So I went for a get together recently. I spoke to a few people and was nice (I usually am), and a person there told our mutual friend that I seemed like a “pretentious pretty girl who was pretending to be nice”. I was just being myself - as friendly and happy as I usually am. I don’t understand this; if I don’t talk to people (because I’m sometimes reserved when I meet people at first), they think I’m a bitch. However, if I AM nice, they think I’m not being genuine. Does anyone else face this? It’s like I can never win.