My friend told me that they are transgender this week. How would you handle it? I told them they just ride the Biden money train. (I was joking when I said it) I also said "What ever floats your boat, we still cool."\(People in photo I do not know, Just before and after from the internet)
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1 mo
I think the hardest part would be getting used to the new pronouns. You know from he to her stuff like that.
I find it weird from all the chicks he used to bang
1 mo
We moved away from each other and lost contact. I live in wisconsin and they moved to Ohio.
Then one i got a letter in the mail saying they were coming..
How would you handle, if your best friend for over 20 years, tells you that they are Transgender?
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Minxxie | 286 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
It happened to me, obviously not the friends for 20 years part because that's most of my life lol, but it was a bit of a shock at first. They said they had something serious to talk to me about and I was just scared they had cancer or something so when they said they were trans I was like "OH THANK GOD!"
All you can do is let them know that you love them and you are there for them. I got excited about exploring their gender identity through clothes because I love fashion so instead of it being this super serious moment we now had a fun activity to do together to begin their transition. We went for brunch and got a bit tipsy on mimosas and then we headed to the mall. It was great!
Of course, there are painful and emotional parts of transitioning but a lot of it is really fun and creative and it's like this celebration of someone affirming their true identity.
I have a family member that is going through the change from female to male... They still my family, still love them the same, but I still slip up and say her instead of him because I'm too used to saying her 🤷🏼♀️
You know I'm having that issure to. We been friends since we were about 8 years old. The funny thing is. I never saw it coming. In our group he was our Fonzie (Happy Days). Never would thought of this in a million years
Trans guy here, just make sure he/she knows that they have your support. Let them know you may struggle to get the right pronouns and name but just make sure to correct yourself if you forget. They aren't gonna expect you to remember it straight away, that's bullshit I know it's not easy. Just treat them the same way you did before don't act weird around them but maybe drop in things like "oh you look very masc/feminine today" to make them feel more confident
@humanearth Genuinely? It's good that you can see the other side of it, it really helps trans people to feel supported since it can be difficult. I'm proud that you feel like youve changed
pigoat | 1.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
Your situation is unique as in you lost contact with eachother
So it's all good
It's like getting to know them again while getting reacquainted with them
I have several transgender friends, but they started taking the hormone treatments at a young age. If you have known someone for 20 years and they just decided to do this, they have waited to late to have any serious changes to their body. I don't understand why people like Bruce Jenner wait so late in life to do this. The treatments are not very effective on people in their 30's and 40's and beyond.
From what I been reading from this book I picked up yesterday.
Its mainly the older ones, because my genreation and older. Slammed them with religon, boy are boys, girls and girls, being gay is a illness,. Well you get the idea.
So over over the years of hearing. They feel shame, guilt and embrassment and afraid to speak up.
Its the younger people like you. That have to tell the older folks. Its okay to be you.
Hell I'm changing myself, just by reading a book. Because I wanted to know why and I to thought people had a mental illness.
Like in NY city they would have locked up Crossdresser for wearing women clothes. Say that that they must be a crimeal and must be hiding from police. And this was the law though out most of the 1930s- 1970s. The law got changed in mid 1980s.
menina | 3.6K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I would be very surprised. But I would also be happy for them. I'd rather have them going through the sex change process than seeing them feeling miserable because they feel that they were born in the wrong body. But I agree it would hard to get used to the new pronouns and I would definitely think about their past.
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Glue-Sniffer | 382 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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That first girl is very cute. She is cuter as a girl than as a guy! I don't know what I would do. For starters I don't have a best friend. My friends are either married and have children. Really devoted to their role as mother or are whoring around, content with their short term relationships and desperately trying to find a husband. So I probably would be more than shocked!
I personally have experienced this with an old friend. I think the hard part is just adjusting to the pronouns and the changes of trying to look at her now as a him. Took me a long while to finally see him as a him since we grew up together, but I was supportive on his decisionmaking. I was just happy for him that he now feels like himself and he’s happier this way. Pronouns are important. It’s to be respectful of them.
Well if your friends not hitting on you or telling you there secretly in love with you than it shouldn't matter if there still the same type of person which you became boyfriend with then who cares let them be happy which im sure they would want you to be happy to cause if not thats shallow and you should just take your pride out if it and look at it in a adult manner
I’d be supportive but I would be conscious of fucking up and saying the wrong thing so would maybe distance myself for a while and educate myself a little before talking to him/her about it.
I started ready a book i picked up today. We Are Called Trans. It a book for someone like me to better understand. What they feel, the crap they have to deal with.
I want to know why
Astarlessnightsky | 1.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
If its my best (guy) friend, i would tell him "I knew already, you were always such a pussy" and than we go get a bunch of beers and a nice hot pizza.
Not best friend, but a very good friend has. Not an issue to me, their appearance changes were a little different-feeling to me at first, but that's only because I'm not used to seeing it. They're still the same person.
Regarding pronouns, I just straight up told them hey, I apologise now if I slip up at any time but I'll be doing my best and trying to get it right. They were appreciative of that.
Kaneki05 | 1.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
Only thing that's awkward to me that. Is if they start looking like a hot women hahaha. Then i will get needless complicated thoughts about them which isn't great.
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MissDawn7961 | 568 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I would dump this transgender person for there is no such thing as this and those who try this have mental problems ! however , a normal person who has a friend like this needs to pray for them like I just did ! thanks
Oh, of course. Transgender people have a mental illness, but you religious morons believing in imaginary bullshit because of your inability to cope with this world - you are all perfectly sane, right? The most ridiculous thing is you and your kind actually believe this...
You think that normal people don't have mental problems a lot of normal walk around like there normal but are secretly in pain and who gave you the power of judging cause it a sure wasn't a God or Jesus they said love everyone including thy enemy and if they did have mental illness they need more than just prayers they need professional help to and of course most religious people won't do that so a lot of people with mental illness get worse because people like you
Even if for the sake of the argument it was a mental illness, there is still no justification for mistreatment of them, you wouldn't mistreat someone with autism, down syndrome or any other disorder or mental illness, would you?
NamerOfStars | 931 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I would be surprised. Probably very surprised. But the way I treat the genders isn't actually that different, so I doubt it'd be a problem.
Also kinda interesting that in the comments I read before posting, only guys were the ones who said they'd not accept it and break off the friendship. I'm genuinely curious why they feel so hostile.
Anonymous
1 mo
Wouldn't care there still the same person, tbf i had this happened but with a friend of around 4 or 6 mouths and am still close friends with her 8 years later.
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Anonymous
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I'd apologise that I had ever made them think they couldn't talk to me about it before. It shouldn't have taken them 20 years to bring it up, if we were good friends.
We moved away from each other and lost contact. I live in wisconsin and they moved to Ohio.
Then one i got a letter in the mail saying they were coming..
And thats when they broke the news to me
Likes2drive | 2.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
Well if I didn’t notice all that time then I would be shocked at that announcement after so long. Probably as shocked as Chris Jenner when Bruce became Caitlin
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Dazed0N0Confused | 107 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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My cousin is transitioning into a girl and I just want her to be happy.
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Pete671 | 282 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
Yoda
1 mo
I'd be fine with it, but perhaps a little disappointed they took so long to share it,,, I'm sure I would have picked up on it anyway, or at least the possibility of it,,,
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douride2 | 3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I would probably be shocked initially. It would probably take some time to accept it. As long as their outlook didn't change. I would be what ever makes you happy in the end.
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Anonymous
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I mean I’d be shocked and it would take sometime to get used to but if that’s what makes them happy then so be it. I’d respect them and help them as much as I could.
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SphynxUK | 89 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I’d be accepting. I’d also be happy they felt they could tell me.
I have to question what exactly made them think they were the opposite gender and why they realized it soo late
jshm2 | 2K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
Yoda
1 mo
I doubt we could be friends for 20 years. You must be blind if you cannot tell them from normal people. They are basically wearing the skin of what they think they are.
Damn dude that is heavy. I'd be cool with a friend if they turned/became/always where trans - i mean who give a F you know, as long as the friend is happy.
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Anonymous
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At first I'd think they were just joking around. But when they told me they were serious, I'd highly recommend that they seek psychological treatment, and that not only would they experience a lifetime of misery, but they would also be violating God's plan for them in the sex/gender that He assigned to them.
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Anonymous
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The top guy makes a convincing girl. She's got the jaw line for it.
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okeydoke | 73 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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1 mo
I’d be supportive. The person is the same person. Just being more honest with themselves, and I’d be happy for them.
See, if you had been anything remotely resembling a mother, you would have known that what you want is your problem. Educate yourself and stop listening to bible thumping morons.
Why judge them and you don't know that it might make them extremely happy only they will know so I would just support as a friend not what there doing cause obviously you don't like it but you can't support them as a friend there not hurting you its there body no yours or no one else's own
Opinion Owner
1 mo
It would make some people extremely happy to cut off all of their legs doesn't mean it's a good thing
No one said they want them to do but if they did you should still support them as a human a friend/family cause your not perfect there not perfect no one is so not giving them support just as a human friend would make you a hypocrite
Like you can let your opinion be known but thats it cause in the end whether you like it or not its not your body they are not your property so tell them how you feel but also tell them your still there as a friend
Ignoring any emotional arguments, there is scientific evidence and scientific concensus that transitioning helps trans people mentally the most. By the way, do you by any chance know what the process is before the transition? Doctors don't just take in people and start hacking away, they thoroughly discuss whether transitioning is indeed right for the person and how far does the person want to transition
Opinion Owner
1 mo
You can't "transition" to the opposite sex. You are just feeding the delusion
I know I was just making a point bottom line you made up your before you ever asked and no amount of reasoning is going to change that and I don't care ether way its up to you I was just giving somethings to think about and to other guy trust me were not arguing or even saying hurtful things we were actually having a good debate so thanks for the?
The science behind transgenderism would disagree with your opinion on transitioning, not to mention that the lack of support is ultimately what leads to higher suicide rates
Opinion Owner
1 mo
They are mentally that is why they kill themselves. Even with surgery it still happens.
Opinion Owner
1 mo
They are upset because they can't change who they are. That is what drives them to suicide. They can't accept who they actually are.
"Out of 5107 trans women and 3156 trans men, 41 trans women and 8 trans men died by suicide. In trans women, suicide deaths decreased over time, while it did not change in trans men." The lack of change in the rate of men is most likely indicative of a broader social issue tied to men but the study found that the suicide rate does infact decrease throughout the transition. The study can be found here " https://www, ncbi, nlm, nih, gov/pmc/articles/PMC7317390/ " (just change commas to dots)
Opinion Owner
1 mo
It's not healthy to want to change yourself like that
I will not argue whether or not the desire to transition is healthy or not because that is irrelevant to the argument, but my point remains that there is research backed evidence that proves that suicide rates do tend to go down as trans people go through their transition, but if we are going to talk about health, the option that leads to a decrease in suicides does seem to be the healthier option.
bamesjond0069 | 842 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
Yoda
1 mo
I wouldn't be friends w them, thats fucking weird as fuck and its very wrong.
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Anonymous
1 mo
Not for me lol i’d just want them outta my life cause I don’t believe in delusions and this is my opinion
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Iron_Man | 5.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
How can you support me well im not transgender and to be honest I need a women who can just be cool honest and listens cause the relationship i just got of was the craziest one I've been through or ever seen before
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