I guess my neighbor is being beating, should I call the police?

Question

At this time! I hear her crying and screaming in her apartment and I can hear a man’s voice shouting at her. It’s clearly that someone’s beating her but I’m not sure where the voice’s coming from exactly. Could be our building but upper floors or the one next to mine. Should I get involved and call the police or mind my own business? I’m seriously freaking out by the noises and thankfully my kids are not around to hear it.

Answer 1

Danny_dan92 | 194 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

This is a tough call.

I get your intentions.

They’re good hearted, BUT that’s not you business tbh.

There are women that put up with this unacceptable behavior cause for a variety of reasons

Either the man provides for them, has good dick game, or the girl has issues understanding that her life could be at risk.

That being said, only call the cops if you hear something loud like a gunshot.

She, as an adult needs to grow the fucken courage to put her food down, swallow her pride. And leave the piece of shit that is abusing her, NOBODY deserves that. But at the same time, when someone is dealing with this shit, it is THEIR responsibility to walk away.

Sakura-san

1 mo
I shouldn’t get involved?
Danny_dan92

1 mo
Nah...

The cops and or the girl and the guy could get killed
Danny_dan92

1 mo
Think about it,

If they’re in the apartment and this guy that is beating her is off his fucken meds, and doesn’t give a fuck anymore.

He could think it was her that called the cops on him, when in reality it was someone else.

And he could kill her, then make the cops come in and they get in a shootout.

Calls like these do happen. This is why domestic violence calls are extremely dangerous
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Sakura-san

1 mo
Well I don’t hear any voices anymore hopefully nothing bad happened now
Danny_dan92

1 mo
This is where, she. As an adult needs to grow some self worth and leave this jackass
Danny_dan92

1 mo
Best time to do so is to have half her shit low key packed. And then pack the rest and DIP the second he leaves to work
Sakura-san

1 mo
You are right about this it’s 100% on her but also if there’s a chance to help wouldn’t be good too?
Danny_dan92

1 mo
Yeah I know 😕 this is why I say it’s a tough call...

If you want to have a reduced chance of mass casualties. Don’t get involved, this is her choice to either put up with it, or leave
Sakura-san

1 mo
Thanks for the advice and I hope that she is safe now.
Danny_dan92

1 mo
No problem, I hope so as well

Answer 2

Sakura-san

I shouldn’t get involved?

Answer 3

Danny_dan92

Nah...

The cops and or the girl and the guy could get killed

Answer 4

Danny_dan92

Think about it,

If they’re in the apartment and this guy that is beating her is off his fucken meds, and doesn’t give a fuck anymore.

He could think it was her that called the cops on him, when in reality it was someone else.

And he could kill her, then make the cops come in and they get in a shootout.

Calls like these do happen. This is why domestic violence calls are extremely dangerous

Answer 5

Sakura-san

Well I don’t hear any voices anymore hopefully nothing bad happened now

Answer 6

Danny_dan92

This is where, she. As an adult needs to grow some self worth and leave this jackass

Answer 7

Danny_dan92

Best time to do so is to have half her shit low key packed. And then pack the rest and DIP the second he leaves to work

Answer 8

Sakura-san

You are right about this it’s 100% on her but also if there’s a chance to help wouldn’t be good too?

Answer 9

Danny_dan92

Yeah I know 😕 this is why I say it’s a tough call...

If you want to have a reduced chance of mass casualties. Don’t get involved, this is her choice to either put up with it, or leave

Answer 10

Sakura-san

Thanks for the advice and I hope that she is safe now.

Answer 11

Danny_dan92

No problem, I hope so as well

Answer 12

lokeshdh00

Xper 5

You should indeed. Even its not a voilence or abuse , still police will appreciate you for being an Responsible citizen. And if its a matter of abuse. Then you will be hero.
If you want to be anonmyous, Tell police and they will not bring your name. And you will still able to help.
Please call and help. !

lokeshdh00

1 mo
Please tell all of us here, As you considered us to give advice on this matter, We have right to know what happens next. Update the question and tell all of us if it's abuse or not !
Sakura-san

1 mo
Nothing happened and they just disappear even the noises.
lokeshdh00

1 mo
Aah! , call the police if it happens again. I admire you noticed and thought about helping someone !

Answer 13

lokeshdh00

Please tell all of us here, As you considered us to give advice on this matter, We have right to know what happens next. Update the question and tell all of us if it's abuse or not !

Answer 14

Sakura-san

Nothing happened and they just disappear even the noises.

Answer 15

lokeshdh00

Aah! , call the police if it happens again. I admire you noticed and thought about helping someone !

Answer 16

CurLyF

Xper 7

Of course you should call! Record everything, though. The noise and fight and cries.
You are not some nosy woman getting involved in gossip, there's violence. You could even be saving a life donw the road. Maybe not literally like "he could KILL her", although that's more common than you know, but at least maybe by calling the cops she gets out of that toxic relationship and can rebuild her life and that would be enough to say you saved her. But I would ask the police to tell them it was an anon call, so you don't get in trouble with them.

Answer 17

Luv2BRealExotic13 | 532 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Well you could’ve called the cops and just asked that you remain anonymous in case of retaliation but you were concerned. That’s what my sister did when she witnessed a boy beating up his girlfriend on the sidewalk. Yeah there are some women that go through the motions of domestic violence but so many end up dead because someone didn’t want to get involved.

Sakura-san

1 mo
They all disappeared but hopefully nothing bad happened. I did what I could and nothing else was in my hand
Luv2BRealExotic13

1 mo
It’s okay but now you have a suggestion in case it ever happens again. I get the hesitation because abusers are irrational and violent especially when confronted or a bystander intervenes. Sometimes the abused are even that way. My sister had the same dilemma. Like we knew where the boy lived and we didn’t want to run the risk of having our property vandalized or worse him harming one of us. So she just didn’t say her name and kept urging that the police keep the number private for fear of retaliation.

Answer 18

Sakura-san

They all disappeared but hopefully nothing bad happened. I did what I could and nothing else was in my hand

Answer 19

Luv2BRealExotic13

It’s okay but now you have a suggestion in case it ever happens again. I get the hesitation because abusers are irrational and violent especially when confronted or a bystander intervenes. Sometimes the abused are even that way. My sister had the same dilemma. Like we knew where the boy lived and we didn’t want to run the risk of having our property vandalized or worse him harming one of us. So she just didn’t say her name and kept urging that the police keep the number private for fear of retaliation.

Answer 20

TheorionMage

Xper 6

Yes, you SHOULD call the Police. To NOT do so, technically makes YOU an "Accessory after the Fact" as in the infamous Kitty Genovese homicide~ Its the Police's job to sort things out; but THEY cannot be everywhere, all the time. ~ (I'm a retired Cop)

Answer 21

Anonymous

I'd call the police and let them handle it. I used to have pretty big fights with my ex. She'd end up becoming rude as hell, say nasty things, and I'd try to be the bigger person until I finally snapped and yelled at her. Never physical though. I'm clearly louder and bigger than her, so it looked bad to the neighbors. I wouldn't be so quick to judge until you know the entire situation.

Answer 22

heyhey100

Xper 2

YES! Get involved, do not be a bystander. You could possibly be the only person that has the potential to save her life. Call the police and tell them that a woman is in distress and it is most likely a domestic abuse case.

Answer 23

slatyb | 1.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

Go ahead and call, it's up to them to decide whether or not to send officers.

Sakura-san

1 mo
I called but I don’t hear anything. Hope nothing bad happened

Answer 24

Sakura-san

I called but I don’t hear anything. Hope nothing bad happened

Answer 25

wankiam | 4.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

call the police... if you do nothing then it won't stop

Sakura-san

1 mo
I did but the noises are gone
wankiam

1 mo
well im pleased it has stopped but a visit from the cops may be enough to stop it happening again. you did what you could and what you should
Sakura-san

1 mo
I just hope that she’s fine and he didn’t murder her or something. That was a scary experience
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wankiam

1 mo
i hope so too

Answer 26

Sakura-san

I did but the noises are gone

Answer 27

wankiam

well im pleased it has stopped but a visit from the cops may be enough to stop it happening again. you did what you could and what you should

Answer 28

Sakura-san

I just hope that she’s fine and he didn’t murder her or something. That was a scary experience

Answer 29

wankiam

i hope so too

Answer 30

Massageman | 2.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

Most police departments will take an anonymous call if need be, but call then. Just say you hear screaming and don't know where it is coming from. It is THEIR job to find it- you are just reporting it for everyone's welfare.

Answer 31

Puppies1234

Xper 4

You should try and get her alone and if you can't then you should talk to someone about then maybe at least call the cops for that girl.

Answer 32

CuriousCat123

Xper 4

I would call the police but don't say they are getting beaten. The next time if happens call the police and say you here someone crying and screaming and a man yelling and that you would like if they checked it out because you don't want something bad to happen to your kids or yourself.

Answer 33

humanearth | 1.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Oh my fucking God. I can't believe that you would have to ask this question. Let me put it to you this way.

Would you want someone to call the cops if someone is beating the shit out you.

Answer 34

Bolt1104

Xper 2

Call the police as soon as you possibly can some women don’t want to help themselves or are scared to in these situations or some have been so manipulated they just don’t know what to do so I suggest call now LIKE NOW

Answer 35

worldscolide | 2.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

If you know where its coming from yes. But if not, its not a good idea, too much for the police to just figure out.

Answer 36

White_King2000

Xper 5

Probably yeah. Call the police but don't stare out your window or stand in the street. You don't want people to know or there could be retribution

Answer 37

tae_ie

Xper 5

YESS!! you should have been called the police on them, that is not acceptable.

Answer 38

pleasestopthis | 289 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Yes, report the situation to the police. You could be saving her life.

Answer 39

OddBeMe | 5.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Call the police. They deal with this often and will keep you out of it. She may be in trouble.

Answer 40

Quackthulu | 626 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Yes! Why the fuck is this even a question?

Sakura-san

1 mo
Hey! I’m freaking out too here
Quackthulu

1 mo
So solve the problem. You already know how.

Answer 41

Sakura-san

Hey! I’m freaking out too here

Answer 42

Quackthulu

So solve the problem. You already know how.

Answer 43

Wise4myage | 448 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Yes please do that and ask them to do a welfare check on your neighbor.

Answer 44

Anonymous

Let it be I think. Calling the police is one of the most dangerous things you can do since their reaction is completely unpredictable.

Answer 45

Anonymous

You guess? Wouldn't you want someone to call the cops if this was happening to you?

Answer 46

Telekinetic-Potato | 595 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

How do you know they're not just fucking?

Answer 47

REDHOTLINE | 118 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Explorer

Immediatly call the police

Sakura-san

1 mo
I called but i hope she is fine because I don’t hear anything now
REDHOTLINE

1 mo
Yes I hope she is well too

Answer 48

Sakura-san

I called but i hope she is fine because I don’t hear anything now

Answer 49

REDHOTLINE

Yes I hope she is well too

Answer 50

Twenty2 | 314 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Yoda

Record the noises before then call the cops

Sakura-san

1 mo
It’s over and everything’s done
Twenty2

1 mo
What happened? Tell me!

Answer 51

Sakura-san

It’s over and everything’s done

Answer 52

Twenty2

What happened? Tell me!

Answer 53

Inexpensivefurniture | 125 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Xper 7

Definitely call the police.

Answer 54

jadexrose

Xper 2

Definitely call the police! Imagine if she got killed, you’d feel bad for not saying anything.

Answer 55

OceanMelon | 332 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Xper 7

Yeah, call the police

Answer 56

Whtevernever

Xper 5

You should call the police yes.

Answer 57

red_knight | 127 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Yoda

Do what's right to help someone in need.

Answer 58

pierre7i

Yoda

Call them now ! You must !!

Answer 59

RHK36 | 54 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Explorer

I would at least call the police.

Answer 60

SpaceGalaxy

Xper 6

Call the police.

SpaceGalaxy

1 mo
Are the cops there now? Did you call them?
Sakura-san

1 mo
I called but I don’t hear anything anymore which is more scary than the crying and screaming voices