Do you feel like people in your hometown are toxic?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Circa late '80s & early '90s:
I grew up in and around the San Francisco Bay area, to give a general idea of where I am. Throughout my younger years in this neck of the woods, several kids always complained to me about life being difficult, unfair & shitty. Although we were equals in almost every way, I simply believed it (life) wasn't difficult, unfair or shitty. I didn't get why they were always angry. I had a better outlook and they couldn't grasp how well I was loving life despite going through very similar issues as they did. To them, I was the odd person who's supposed to feel shitty too like they were but didn't. Not a single one of us was poor. Our parents were supportive. Our neighborhood was decent. They just grew older feeling miserable more & more, day-by-day. They became toxic but they believed I was the one who's toxic.

They eventually left. Some went to jail. One got killed. One died of drugs. I stayed, along with a few of the original group of friends, and we continued to do well in school. After college, I moved to another country and lived there for 19 years.

Now, I'm back in the Bay Area and now employ some of those sorry-assed "punks" (males & females) who came back to seek my help.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I love my hometown but I hate the people and how its ran. It upsets me so much. People are cruel and judgmental of appearance and possessions. Everyone knows everyone's business because gossip is crazy. So many of the homeless are drug users and they'll do anything to con you and steal from you. The crime rate has went crazy since I was little. People never use to fear unlocked home or car doors, walking at night by yourself, and putting things outside for decoration. People act like its a great community for your kids, because they dont do anything to criminals and don't put a lot of bad news in the paper. The rich are horrible people, they act like they're better and won't talk to you if they think you're poor. If the rich do something for charity, they write it off on taxes, or want the newspaper to publish a story. Almost everyone's on drugs even elected officials. Almost everyone is two faced, gossip about you, or screw you over.

[Paulychicago10]

I have a address that I reside in, in a town like that. The shittiest thing about it, is this city (state) is in top 10 for the laziest most obese cities. They make it seem as if they care for others but eventually you sniff it out, and find out the stuff they do is to benefit them the most. They won't do anything unless its free! They don't go out or invite you out unless you pay for them. If it cost more than a dollar to buy something, its to expensive. The only person that matters to them, are themselves. I try to do stuff that would benefit others, but since it doesn't benefit them, they won't do it. I frequent a restaurant to watch sports with some familiar people, but if they have to drive they won't come hang out. I bake goods for a little enticement. Only time I see them show up. If I dont make it that week, im nothing to them. Ungrateful pieces of #2 in this state. Thats why I want to move to the mountains. Be with the one person that matters the most. Myself. Why try to be kind and helpful when the feelings are never reciprocated? I could save money by taking care of myself first before I take care of anyone else anymore

[iFarted]

Do you live in similar town to mine? Yes and no, I live in San Francisco and depending on where you are in the city the people can be snobby, stuck up and pretentious while other parts of the city there's chill and welcoming vibes.
What is your experience like? My city is very diverse and I've experienced a little bit of everything although it was not too long about that I really experienced other cultures.
How do you feel? If it weren't so dam expensive here I'd love it. Ohh also the California government has got to stop with throwing money out there to make themselves look better opposed to actually doing good...

[Anonymous]

Oh yes! 100%
The people in my town are weird. You can go to school with them one year and they will be your friends, than another year they will pretend like they don't know.
Then there are people who will only be your friends when you're in class work together, then stop after you're no longer classmates/coworkers.
The most popular are the ones who will only hang out with you because you can provide something for them, then when they find someone else, your friendship doesn't matter to you anymore?

Are you in Belgrade? I have Slavic roots, and I know a lot of Slavic people are extremely greedy and stuck up. I live in the States though.

[Finchie40]

I have to agree that’s mainly why I keep to myself most the time , people in general these days are complete assholes , I try to stay away from the drama as much as possible and live my life as content as I can , why I bought a home with land and privacy and far from neighbors , everywhere I have lived before this I dealt with nonsense , now that I have a home with privacy I am happy as can be , I try to surround myself with people that think like I do and are content and happy , and stay away from drama as much as possible

[TheLawAroundHere]

I grew up in a little shit splat kind of town. While i admit to being "country", i cannot stand "hillbilly". Those of you that are country know the difference.

I had to come to town to find my wife. Now that i did, id go back down home tomorrow id i didn't have the health issues i have. I really need to be where im at. 10 minutes, drive time, away from a hospital.

[REDHOTLINE]

Several months I am in this site. I meet so many peoples and read so many opinions several countries peoples.
I understand and noticed , nowadays all countries getting worst year by year and peoples getting selfish cold and arrogant year by year. The world getting worst place year by year.

[Pulseofsulfur]

My hometown is either people who are very dumb, are in gangs or just crazy. Like since Covid started in March their's been a uprising in public indecency and nudism infornt of authorities. It's annoying that people can't mature. That and the Karens in the city who can't follow simple Covid measures because "it's against my rights".

[Anonymous]

Yes lmao I lived in h town n it was hella toxic tons of fakes but u met good people if ur street wise. Tons of drugs n all But didn’t mind tbh or my school was on the news for 9 fights in a day , we had to go through security lmao. Jus a list cojkd go on but I love Texas jus wished We didn’t move out of state lmao.

[ohshee]

Hi yes I've been in that type of town before I hated it because everyone tried to put on an act of we are better in everyway but I just felt as if everyone was fake and was hiding something how long have you lived in your town

[pink_and_inlove]

Yeah they can be but I still love my family. Me and my mom for example have a very bipolar relationship because she tends to be pretty argumentative but then we have moments when we get along and my little brother is often rude to me but he defends me if he has too

[Pete671]

Some are, most are ok, some are very nice,,,
Quite a lot of racist people who tend to be around my age or older, my large village is regarded as rather chavy, but overall it's a good place to live with easy connections to Brighton, London, and Portsmouth, some great little shops and easy access to beach and country,,,

[red_knight]

More than toxic, they're immature, weak, narrow-minded, jealous, small childish kissass haters that love the smell of their own farts.

I hope this island fucking sinks with them all..

[MCheetah]

I grew up in Philadelphia. I probably lived in the most toxic, negative, asshole-ish city in America that isn't on the West Coast. (Although Los Angeles is only *barely* worse than Philly.)

[nobody952]

me too, in a different way tho, they don't like people that are from other countries I'm here if you want to chat

[Don-__-Don]

Hell yes.

Literally the first thing some people here will say to you is an insult and then greet you.

Doesn't make sense.

[_no_one_]

Ahhh fucking twats always hit me up whenever they need something otherwise they won't even associatie with me no more.
Bloody selfish assholes.

[TacosRAwesome]

Yep. Hence why I left. Tbh I'm partly at fault for being the chunky socially awkward person growing up but I'm still hurt from feeling so unwelcome in both school and scouts.

[Givemore]

Maybe go hang out with those that are not rich, they usually have more fun anyway

[AmeerX]

Urban dwellers in my country are very jealous and most women are gold diggers. Not helpful at all.
If they have gotten their work out of you they are no longer friends

[Darkwalk88]

Yes, I really hated my hometown. I struggled to make any real friends and everyone was a rich kid in my highschool school. But now I'm live in Canada and made even better friends so never give up hope.

[Anonymous]

I feel like there are a lot of toxic people everywhere and they just make a bad name for the town even though there are some great people.

[Anonymous]

Toxic yes, Dumbasses definitely. I live in a little trashy ass farming town in SW FL full of migrants in the season, recent immigrants and dumbass rural hick whites.

[michael1469]

Hell ya... thats why i moved out of that shithole. And no real jobs

[Not-karen]

I would say every town would have people like that. Depending on how big your town or city is. I lI’ve in decent size city

[Lynx122]

Nope he people where I grew up were nice :)

[jeremy_09]

i think that's every hometown

[Iamcoming]

They become infect by Corona illness

[OddBeMe]

Most people in general are toxic.

[nodnol32]

100%
It hurts.