The Valentine’s Day is all about the female.
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Voted "No." Not because I have any strenuous objection to the idea but because it seems pointless. Valentine's Day is for both sexes.
My s/o and I celebrate the day - actually we take a long weekend away together - and give each other gifts and just spend time enjoying each other's company. I love her with all my heart and she loves me and we just see the day as kind of a fun - and admittedly sort of cheesy - way to celebrate that love.
It would never have occurred to either of us to see it as a day for the other except in the sense that we care about each other and see it as a chance to show that affection. She means everything to me and I don't worry that I am doing more or less for me that I am for her.
It is about us, not about me.
As far as when we were dating, I took the initiative because that is what the guy does. Men are less known for showing their feelings and so, for me, it was a chance to do something special and out of the ordinary. Not because I was a man, per se, but because it is a day to do something special.
So, again, while I have no objection to the idea - we do, by the way, have Mother's Day and Father's Day - I don't see the need. It is a misreading of Valentine's Day to call it a "female holiday."2
First, it's not a women's holiday. It's a couples' holiday. Two men in a relationship may celebrate it. And I've done and given things to my boyfriend on Valentine's Day. It's not about giving gifts but celebrating love together. It's become traditional for guys to give something to female partners, but it's not a "women's" holiday.
The bigger question is, if some guys feel that it's a female holiday (and you're entitled to your opinion) then why should it be a contest to try to even the playing field? Nothing's being taken away from guys here. In a relationship each person should want to treat each other well, not just with gifts but with actions and emotions.
Would you consider a wedding between a man and a woman to also be a female event since the bride usually wears an expensive gown, holds the bouquet, and gets the majority of the attention? No, because it's not about that. It's about the marriage and love between two people. On a much smaller scale, Valentine's Day is a celebration of love in which it's become a cultural norm for a man to give a woman flowers or candy or a gift. But if the man is invested in the relationship he should be happy to do it, and not try to find a way to get what he perceives as his fair share.22
Since when is it a day for woman? its a day for copules and romanticans it has no sex
I mean sure its market more to woman, or man to do for woman, but that is what the market show works, becouse honestly man are easy to please, and still think woman needs cash for romance that is just not that
But if you belive and full for the marketing...
The best romantic action I ever had was a guy that just made stuff from paper, they learn it, and made flowers and stuff from it, that was fantastic more then any grand exspincive stuff (paper as old newspaper and stuff that made it so much more intresting)
Only thing that makes it woman is the marketing not the day it self, and not what anyone should see410
What Girls & Guys Said
Why do you let society decide what Valentine's Day is for you? If you want to be appreciated by your woman on VD, let her know!0
We already do - Steak & BJ Day.
And the reason that day exists is because Valentine's Day is DEFINITELY for the benefit of women rather than men - it's impossible to argue otherwise. Now, to be fair, us guys don't mind that it's about the women - we don't mind having a reason to do something nice for our girl. But to deny that it's expressly designed to benefit women is dishonest.
I've easily spent over $10,000 on Valentines presents and trips over the years, compared to perhaps $500 spent on me. That's not a complaint - I am not looking for gifts or for her to spend a bunch of money on me - and it's not just the money - it's lots of planning, it's sacrificing work days (including a couple of entire projects), and it's going places and doing things that I would never choose myself, because it's what she likes. Again, no regrets, but it's never happened the other way around, and I've never heard of a guy I knew, in any age group, to have had their girl do something special for him.
Again, I don't think any guy here is complaining about the way it is, but when women pretend that it's not in women's favor, that really rubs me the wrong way.10
"Women expect to be treated to about $154 worth of V-Day treats, but only end up spending around $64 for their SO. A stat from another Valentine's Day spending survey from WalletHub really drives this home: Women are 33 percent more likely than men to spend nothing, while men are twice as likely to spend over $100. And in 2018, men spent almost twice as much as women did on a significant other ($196 versus $100)"
I always get a chuckle when women claim Valentine's Day is for both men and women. I mean a few women actually walk that walk, but most don't. A better name for it would be Female Entitlement Day.50
What Valentine's Day really is, is a way for men to see how unfair, thoughtless, uncaring, and greedy their significant other really is.
It is pretty simple. If she gets angry for the man not doing something for her or giving her something that she also did NOT do for the man, then she is a selfish hypocrite and it is best to end the relationship right then.
Valentine's Day can actually do men a big favor if they pay attention to all of their partner's actions and words. It will show how the relationship would be if you stayed together long term.
A good partner wouldn't expect any more from you than they are willing to do themselves.0
Of course, but it will never happen. “Romance” is strictly about what men are doing to please women. Never the other way around. Men who are pleased are pigs, misogynists, selfish, controlling, abusive, etc. Women who invest any amount of time pleasing men are similarly disparaged in a wide variety of ways; pick-me, slut, internalized misogynist, naive. There’s never a nice word for a good woman or a happy man, at least not from other women and feminists. That doesn’t seem like equality to me.30
On the Catholic calendar, Saint Valentine's day celebrates the patron saint of love, romance and (!) Beekeepers.
Its a say for females and males. Roses for her, and...31
Valentine's Day is derived from the Catholic feast day for Saint Valentine, going all the way back to the 8th century (Valentine himself lived in the 3rd century), though since 1955, feast days for Catholic saints have been reduced to simply commemorative celebrations.
I'm all for just making it a feast day again.22
Make up and celebrate whatever holidays you want. If you don't like Valentine's day, the simple solution is to not celebrate it. Do you also celebrate the Hajj and Rosh Hashanah just because they exist, or are you like nah I don't believe in or care about that and just move on with life like it's any other day.11
No. Valentine's Day is a woman's holiday or by/for/about women. Is it a weird, messed up holiday? Yes. But we don't need genderized versions of it -- we need to get rid of it. If we think we should be buying cards and teddy bears and chocolates and roses and lingerie for our lovers, then we ought to do that year round.0
Men buy gifts just to shut their girlfriend up. So how is the day not about satisfying themselves by keeping the ole hag quiet? 🤣 They buy sexy lingerie for us to wear FOR THEM. They buy us chocolates then they eat half of them. I think its their holiday too dude6
No. I don’t need one day out of the year to be shown that my girl loves me. She does it everyday. To whoever say Valentine’s Day is a couples day, that’s a crock of shit. It’s geared toward women by corporations who play on their feelings to guilt men into getting their women things. Because I’d you don’t you’re an asshole. Everything is directed toward women. These companies play on their feelings.0
No, the world revolves around women and us men are just supposed to work provide support women and all the pretty and rich ones walk all over us and we buy their shit. We are nothing but slaves looking for love but getting humiliated and trampled over0
Valentine's day is a little different in other countries. For instance, in Japan, women give chocolates to the men in their lives. A month later, on White Day, all the men who received presents must return the favour. If I had someone to give chocolates to, I wouldn't want anything from her. I'm not into celebrating anything.0
If you think Valentine’s day is all about pleasing your female partner, you have a really warped idea of what romance is.36
That somehowmimplies that valentines day is a female Version of something. What makes valentines day for women? As far as I know its for partners not rarely men and women?25
Even though "Steak & BJ Day" is satire, it should be turned into a real holiday. Just change the "BJ" part to something more youth-friendly by name.10
I think we should just get rid of valentines day. We live in a post romance world relationship these days are all about divorce settlements and child support payments.20
I don't really understand why we would need a male version of Valentines Day? I do just as much for him on Valentines day as he does for me. I spoil him with gifts and a couple years I've went all out and decorated his bedroom for him with streamers and decorations. I usually do just as much, if not more, for him than he does for me for Valentines day0
Sometimes it depends on where you live. I think maybe we should have a "Brotine's day" much like how there's a Galentine's day for women & her lady friends.8
Valentine's day is about couples so I'd say it's just as much for guys as it is for girls.27
The fact that the vast majority of women said 'No' whereas men said 'Yes' is quite telling.
And why do the ladies don't think there should be a male version? Because you truly think that V-day is meant for BOTH? Oh please, when was the last time you heard a guy say "I hope I receive flowers or that my woman will get me something for V-day!". That's what WOMEN do. So let's not pretend that Valentine's day is not mainly marketed to please women, shall we?
Valentine's day is for women. Plain and simple. Because it is WOMEN who are mostly obsessed with it. Whereas for the men, they see it like another day of the year that they feel obligated to do or get something for their woman. Also, according to one study, 50% of women within the study reported that they are ready to dump their significant other if he doesn't get them something. I dare anyone to show me a study where a MAN is willing to do the same.
So why do women disagree?
Simple: Double standards. Whether they want to admit it or not, V-day is catering to THEM. And a day for a man means that THEY will feel obligated to the responsibility they put on a man. Which is getting them gifts or doing something for them. If they truly were for 'equality' then they would have voted 'Yes'.
Because heaven's forbid that men have a special day where they are getting spoiled by their women just as women have that special day for themselves every year other than their birthday.
I have to say I don't think I agree at least from my own point of view
And also say I did not buy in any VDay except if really did not have the time, will always make something
And by the way your poll dose say something, it shows a big group of man don't *want* anything
I completely agree about the marketing, but.. you know.. its marketing!! they will go for the most profitable way, but hey maybe soon they will eqrlize and get the idea "woman got money as well..." then we see some woman to buy marketing go wider, just a question what company break that
The day it self should totally be for both, and honestly if any woman out there see it as a one way street she got a problem, as it may show how they see the relationship
So or so marketing you should know don't tell reality, if you want one example go for the video game marketing going for boys when it started
@Red-Blaze The probable reason, behind men, don't want anything is cause we don't aspect anything. The only thing we get from our mothers is a Valentine's day card and some of our favorite candy.