Can money poison your mind?

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So my boyfriend is starting this business with a guy who works for Facebook. Basically, my boyfriend had the initial idea but the other guy is programming for him, basically doing everything.

When my boyfriend discussed with me how he was planning to divide the cut, he said "he hated passing out cuts" because he was afraid that the other guy would get too much if the idea would become successful.

The other guy said his idea could become international and a billion dollar company, and money kind of blinked in my bfs eyes.

Anyways, he told me he didn't want the other guy to get too much of the money. I told him he can't be cheap on someone who makes his idea a reality, and that money isn't everything and even if the idea becomes successful, he would have more than enough regardless.

I'm just worried that he will become materialistic, selfish and a different person once he starts making money. It worries me that he wants to screw someone over just because he wants to make as much as he can by himself.

Any thoughts?

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1 y

Thanks everyone so much for the answers. I understand also that I am super young and it kind of terrifies me knowing I can be put in a situation I have no control over. This thing might be good, or it may not. If it's good, I'm going to be very careful.

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zeitgeist057 | 194 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Greed and selfishness are not good qualities and not good for business even. He could end up in a lawsuit with the guy and end up getting the "small cut" or even nothing if it turns out the other guy did all the work.

Something people don't understand often is that an idea is worthless without action. I have dozens of app ideas and I have no problem sharing them with anyone who wants to listen because I'm not a programmer, I don't have time to learn to program and I'm not going to build these apps. But even if I did share the idea with someone and said, "hey let's make this together, I have the idea, you do the programming, let's split the money", the person doing the work has more of a claim to profits than the "idea guy". When a court looks at the billable hours people put into building a company, you can only claim so much for having an idea. All the work and money that goes into it is more significant. If your boyfriend were to pay the guy for programming, then he would have a stronger claim to owning more of the profits, because he can say the programmer dude was a contract worker paid to do a job, not a partner or stakeholder taking part in building the business.

But that's not what you're asking. You're asking if money can poison the mind. Yes, but the mind may already be poisoned and it's just the money showing you. The same thing with a lot of character flaws, it's not the opportunity that is creating the flaw, the flaw is already there and the opportunity is shedding light on it.

Say 100 people found a wallet with money in it. A certain percentage will do what they can to return it, others will take the money and not try to find the owner. It's not the wallet poisoning them, they are already poisoned it's their actions that show who they are.

So aside from probably getting screwed over himself if he tries to screw someone else over, it's not going to sit well with other people who learn of his actions and could ruin his company even. People these days care a lot about values so it pays to be ethical and transparent. Plus it feels better as a person.

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ragequeen

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Amazing response... I had this exact conversation with my boyfriend about who deserves more of the profits, because now he has accepted his friend as a part of the team by letting him do most of the work. My boyfriend even admitted that he is doing a lot. But he keeps thinking about ways to be cheap and getting the most, and I told him to be VERY careful doing this. If his friend somehow suspects that my boyfriend is being cheap or cutting him off or screwing him over, he could leave (which is my bfs loss since he is a valuable asset) or set up a lawsuit against him. But he doesn't listen to me. I am a business and HR major so I know what Im talking about also. His excuse is that "he was the one with the idea" but I told him that his friend is making it a reality, so he has a claim to a big part of the profit. He disagrees. So we will see what happens.

My main concern though is how my bfs main goal since I met him was to become a millionaire. And now it worries me that he is willing to screw other people over to just get that little extra that he doesn't even need or will ever spend. And THAT scares me. I sense greed.

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zeitgeist057

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That does sound kind of scary, especially to be in a relationship with him. For instance if you were to get married, then it would probably be in his mind to guard his resources against you, want a prenup, and in the relationship controlling the assets to make sure he has more access than you. Not a good partnership.

I don't think it's bad to have a monetary goal, but the biggest concern is how he is pitting himself vs. the rest of the world rather than seeing himself as a cooperative sharing member of a species, trying to create benefit for society. As a business/HR major you already understand we get more from cooperation than competition. Fighting over wealth rather than cooperating to generate wealth is more stressful and operates on a starvation model rather than seeing the abundance of potential. I strongly believe this type of thinking can also be reflected in your romantic life, when thinking of love as a commodity of scarcity rather than an abundant spring of energy and light that flows from within you.

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zeitgeist057

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I think it would be a good conversation to have if you haven't already, to find out more about his motivation for the goal of "being a millionaire". For example, I come from a life of poverty as my mother was a single mom, basic laborer with 5 kids. So we didn't have a lot of extra resources, but we got by and had a lot of fun and good experiences without money. Now, I feel I am motivated to save more, have a bigger buffer of resources because of my past. I also feel I am blessed with the ability to get by on less and know how to enjoy life without relying on consuming goods and services for fulfillment.

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ragequeen

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Hi again! I've definitely taken those marriage thoughts into consideration. I just have to wait and see what happens. I told him that to me, money doesn't matter. And where we are VERY different is that my goal is to be able to live comfortably and be able to do activities that I love. And I don't mind saving for it for a long time because that is how I was raised. My boyfriend just wants to become a millionaire and show off to everyone. He is a very materialistic person, whereas I'm not. I did tell him that even if he were to get rich, I have to finish my education. I still want to do a masters abroad. And he seemed okay with that. Because to be honest with you, I feel right now that I don't know him yet until I see him with money. Maybe his pride will inflate so greatly that he feels like he won't need me anymore. Maybe he will get lots of attention from more attractive women. I've thought about this. So I have to protect myself and my future. I know it happens to some.

I guess the reason why Im so concerned is because I saw a similar pattern in my dad growing up. My mom told me he started with nothing, but my dad said he always knew he was going to be rich someday. But my mom was the driving force, she saw his potential and made him believe himself. She said he started very humble, but when he started making more money he became super stuck up and cocky. He loves to show off to family members, but we have lost contact with many of them mysteriously, but my instinct and intuition tells me it's because they can't stand my dad's behavior. I'm just scared the same thing will happen to my boyfriend.

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ragequeen

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Also, you wondered what the motivation behind "becoming a millionaire" was. I don't really know. I'm glad you made me think about this. My boyfriend told me he used to manage this gambling site for counter strike. He didn't come from a poor family. They did average. I think it's due to power. He wants to feel powerful.

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ragequeen

Amazing response... I had this exact conversation with my boyfriend about who deserves more of the profits, because now he has accepted his friend as a part of the team by letting him do most of the work. My boyfriend even admitted that he is doing a lot. But he keeps thinking about ways to be cheap and getting the most, and I told him to be VERY careful doing this. If his friend somehow suspects that my boyfriend is being cheap or cutting him off or screwing him over, he could leave (which is my bfs loss since he is a valuable asset) or set up a lawsuit against him. But he doesn't listen to me. I am a business and HR major so I know what Im talking about also. His excuse is that "he was the one with the idea" but I told him that his friend is making it a reality, so he has a claim to a big part of the profit. He disagrees. So we will see what happens.

My main concern though is how my bfs main goal since I met him was to become a millionaire. And now it worries me that he is willing to screw other people over to just get that little extra that he doesn't even need or will ever spend. And THAT scares me. I sense greed.

Answer 3

zeitgeist057

That does sound kind of scary, especially to be in a relationship with him. For instance if you were to get married, then it would probably be in his mind to guard his resources against you, want a prenup, and in the relationship controlling the assets to make sure he has more access than you. Not a good partnership.

I don't think it's bad to have a monetary goal, but the biggest concern is how he is pitting himself vs. the rest of the world rather than seeing himself as a cooperative sharing member of a species, trying to create benefit for society. As a business/HR major you already understand we get more from cooperation than competition. Fighting over wealth rather than cooperating to generate wealth is more stressful and operates on a starvation model rather than seeing the abundance of potential. I strongly believe this type of thinking can also be reflected in your romantic life, when thinking of love as a commodity of scarcity rather than an abundant spring of energy and light that flows from within you.

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zeitgeist057

I think it would be a good conversation to have if you haven't already, to find out more about his motivation for the goal of "being a millionaire". For example, I come from a life of poverty as my mother was a single mom, basic laborer with 5 kids. So we didn't have a lot of extra resources, but we got by and had a lot of fun and good experiences without money. Now, I feel I am motivated to save more, have a bigger buffer of resources because of my past. I also feel I am blessed with the ability to get by on less and know how to enjoy life without relying on consuming goods and services for fulfillment.

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ragequeen

Hi again! I've definitely taken those marriage thoughts into consideration. I just have to wait and see what happens. I told him that to me, money doesn't matter. And where we are VERY different is that my goal is to be able to live comfortably and be able to do activities that I love. And I don't mind saving for it for a long time because that is how I was raised. My boyfriend just wants to become a millionaire and show off to everyone. He is a very materialistic person, whereas I'm not. I did tell him that even if he were to get rich, I have to finish my education. I still want to do a masters abroad. And he seemed okay with that. Because to be honest with you, I feel right now that I don't know him yet until I see him with money. Maybe his pride will inflate so greatly that he feels like he won't need me anymore. Maybe he will get lots of attention from more attractive women. I've thought about this. So I have to protect myself and my future. I know it happens to some.

I guess the reason why Im so concerned is because I saw a similar pattern in my dad growing up. My mom told me he started with nothing, but my dad said he always knew he was going to be rich someday. But my mom was the driving force, she saw his potential and made him believe himself. She said he started very humble, but when he started making more money he became super stuck up and cocky. He loves to show off to family members, but we have lost contact with many of them mysteriously, but my instinct and intuition tells me it's because they can't stand my dad's behavior. I'm just scared the same thing will happen to my boyfriend.

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ragequeen

Also, you wondered what the motivation behind "becoming a millionaire" was. I don't really know. I'm glad you made me think about this. My boyfriend told me he used to manage this gambling site for counter strike. He didn't come from a poor family. They did average. I think it's due to power. He wants to feel powerful.

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Aakash_Hangargi | 418 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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I think he is more afraid of his intellectual property being stolen.

Bc once the programmer knows the idea he could start different company if he has the capability and could make it better so your boyfriends buisness might get impacted.

He must do something to protect it!!!

And to buy his loyalty he has to pay hefty amount.

Businesses work like this there is no other way.

People change, but if he would still love you that's good if not then what's thed point of beijng with him.

Everyone is selfish it's not a new thing but the degree of selfishness varies

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ragequeen

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It isn't about the idea being stolen. My boyfriend told me he wanted as much of the money as possible.

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Aakash_Hangargi

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Yeah bc competition will be there b4 similar things one wants more profit.

It isn't bad one must be hungry to excel in any buisness money is his motivator.

But as I said whatever happens you will know how he handles it with any result it would be benfitial to you.

Money will not decide how he will behave, it's just show you what he will value more it's fine in my opinion.

You dobt have anything to worry as of now

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ragequeen

It isn't about the idea being stolen. My boyfriend told me he wanted as much of the money as possible.

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Aakash_Hangargi

Yeah bc competition will be there b4 similar things one wants more profit.

It isn't bad one must be hungry to excel in any buisness money is his motivator.

But as I said whatever happens you will know how he handles it with any result it would be benfitial to you.

Money will not decide how he will behave, it's just show you what he will value more it's fine in my opinion.

You dobt have anything to worry as of now

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FreyaRed | 594 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Yoda

Money is just a tool, greed for reward spoils people's minds. This reward can be many things, sex, food, drugs, money, attention, affection... Greed is inability to renouncing or delaying of reward the person is accustomed to. People greedy for money aren't better than people affected with obesity or alcohol addicts, the only one difference is that society glorifies greed for money.

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WindAtMyBack | 1.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Everyone has business ideas. They are worthless. It's the person who does the work who deserves the fruit of their labor. Your boyfriend's idea means nothing.

Seriously, ideas are next to worthless. For every thousand ideas, maybe one is implemented by someone with enough drive, motivation, knowledge and skill to actually do something with it.

"he hated passing out cuts"

Unless I'm totally missing something, he's not passing out anything, because he doesn't have anyhting to pass out. He's placing WAY too much value on his idea. If the other guy is doing everything, the idea is worth 5% and the sweat equity is worth the other 95%.

If your boyfriend wants a big cut, then he needs to do a big portion of the work.

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Jamie05rhs

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I think this is a bit hyperbolic, but I mostly agree with the spirit of it.

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Jamie05rhs

I think this is a bit hyperbolic, but I mostly agree with the spirit of it.

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ohshee | 1.2K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

They said money is the root of all evil and really the only thing that I know is that if I want to do something when I want to do it or if I want to buy something when I want to buy it if I want to buy gifts for somebody or help somebody I need to work my ass off to be able to do all the above and then there's eating paying bills so we all need it to live it is the same time that keeps you humble because you have to sacrifice a lot in order to make it most of the time it's worth it sometimes not but I think anything in this world can poison somebody's mind I think it's what you do with it when you have it

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ohshee

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It doesn't matter that you are young what matters is you see something and feel something happening and you know it's not right or you see where it could go that way ,, that make you very smart and wise you see and feel the line that can be crossed , and deep in side you are way smarter than most ,, you are very wise

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ohshee

It doesn't matter that you are young what matters is you see something and feel something happening and you know it's not right or you see where it could go that way ,, that make you very smart and wise you see and feel the line that can be crossed , and deep in side you are way smarter than most ,, you are very wise

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Harris_sresht

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Money is just a Magnifying glass. Money gives opportunities. So more money means more opportunities to be yourself.
In short, what ever you are, money won't corrupt it but will enhance it.
If you are inherently greedy then money will make you more so.
If you're inherently bad the money will make you more so bad.
Seee?
Money won't change your boyfriend, it'll only bring him out and show you the bigger picture and him.
So instead of worrying just wait and see what happens when gets or makes more money.
Either that or have a soul talk with him. Let him know you're worried and what you think.

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Jjpayne | 2.5K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

I will say this, you have to be careful with it. It's not how you use money but how you view it. You cannot worship money or things.. everything has its place in moderation... So.. it's good to keep yourself in check when it comes to money. Keeping in mind, that I firmly believe that life is about other people, not possessions or simply yourself. Life is all about sharing with others. Having that as a mindset also knowing that we are born naked and naked we will leave this world, taking nothing with us. We have to value our experiences and accomplishments not what we have acclimated

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Just remember to stay grounded, smart and humble

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Jjpayne

Just remember to stay grounded, smart and humble

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Lliam | 2.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

I'm not sure if money "poisons" one's mind, but it could. I think the pursuit of money can definitely poison one's mind. The pursuit of wealth becomes more important than being well off or wealthy. Some people will do anything in the pursuit of more and more money.
I never understood that, myself. It's great to have enough money to be comfortable and have fun. But I'd rather enjoy the money than spend my time worrying about how to make more and more. Some people never get enough. I think that's an illness like alcoholism or gambling addiction.

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hellacray | 1.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Well if he's helping him design the product of course the boyfriend is going to have to pay him.

I think he's getting a little too ahead of himself. He hasn't generated any money yet and is already thinking that it's worth billions.

A lot of people think they have billion dollar ideas and then end up failing. I'd say it's more important to launch whatever it is he's making and then see where it goes.

And I don't know what your boyfriend is doing to contribute. Does he have money to fund the project? Is he good at marketing?

Cause if his friend is doing everything and your boyfriend has no money and no skills to contribute. Then technically it's the friend that owns it.

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Nik1hil | 881 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

I am in field of Crypto-currencies and standing at the edge of becoming Millionaire..
And all I can say is..
Yes money can act like poison to the mind. .

There are 2 types of people.. 1 to whom money affects either negative or positive .
2 who are not affected by the money...

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Unit1 | 1.8K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Anything can poison your mind. Not only money but religion, propaganda, TV and too much water too.
Whether we like it or not we are all bound to the almighty green paper. The poor are enslaved by it and the rich enslave it.

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NathanDavis | 1.7K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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money, power and influence... yes, they all can twist you a bit, in this case, he's already feeling greedy about the money he doesn't have yet, so that's a bad sign.

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Finchie40 | 183 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Guru

Yea money can make a huge impact on someone and change them , it’s kind of like a mentally ill greed problem , some people allow it to get to their heads and think their shit don’t stink anymore

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Old_Golden

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Contracts, legally binding contracts. Same with pre-nups, it's the only way to try to guarantee you don't get screwed in the end. The money doesn't poison people it just reveals underlying emotions/tendencies/desires

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Jamie05rhs | 1.9K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

I honestly didn't interpret that as screwing the other guy over. The way it read to me, it just seems like he doesn't want to get screwed himself.

But yeah, you're right that we can't be too greedy. Success is success.

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Dargil | 3.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

Absolutely. Many wealthy people are owned by their money and live in fear of being robbed, scammed, etc.

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REALSTEEL

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money turns to greed, greed turns to anger, anger leads to hate so becareful you must be young padawon don't let money follow you to the dark side of the force a little star wars knowledge

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OddBeMe | 14.1K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

I’m pretty sure your boyfriend is too dumb to worry about this.

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ragequeen

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What do you mean?

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ragequeen

What do you mean?

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Guanfei | 1.7K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

Master

My thought is that you don't trust your boyfriend a lot, apparently.
Also, he's right to be careful, in the business world, you can get eaten and lose everything very quickly, and he must secure his own interests.

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jasco | 1.2K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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No money is just a means to a end, it doesn't change people. If he starts changing than that emotion was there to begin with, it just couldn't come out

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Tstrbrainer | 441 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Money, power, etc can poison our minds, but it doesn't happen with everyone.

Your boyfriend sure deserve a big chunk, but the other guy should definitely get some fair share

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monkeynutts | 1.4K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.

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Yeah greed is very bad. I think you should care about this.

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illuminatiii

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Congrats beforehand, you gonna be a billionaires girlfriend😎

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