My love interest say he plays for a NACC basketball team, however, is he lying?

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I won't go over the details of how we met unless it really matters to someone answering my question, however, he says he plays for a decently-known NACC basketball team. I know for a fact he is from the state he claims to play in, however, I can't find him on any rosters or photos. He is very lowkey though, and prefers not to post pictures of himself even on his on social media. (Yes I know what he looks like, so he's not catfishing with his looks at least.) Is it possible to maybe have a scholarship or be kind of like a "sub"? I just want to know why he isn't on any of the roster for this year or previous years. Are their any other possibilities? I'm not very educated in sports and I don't want to offend him. He is 24 if that helps.

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btbc92

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You are not dating this guy. How can he be your love interest and you just met this individual? You need to ask him personally or just not waste your time. If you see nothing it could be anything. However, it would make you sound like a stalker and suspicious if you have no logical reason for asking. It is very much important we know how you met because either way he could be lying or telling the truth. I don't see how it's any of your personal business if you are not going to date or him even desiring similar. Otherwise, as somebody else says, he could be a player. They'll lie or even use their status to gain anything. How can he be your love interest and you don't even know him? Do you even know what love is, or is this your hormones and or lust talking? That is the most important. What are YOUR intentions? Because if your intent is not good, neither of him or yourself should be involved.

For all you know he may "work with them", that doesn't mean he works for them. He could be on an internship that is unpaid. That doesn't mean he plays. But that he plays with them from time to time. That doesn't mean he would be rostered, everybody and you would know even without looking him up. You don't even have to know anything about sports to understand this which is just common sense to know. You know this. So should that not tell you that this could be a red flag?

You need to investigate and ask him directly. Or just tell him you are interested in him in that way and just tell the truth instead of expecting him to you everything. I am quiet about what I do now for a REASON. Because people are nosy and want to be up in your business and sabotage. So again, tell the guy what you want, and maybe there is a logical explanation. Otherwise, lying or not, just leave the guy alone if he feels suspicious and a red flag. Either way, what matters is that he does what he says he does and you can move on to another guy or at least befriend him if he is overall okay in his place. Unless, again, you feel your life is in danger. Use proper judgment. Why is this guy is your love interest? What about him makes you consider him that?

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Ma'am you've honesty just assumed. I called him a love interest simply because we have not made it official yet, meaning we are not yet boyfriend and girlfriend. We're in a dating/talking stage. He also decided to pursue me, so I have every right to know if he is lying about his career or not. We've known each for a few months now (3-4 months), as we were just casually friends before. I genuinely didn't care if he played basketball or not, as that is not the reason I choose to date him. I only found out gradually when he told me the college he attended & later he told me played basketball there. I got curious and decided to google him but found no results. As for your comment about common sense, I genuinely don't know a lot about sports. You're quite judgmental, when all you had to do was answer my question. Maybe YOU could learn a few things from this.
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Again. My question to you is WHY he is a LOVE INTEREST? I am trying to understand what is your intent? I am not assuming. I am just trying to figure out do you really have compatibility and understanding of who this person is, or are you with him because he looks cute? It is IMPORTANT to make judgments and being judgmental is not always bad if you have the right intent. I answered your question, but you are taking offense. I honestly don't care who pursued who, though that is important.

You only met this person for 3-4 months. And yet he is a possible love interest? This is WAY too soon, and you are very young. How can you be friends for such a short time, desiring something else, yet you concerned about this? This is not about sports. This is a matter of the relationship between common sense and safety. What are your intentions with him? Because if you don't understand this, you're going to be a target for creeps. This is way too soon for you to be thinking of this guy as a love interest. Way too soon. Priorities.

Because your the one asking for help about this guy not knowing if he is lying. How do we know you're not lying? I believe you are not mature enough to fully understand this is not a safe way for you to entering into a mutually desirable relationship. Because he sounds like a red flag. But I know girls like you would be quick to date him because you feel like it. You lack the proper judgment to do what would keep you safe.
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Being "Judgmental" in your opinion kept me SAFE from people who may have bad intentions, and that includes watching out for somebody of your mentality who would have been a liability because you don't THINK. You have to want to think for yourself and be wise with your decision. I am trying to not only teach you but to inform you of yourself and what you need to think about. I already told you before. You do not have to know sports to know when something doesn't add up. I DON'T EVEN know about sports like that. BUT COMMON SENSE TELLS ME <--- Pay ATTENTION because I am teaching you how to spot a liar, that this guy is either overexaggerating or lying. Overexaggerating isn't always necessary a LIE. But it is the INTENTION of it that determines who and what kind of person you are dealing with.
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btbc92

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So unless your morals are to be with people who are authentic and your authentic yourself (you tend to be who you attract), his intent may be to prompt himself to be somebody he isn't to get you interested in him. It could be out of desperation, or to use and abuse you. We don't really know that. So I don't have to assume. I am not speaking to him. I am only going by what tells us of him. We don't know what your real intent is. But I can tell about you so far that you sway based on who a person is to you, be it their physical, status, etc. Do you have an interest in him because your curious about the sport he plays? Or is he that kind of guy that looks popular and you just happen to "Fall" for the guy? I'm a woman myself. I have friends who are similar or were like you growing up. I want to know who YOU are as a woman, what's your business in dating, with this guy, friends or not, etc. WHY? Because if you don't know, how would you know why you or he are doing what you're doing? What is the purpose? You have to ask the hard questions in order for you to get the answers you need. But remember, it may not be what you are going to like. The truth is not meant for you to like, but for you to know the TRUTH. I rather hear you want to screw with the guy but you want to be safe by not getting a creep, then to pretend you have a desire to truly understand and know him because it felt like you and him share a connection. You just want to make sure it is with the right guy? Which is it? I don't want to assume of you. This is why I addressed it the way I need to. Others cannot help you if they cannot judge you and your actions. Without good judgment, others can or may control you. I want you to be informed, and knowledgeable about the tools you need. But it won't help you if your intent is just as wicked or sinful as the other.
btbc92

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My fair warning to you is to be MINDFUL who you are attracting and is attracted to. I don't want to spectculate about the guy, he may not be bad, but neither do I want to make excuses for him. All I want to know is what is your intent. Because if you don't know, your wasting your time bothering guys who may or may not be deserving of you either antagonizing them or you putting yourself in danger.
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I don't fault you because your young, you still have a LOT to learn about adulthood, men, and even yourself. Take time to KNOW THIS GUY FIRST! I don't care how much he makes you swoon, don't be naive. Because his lying could be just childish, and sometimes it is just harmless especially if he is just boasting about himself and not interested in dating you anyway. But since YOU see him as a love interest and want to make it your business to know who he really is, it is your responsibility to make those judgment calls. How can you call me judgmental when you're doing the same? Judging to see if he is lying? If you're going to judge people, be prepared to be judged the same wya. Because he can get hostile and say it's none of your business, and then you'll feel offended, hurt, and then angry he doesn't reciprocate anymore. That's why you need to be HONEST with yourself and come correct. Otherwise, he won't come correct. And if that is your morals, you wouldn't be remotely interested in somebody who is a liar and isn't coming to you with the same autencity you expect to be done for you. I don't pry into people's business unless I personally feel it is a threat to me. By then I know not to get too involved.

Answer 2

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Ma'am you've honesty just assumed. I called him a love interest simply because we have not made it official yet, meaning we are not yet boyfriend and girlfriend. We're in a dating/talking stage. He also decided to pursue me, so I have every right to know if he is lying about his career or not. We've known each for a few months now (3-4 months), as we were just casually friends before. I genuinely didn't care if he played basketball or not, as that is not the reason I choose to date him. I only found out gradually when he told me the college he attended & later he told me played basketball there. I got curious and decided to google him but found no results. As for your comment about common sense, I genuinely don't know a lot about sports. You're quite judgmental, when all you had to do was answer my question. Maybe YOU could learn a few things from this.

Answer 3

btbc92

Again. My question to you is WHY he is a LOVE INTEREST? I am trying to understand what is your intent? I am not assuming. I am just trying to figure out do you really have compatibility and understanding of who this person is, or are you with him because he looks cute? It is IMPORTANT to make judgments and being judgmental is not always bad if you have the right intent. I answered your question, but you are taking offense. I honestly don't care who pursued who, though that is important.

You only met this person for 3-4 months. And yet he is a possible love interest? This is WAY too soon, and you are very young. How can you be friends for such a short time, desiring something else, yet you concerned about this? This is not about sports. This is a matter of the relationship between common sense and safety. What are your intentions with him? Because if you don't understand this, you're going to be a target for creeps. This is way too soon for you to be thinking of this guy as a love interest. Way too soon. Priorities.

Because your the one asking for help about this guy not knowing if he is lying. How do we know you're not lying? I believe you are not mature enough to fully understand this is not a safe way for you to entering into a mutually desirable relationship. Because he sounds like a red flag. But I know girls like you would be quick to date him because you feel like it. You lack the proper judgment to do what would keep you safe.

Answer 4

btbc92

Being "Judgmental" in your opinion kept me SAFE from people who may have bad intentions, and that includes watching out for somebody of your mentality who would have been a liability because you don't THINK. You have to want to think for yourself and be wise with your decision. I am trying to not only teach you but to inform you of yourself and what you need to think about. I already told you before. You do not have to know sports to know when something doesn't add up. I DON'T EVEN know about sports like that. BUT COMMON SENSE TELLS ME <--- Pay ATTENTION because I am teaching you how to spot a liar, that this guy is either overexaggerating or lying. Overexaggerating isn't always necessary a LIE. But it is the INTENTION of it that determines who and what kind of person you are dealing with.

Answer 5

btbc92

So unless your morals are to be with people who are authentic and your authentic yourself (you tend to be who you attract), his intent may be to prompt himself to be somebody he isn't to get you interested in him. It could be out of desperation, or to use and abuse you. We don't really know that. So I don't have to assume. I am not speaking to him. I am only going by what tells us of him. We don't know what your real intent is. But I can tell about you so far that you sway based on who a person is to you, be it their physical, status, etc. Do you have an interest in him because your curious about the sport he plays? Or is he that kind of guy that looks popular and you just happen to "Fall" for the guy? I'm a woman myself. I have friends who are similar or were like you growing up. I want to know who YOU are as a woman, what's your business in dating, with this guy, friends or not, etc. WHY? Because if you don't know, how would you know why you or he are doing what you're doing? What is the purpose? You have to ask the hard questions in order for you to get the answers you need. But remember, it may not be what you are going to like. The truth is not meant for you to like, but for you to know the TRUTH. I rather hear you want to screw with the guy but you want to be safe by not getting a creep, then to pretend you have a desire to truly understand and know him because it felt like you and him share a connection. You just want to make sure it is with the right guy? Which is it? I don't want to assume of you. This is why I addressed it the way I need to. Others cannot help you if they cannot judge you and your actions. Without good judgment, others can or may control you. I want you to be informed, and knowledgeable about the tools you need. But it won't help you if your intent is just as wicked or sinful as the other.

Answer 6

btbc92

My fair warning to you is to be MINDFUL who you are attracting and is attracted to. I don't want to spectculate about the guy, he may not be bad, but neither do I want to make excuses for him. All I want to know is what is your intent. Because if you don't know, your wasting your time bothering guys who may or may not be deserving of you either antagonizing them or you putting yourself in danger.

Answer 7

btbc92

I don't fault you because your young, you still have a LOT to learn about adulthood, men, and even yourself. Take time to KNOW THIS GUY FIRST! I don't care how much he makes you swoon, don't be naive. Because his lying could be just childish, and sometimes it is just harmless especially if he is just boasting about himself and not interested in dating you anyway. But since YOU see him as a love interest and want to make it your business to know who he really is, it is your responsibility to make those judgment calls. How can you call me judgmental when you're doing the same? Judging to see if he is lying? If you're going to judge people, be prepared to be judged the same wya. Because he can get hostile and say it's none of your business, and then you'll feel offended, hurt, and then angry he doesn't reciprocate anymore. That's why you need to be HONEST with yourself and come correct. Otherwise, he won't come correct. And if that is your morals, you wouldn't be remotely interested in somebody who is a liar and isn't coming to you with the same autencity you expect to be done for you. I don't pry into people's business unless I personally feel it is a threat to me. By then I know not to get too involved.

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joeldalton

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There's an official team site somewhere. They'll have a roster. If he's not there, he's lying.

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Do you know the name of the site? Or is it different according to the team?
joeldalton

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google " roster"

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Asker

Do you know the name of the site? Or is it different according to the team?

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joeldalton

google " roster"

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exitseven | 118 opinions shared on Sports topic.

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If he is not on any of the rosters he may be pulling your leg.

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In_Trance | 127 opinions shared on Sports topic.

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Have you asked him why he's not?

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I really don't want to offend him. I was in a party chat on PS4 (basically like being in a group phone call with other gamers) and one of the individuals got into a small argument and said something along the lines of him not being good in sports. However, they do not know him personally so I can't use this as verification that he actually does play on a NACC team but it was a hint that maybe he did. I also know that he's very passionate about the sport and I honestly am just scared to question him on it. But do you know of any other possibilities? Could he be on a scholarship or something?
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If there's one thing people hate more than being offended it's being called out on their obvious bullshit. Call him out. He's a fuckboi

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Asker

I really don't want to offend him. I was in a party chat on PS4 (basically like being in a group phone call with other gamers) and one of the individuals got into a small argument and said something along the lines of him not being good in sports. However, they do not know him personally so I can't use this as verification that he actually does play on a NACC team but it was a hint that maybe he did. I also know that he's very passionate about the sport and I honestly am just scared to question him on it. But do you know of any other possibilities? Could he be on a scholarship or something?

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In_Trance

If there's one thing people hate more than being offended it's being called out on their obvious bullshit. Call him out. He's a fuckboi

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Luckycharms12

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Google

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I did & I couldn't find anything. I even went to look at YouTube videos from past years.
Luckycharms12

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Is he on the bench. That or he could be lying
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I was in a party chat on PS4 (basically like being in a group phone call with other gamers) and one of the individuals got into a small argument and said something along the lines of him not being good in sports. However, they do not know him personally so I can't use this as verification that he actually does play on a NACC team. But it was a hint that maybe he did and just wasn't very good (no playing time). That could be a possibility so I'll try to find a nice way to ask him if that is indeed the case.

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Asker

I did & I couldn't find anything. I even went to look at YouTube videos from past years.

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Luckycharms12

Is he on the bench. That or he could be lying

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Asker

I was in a party chat on PS4 (basically like being in a group phone call with other gamers) and one of the individuals got into a small argument and said something along the lines of him not being good in sports. However, they do not know him personally so I can't use this as verification that he actually does play on a NACC team. But it was a hint that maybe he did and just wasn't very good (no playing time). That could be a possibility so I'll try to find a nice way to ask him if that is indeed the case.

My love interest say he plays for a NACC basketball team, however, is he lying?

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