Thank you so much for this.It's nice to receive a comment that's not attacking you know.I'm not going to lie, I am guilty of claiming a person to be a wigger in the past but I remember I was deeply offended that said person was Turkish and trying to imitate the Jamaican patios, she had never been to Jamaica never had Jamaican friends but mostly hung around bi racial girls. Although they did listen to "reggae and dance hall" as it was during the popular Sean Paul era she mostly conducted herself in a British/Turkish way among Turkish friends etc.She would exclude and disregard me a black girl and born to full Jamaican parents, even though I was friends with some of those bi racial girls. She argued that she could call me a coconut for speaking and acting British. To which I remember I argued but I was born and raised here, so I have every right to be British and embrace the culture of my parents and family of generations before.But she didn't get it.It wasn't that she liked and acted "black" it was because she put it on simply because she was trying to fit in and resumed her normal ways in other circles where it wasn't presume to be appropriate. I found this highly offensive! Unfortunately much like your girlfriend I've faced many similar issues. I am full black but can't speak patios, was never taught to cook the food, and although I was aware of some cultural things TV comedy music etc I have always embraced all aspects of my dual heritage so to speak.
So that included me at some point being a bit grungy and going to metal clubs because I like some metal music, the same with rock, indie rock, whilst also liking reggae and dance hall r'n'b etc etc.I'm a multifacted human being.And didn't see why I should limit myself. But I also didn't think I should deny myself just to fit in.But this brought with it a lot of hate. Even within my group.I often wonder if by being this way I was the acceptable less threatening version of black. Something that many black people suggest still being an issue. (not diluting themselves=discrimination)It's tricky because for every point of view we can see the different opinions neither right or wrong. Just a perspective. Does that make sense?
No problem! No need to attack anyone, we’re all just conversations, haha. I hear you about the Turkish girl, sounds like it was inauthentic and contrived in certain environments. It’s just about being “you”, and if that happens to drift into someone else’s idea of how someone of another race should “be”, that’s their issue. But there’s absolutely a line where things can be out of bounds, even when it’s meant harmlessly, so I get all that. When I was about 13 or 14 I watched Menace II Society one too many times, and I actually tried to braid my own hair up like O-Dogg had his, with rubber bands🤦♂️😂, and besides just looking stupid…. it was just kinda “OOF”, in retrospect, and I wouldn’t do it again understanding what I understand today.At the end of the day, just do you. People are going to try to put us all in boxes of some sort, and that’s ultimately stupid, and all you can do is just roll your eyes and know it’s not a “you” problem.
*were all just conversating
I love I was the pre Eminem
@WhiteSteve I like you. You're a cool guy.I hope things work out for you and your girlfriend long term. People need to be with people that get them and accept them for who they are.And if you're like you are with her like you've come across today all that pain she's faced in the past will feel irrelevant.😊As for the hair 😂😂😂 you know I kinda think when we're young we can kinda get away with things like that. Without it being taken too seriously. I hope you took photographs that's definitely for the photo album lol
He's not hard on the eyes either.
Much like whitesteve I couldn't agree more with you.It's tiring though trying to fit somewhere and not. In recent times I'm spending time alone in an attempt to look after and nurture me. People scare me a lot because they're just so devious, I don't want to say "these days" but I really do wonder if I'll ever find my tribe. You know.I'm assuming you're ginger haired just a assumption correct me if I'm wrong if you are ill tell you this, I've always admired ginger and auburn hair. I do feel upset for those that burn very easily due to the fairer skin but now we're more aware of protecting the skin on the sun I can imagine products are better. But I've always loved and admired ginger hair. Especially because the few I have met have had the most thickest beautiful hair I've ever seen. Like you say it's unique and the rarity to me is something I've especially found appealing. Best wishes to you. You're a kind person 😊
White chocolate? As in white on the outside black in the middle? Idiots!The lengths people go to just to make others feel uncomfortable for being who they are is deeply irritating.I wish people would just let others frigging well be!
I’m black. It’s more like they were saying I’m supposed to be chocolate but I’m white instead.
Oh boy! Ugh! Sorry to make the mistake!
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I won't lie that's been my experience too
I'm not a traitor thank you very much. I just don't see any reason to hate anyone.I may dislike a person that ill treats me but that's all hate is a very strong and unnecessary reaction.
People of color 🤣
@WowwGirl Dammit. Niggas, Chikas, and White boys worked just fine before. #notwoke
It was funny
What's a possibility of coconut man?
@WowwGirl Me no know.
I'm not woke either
Black on the outside, white on the inside.