when people DON'T DO that anymore... Everytime I've been nice or helped someone IRL they've always appreciated it except the real LOSER assholes, and that was JUST ONE! And they that way with everyone... I think people get so caught up in Social media and the rudeness that's looked up to on social media, they can't even distinguish that from real life or real people anymore
Thats a generell problem with the people. All the social media, they think its real and not staged. They get their opinion from othet people who tell thrm whats right and wrong, i dont know if there's a way to stop that progress
Now that I'll agree with
But ill stay nice and polite to other people. No need to change that
And that's just sad
Yeah social media is destroying people's common sense and sense of decency
That and the way you're brought up by your parents as well
Sometimes but more people are being influenced by social media and the monkey see monkey do regardless of the way they was raised
a lot of times almost all the time
So you're more suspicious of nice people than people who really have issues 🤔 you don't think that's a little backwards... Thankfully, do far I only see that on here, cuz everyone I was nice to yesterday, laughed, joked, told me I was beautiful (ok that one was Just funny) and the disabled guy I just jumped out the van to help today due didn't not trust me for being nice, he was damn appreciative.. a little kindness goes a long way 🤷🏼♀️
No never said that did I dear
I just mean sometimes for no reason at all people try make convo being nice for no reason, I don't get that
You do know how pickpockets and such people work right?
Saying hi to someone as you passing them🤷🏼♀️ Being friendly to the cashier at the store 🤷🏼♀️ people taking this protect yourself too far, I hardly think the ladies I was nice to were pick pockets not did they think I was
Again not what I mean but never mind now don't you worry nothing bad ever happens
Well then damn I should of went into the mental health field cuz there's a lot of mental running around out there
Takes more strength to be nice and kind than it does to be Negative or mean, just saying 🤷🏼♀️
And it gets you nowhere. Who wins the debates? The most aggressive. Who wins elections? The most aggressive. Who becomes the stars and gets the roles and money? The most assertive. You can't get anywhere today being shy, or nice. People just cut in line in front of you. How is a bully tamed? By someone standing up to him and breaking his nose.
But see, here exactly is the issue, being kind don't mean shy.. I think exact opposite.. It's the shy people that turn Negative cuz they don't know how to interact with people...What did nice out kind have to do with shy? Nothing... And again kind don't mean not standing up for yourself when needed... There's a time and a place for it, just like being mean or rude... Just cuz I'm nice, don't mean I won't stand up for myself or others... Just means I don't have to act like an ass 24/7 to come off powerful cuz that's the truly weak right there!
People that act positive usually are denying the facts at hand. Shy people won't ever get what they want because no one else will ever know what they want and they will never say what they want. Kind people tend to be liars. They don't want to tell little jimmy that he won't make it in NFL because he is 5 foot and 120 pounds , so they say I will be watching you. Or a Painting that looked like artist used piss instead of oils to paint with. They will say, "looks nice" , dude thinks he is now Picasso. I choose straight up facts, honesty , and the truth.
I would say I am assertive and freely give my opinions , don't you think? People usually like me a lot or hate me a lot. Sort of like Trump. That is me , people either jump in front of me and take a bullet or let me get shot and wait an hour to call 911.
See tho not everything is black and white... Using your analogy, you missed a third option... The people that wouldn't jump in front of you, but wouldn't wait an hour to call 911... Do you get when you lump People in just one camp or category or the other, you miss the WHOLE picture
Nope. I believe in white/black, yes/no, truth/ lies. I am absolute. There is no gray area. Just indecisive people.
Not EVERYTHING people believe is sheets right or true but okay...
You might think that but I don't
Lets take the problem known as Hitler. My way , I know he plans to invade every country he can, he is bad. I declare war and beat his ass. Your way: You try to ignore the first country he invades because you want to remain positive , then you talk to him after he invades the second country. You think giving him milk and cookies he will change him and you don't want to be negative and declare war. You think there must be a reason he is not nice. But because you were nice, positive , and maybe to shy to declare war , he now has invaded every country in Europe and Russia, so now it is too late to declare war and stop him. Prime Minister Chamberlain was shy, nice , and being positive too and England was almost defeated. But thank God there was no gray area and England replaced Chamberlain with Winston Churchill and we don't speak German today.
Didn't we already agree to disagree 🤷🏼♀️
I felt like giving an example. I hope I get MHO because I really put a lot in this, and I know it would be the nice, polite, caring, and positive thing for you to do.
No cuz it isn't right out true, neither is making assumptions about me that sure the hell ain't true...
They can try, but they gonna fail 🤣
Right! There world getting so ass backwards
Right!!! Well said... And misery loves company... But ain't noone raining on my parade lolol like to short for that.. Just cuz someone else can't be happy, they ain't gonna take my right to be happy away... They can try, but they gonna fail
*life not like
Yeah good attitude.
Thanks 🙂 took years of life learning... But then use what life teaches you
So people say... Usually that's just an excuse... Being kind takes more strength than being mean or rude... I could be way more insulting and good with it if I chose to be... But stopping to others level instead of staying true to yourself... You tell me which is the real weakness and the REAL strength 🤔🤔🤷🏼♀️ just saying
being kind, means being a demnot a republicuck
Wtf 😅😅 omg whatever the hell you smoking you need to share... That is literally one of the stupidest things I've EVER heard 🤣🤣🤣 hahahaha can't stop laughing at that one lololol
get over it, it's the truth
Okay I'm done here go find someone else to try to piss off.. I'm on here to have conversations and learn from one another, not play childish games with childish people so bye now
I don't"play" not with people unless it's with my partner and it's bedroom games 🙂
Should be anyways