Even in a committed relationship, you’re still individuals who deserve privacy. I think that’s very overbearing and untrusting to ask for such a thing. I’ve done the “who are you talking to? Why does that girl know you?” jealous bullshit with a past girlfriend, and I’m never taking that ride again. #1 thing I don’t want out of a relationship is any kind of burden. I have to operate exactly how I please, and a girl can either be along for the ride or get off at the next stop. And I’d give her the same courtesy. You can’t walk around in life like the person you’re dating is the last person you could ever pull, and they’re irreplaceable. You can’t be afraid of someone cheating on you. If they’re gonna cheat, they’re gonna cheat, and you should be fuckin’ STOKED that they gave you such an easy decision to make if they do. I don’t know man, you just can’t handcuff people, you gotta just let the birds fly as they will and sort it out from there.
Almost exactly what I was going to say. You said it better than I would have.
I think people that have something to hide value their privacy the most. At the same time, if she's just some random bitch at a bar, she doesn't need to read my texts with my sister, where we're just bitching about our Mom's behavior, and then ask me "who's she?," as if she's caught me lying about being single. Chicks that are like that... well, it's usually a huge red flag that's actually the way THEY ARE, and from their viewpoint they assume everyone is just like them. Besides if I'm cheating, she'll be told I intend to cheat with her from the start... I mean I don't want her to start thinking she's special or anything.
It's not. What do they have to hide? If they aren't doing anything wrong, then why would they keep you out? My ex used to let me go on his phone when I was bored and he was busy because I didn't have one, he stopped letting me on though and when I asked why he said his parents always were on it and he wanted his privacy. Okay, that's fine. I'm not asking to go through all your text messages. Just want to scroll through insta or look at memes while you're at band practice. Once, our friend Jasmine took his phone while he was sleeping. I took it from her because I knew he wouldn't like it and i wanted to respect his privacy, when he woke up and saw I had it he freaked out and yelled at me. The more he refused or hid his phone, the more I got suspicious. Turns out, he was cheating on me and speaking bad about me to his friends. If you don't have anything to hide, why would you care if your partner went on your phone?
I think asking for unlimited access to your partner’s social media/electronic devices is the beginning of the end.It indicates the lack of full trust and I can only imagine it rushing into a shitstorm that begins with a breach of trust by partner a then as soon as partner b feels a bit suspicious, they’ll look for proof of it. If they fail to find it, they’ll take what they do find and spin it completely out of context to fit their narrative. Either that, or they’ll talk to the right people to basically create a trap and frame partner a in a trap that dies nothing but validates their own paranoias.
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If you are suspicious of him you already lost your trust in him. The relationship is doomed.
Typically when you feel the need to look through their phone there is already a very obvious problem. I think its very invasive to go snooping for something when there has been zero signs of any issues.I wouldn't outright ask my partner for his password and to look through unless I already suspected something. If things are going well though, going out of your way to ask them to look through their phone might cause issues that aren't there. In general I think everyone should be comfortable letting their partner casually use it to search something up or be fine with them watching a video on screen with them, or occasionally responding to a text/answering a call for them when driving or busy. They aren't outright giving you their password but it just shows they are comfortable with you being in an appropriate amount of contact with their phone. If they always seemed to consciously keep his phone away from me or keep my eyes off the screen at all times or was super antsy when i was casually using their phone I would already know something is up.
I don't find it disrespectful, but I would find it unsettling. I actually don't have a problem with my girl being on my phone or even looking at it. But requesting unfettered access feels gross. I'll do subtle things with it like answering a text in a position for her to read it or scrolling through pictures on my phone to show her one in particular. But I'm not shooting through it, specifically to show i'm comfortable with her looking at my phone. Most girls pickup on that, because they feel i'm not hiding anything from them. And like magic I've never had a girl feel the need to go searching through my phone. Because I'm already letting them peek.I get a text from "that bitch" she doesn't like. I'm not hiding it, but I'm also not brandishing it all over the place. I just allow her to see it if she really wants to, when I'm looking at it. To me there's nothing wrong with that. But if she's going through my phone, to read a text a girl sent me behind my back. Now it's an issue. I like the situation where she can trust me enough not to worry and I can trust her enough to not go behind my back. To me the best way to do that is display openness with it, without objectively saying "here is my password, have fun".
100% the best way to go about it
Not sure about disrespectful, but certainly creepy and would definitely cause suspicion of what they are up to. It is troubling enough to break it off with them just for asking. I give my girlfriends both their space and privacy. Nearly all have done the same for me. If their behavior is suspicious, it is probably time to end things. I would not involve myself with someome I doubt. Makes me glad that this GaG thing is my only social media. It is weird and creepy how snoopy people have become.
I have NOTHING to hide, on my phone, but I would say no, and probably start thinking this isn't going to work.Why? because asking for that is a lack of trust in the other. No other way to spin it! You ask for access, because you don't trust them. Your relationship is doomed!
I think its fine if there's a reason. Like in my case I have social media but its for eSports stuff mostly. If I had a girlfriend and she wanted access to it in order to help respond to DMs, emails, coaching requests etc. then sure. But if she wants my info just to have it because it's what good couples do then... no that's just being nosy.
I will say C because I have no problem with a partner seeing my stuff - If she offered okay but I wouldn't ask or demand - I have seen that in other relationships and it is plain weird, controlling and having a negative influence on relationship
If he is on a date with her and he is on a phone , then he is so RUDE and she should make sure she has a ride home , gets up , throws liquid on him and makes him pay for the entire dinner ! thanks
Yes. Even if my boyfriend didn't mind, I'm sure his family & friends don't want me reading all their conversations that they thought were private.
I don’t mind if he checks the only way I would mind is if I did something I shouldn’t be doing so what’s wrong with it? You’re spending the rest if your life with them why can’t they see your social media?
It entirely depends on how invasive and controlling the partner is. If my partner didn't tend to be controlling and invasive, then I'd have not problem sharing my phone and social media.
I don't mind if she would ask. I would mind if she *requests* it because my answer will stay a solid nein.I love my privacy. That's why I don't have social media.
Yeah, it shows straight away a lack of trust.If there's a problem, talk to me about it, don't snoop.I respect the privacy of people I converse with too much to allow someone who is not part of the conversation to read it.
It's stupid and doesn't show anything. If they want to cheat, they'll find a way.
it is a display of mistrust to even ask... suspicious or not i can see why she would object.
No one should have access, just the owner of the account.If you're that immature and distrustful you shouldn't even be dating in the first place
I say it depends on the situation. If they're suspicious that you're cheating on them, I'd say let them look. But if they just want to look through it for fun, that's kinda suspicious.
My partner has access to literally everything lol and vice versaWe don't really care, neither has nothing to hideComputersPhonesAll our Social media's
I wouldn't let my partner view my GaG profile, let alone my phone xD
It will be like telling them, "Honey, I want to put CCTV in your eyes."
Hm u need to trust... . if u don't trust that is not good.
In a relationship I feel each person needs room to breathe, and the cell phone is usually that breathing space.
Everyone has the right for privacy whether in a relationship or not.
If you don´t trust your partner you have no business being with them.
I would give them to her, let her look through everything, and then immediately break up with her because without trust a relationship is pointless.
Asking for anything in a relationship ain't dis-respectful.If both partners are good.
If you are both willing to show each other then it should me okay, however i can see how some may feel that you don't trust there word alone
Asking isn’t bad, but demanding or forcing is a bit... wrong sometimes.
if you don't have trust in your relationship its not going to last
No if he won’t share then it’s over.
Yeah, you should still have some privacy.
It is very disrespectful
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