My friend told me that they are transgender this week. How would you handle it? I told them they just ride the Biden money train. (I was joking when I said it) I also said "What ever floats your boat, we still cool."\(People in photo I do not know, Just before and after from the internet)
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I think the hardest part would be getting used to the new pronouns. You know from he to her stuff like that.
I find it weird from all the chicks he used to bang
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We moved away from each other and lost contact. I live in wisconsin and they moved to Ohio.
Then one i got a letter in the mail saying they were coming..
How would you handle, if your best friend for over 20 years, tells you that they are Transgender?
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Minxxie | 296 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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It happened to me, obviously not the friends for 20 years part because that's most of my life lol, but it was a bit of a shock at first. They said they had something serious to talk to me about and I was just scared they had cancer or something so when they said they were trans I was like "OH THANK GOD!"
All you can do is let them know that you love them and you are there for them. I got excited about exploring their gender identity through clothes because I love fashion so instead of it being this super serious moment we now had a fun activity to do together to begin their transition. We went for brunch and got a bit tipsy on mimosas and then we headed to the mall. It was great!
Of course, there are painful and emotional parts of transitioning but a lot of it is really fun and creative and it's like this celebration of someone affirming their true identity.
I have a family member that is going through the change from female to male... They still my family, still love them the same, but I still slip up and say her instead of him because I'm too used to saying her 🤷🏼♀️
You know I'm having that issure to. We been friends since we were about 8 years old. The funny thing is. I never saw it coming. In our group he was our Fonzie (Happy Days). Never would thought of this in a million years
Trans guy here, just make sure he/she knows that they have your support. Let them know you may struggle to get the right pronouns and name but just make sure to correct yourself if you forget. They aren't gonna expect you to remember it straight away, that's bullshit I know it's not easy. Just treat them the same way you did before don't act weird around them but maybe drop in things like "oh you look very masc/feminine today" to make them feel more confident
@humanearth Genuinely? It's good that you can see the other side of it, it really helps trans people to feel supported since it can be difficult. I'm proud that you feel like youve changed
I have several transgender friends, but they started taking the hormone treatments at a young age. If you have known someone for 20 years and they just decided to do this, they have waited to late to have any serious changes to their body. I don't understand why people like Bruce Jenner wait so late in life to do this. The treatments are not very effective on people in their 30's and 40's and beyond.
From what I been reading from this book I picked up yesterday.
Its mainly the older ones, because my genreation and older. Slammed them with religon, boy are boys, girls and girls, being gay is a illness,. Well you get the idea.
So over over the years of hearing. They feel shame, guilt and embrassment and afraid to speak up.
Its the younger people like you. That have to tell the older folks. Its okay to be you.
Hell I'm changing myself, just by reading a book. Because I wanted to know why and I to thought people had a mental illness.
Like in NY city they would have locked up Crossdresser for wearing women clothes. Say that that they must be a crimeal and must be hiding from police. And this was the law though out most of the 1930s- 1970s. The law got changed in mid 1980s.
menina | 4.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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I would be very surprised. But I would also be happy for them. I'd rather have them going through the sex change process than seeing them feeling miserable because they feel that they were born in the wrong body. But I agree it would hard to get used to the new pronouns and I would definitely think about their past.
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Glue-Sniffer | 385 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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That first girl is very cute. She is cuter as a girl than as a guy! I don't know what I would do. For starters I don't have a best friend. My friends are either married and have children. Really devoted to their role as mother or are whoring around, content with their short term relationships and desperately trying to find a husband. So I probably would be more than shocked!
I personally have experienced this with an old friend. I think the hard part is just adjusting to the pronouns and the changes of trying to look at her now as a him. Took me a long while to finally see him as a him since we grew up together, but I was supportive on his decisionmaking. I was just happy for him that he now feels like himself and he’s happier this way. Pronouns are important. It’s to be respectful of them.
Well if your friends not hitting on you or telling you there secretly in love with you than it shouldn't matter if there still the same type of person which you became boyfriend with then who cares let them be happy which im sure they would want you to be happy to cause if not thats shallow and you should just take your pride out if it and look at it in a adult manner
I’d be supportive but I would be conscious of fucking up and saying the wrong thing so would maybe distance myself for a while and educate myself a little before talking to him/her about it.
I started ready a book i picked up today. We Are Called Trans. It a book for someone like me to better understand. What they feel, the crap they have to deal with.
Little_Bumblebee | 89 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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Very surprised and I would be curious as to their thoughts and feelings about it. And their reasons.
But in the end, because they're my friend, I would support them.
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Kaneki05 | 2.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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Only thing that's awkward to me that. Is if they start looking like a hot women hahaha. Then i will get needless complicated thoughts about them which isn't great.
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MissDawn7961 | 573 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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I would dump this transgender person for there is no such thing as this and those who try this have mental problems ! however , a normal person who has a friend like this needs to pray for them like I just did ! thanks
Oh, of course. Transgender people have a mental illness, but you religious morons believing in imaginary bullshit because of your inability to cope with this world - you are all perfectly sane, right? The most ridiculous thing is you and your kind actually believe this...
You think that normal people don't have mental problems a lot of normal walk around like there normal but are secretly in pain and who gave you the power of judging cause it a sure wasn't a God or Jesus they said love everyone including thy enemy and if they did have mental illness they need more than just prayers they need professional help to and of course most religious people won't do that so a lot of people with mental illness get worse because people like you
Even if for the sake of the argument it was a mental illness, there is still no justification for mistreatment of them, you wouldn't mistreat someone with autism, down syndrome or any other disorder or mental illness, would you?
Not best friend, but a very good friend has. Not an issue to me, their appearance changes were a little different-feeling to me at first, but that's only because I'm not used to seeing it. They're still the same person.
Regarding pronouns, I just straight up told them hey, I apologise now if I slip up at any time but I'll be doing my best and trying to get it right. They were appreciative of that.
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Dazed0N0Confused | 312 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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My cousin is transitioning into a girl and I just want her to be happy.
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AdithyaR | 401 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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I wouldn't mind either. It's theur life and their choice. I'd respect it, my feelungs towards them aren't gonna change.
Also kinda interesting that in the comments I read before posting, only guys were the ones who said they'd not accept it and break off the friendship. I'm genuinely curious why they feel so hostile.
Wouldn't care there still the same person, tbf i had this happened but with a friend of around 4 or 6 mouths and am still close friends with her 8 years later.
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I'd apologise that I had ever made them think they couldn't talk to me about it before. It shouldn't have taken them 20 years to bring it up, if we were good friends.
Pete671 | 488 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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I'd be fine with it, but perhaps a little disappointed they took so long to share it,,, I'm sure I would have picked up on it anyway, or at least the possibility of it,,,
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Likes2drive | 3.5K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
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Well if I didn’t notice all that time then I would be shocked at that announcement after so long. Probably as shocked as Chris Jenner when Bruce became Caitlin
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