Would a bad Valentine’s Day for you cause you to rethink your relationship?

[Finchie40]

Not at all Valentines Day is a made up day for stores to make more money and restaurants to get more business , if a girl based our relationship off of 1 day then she wouldn’t be worthy of being in a relationship with me , if you love each other it’s the small things that matter , gifts shouldn’t be what determines your love for each other , if your partner gets upset because you didn’t blow a ton of money on her then she doesn’t love you she just loves what she can get from you she ain’t nuttin but a gold digger lol As long as you both acknowledge each other then that’s all that should matter , surprising her with a love letter etc. Things you should already be doing for each other through the year , I honestly feel receiving a love letter or a gift on a regular day from your partner is better then receiving something on Valentines Day to be honest

[Dongtai]

It depends on the bad days we’ve had compared to the good leading up to that. I can see how a bad Valentines Day can be the camel that breaks the camels back if already your partner is neglectful, thoughtless and inconsiderate.

Seeing all the fun and loving couples can make you notice your partners flaws more clearly on holidays. But before you rethink your relationship think about what happens on days that aren’t considered “for couples”.

How does she treat you on a regular Tuesday. Does she ask about your day or anything small yet big? Have you ever had a Valentines Day when it wasn’t Valentine’s Day?

Basically. If she’s been a bad partner in your eyes long before tomorrow yes. But if she does a lot for you in terms of “love” but you two had a bad vday, just have a good one the next day

[greyghostlady]

Nope it’s another day. Why do we have to reserve this day to honor our love. Stop looking at others and do your own thing. Make your own Valentine’s Day. Just because someone’s decided one day this is the day to do that it doesn’t mean I will. Look at the other days. Imagine you are with somebody for a year of 5, y ou have lovong
Understanding caring bond. Than something happens that’s it out of your control and shit hit the fence on tben14th whatever it is that will stir up your insecurity of him loving you, would you quit it because of this day? Plus it’s your responsibility to speak up what you expect any day not just on this day.

[Cynicaldreamer]

If someone is that stupid to base their relationship on ONE day of the year, instead of looking at the big picture: how said partner treats you all year?

You don't need to be in a relationship.

Sorry to offend some of y'all, but if you love someone, you shouldn't stress over a particular holiday because (ideally) you show each other how you feel anytime... not just one day. You should be happy if you even have a partner that makes you happy and appreciates you!

[ChronicThinker]

Pffft - no. Because the only "bad Valentine's Day" is when I first got into a relationship and built the story of what was "supposed to happen" built up in my head.

Now, I just want to eat, chill, and drink. Y'all waste your money on flowery nonsense if you wish.

[shimmeryns]

Hahaha no. Sorry, I just find it ridiculous for anyone to decide if a relationship is worthy based on a day. I only come to know about the day from the media and what it means to those who celebrate it. It not part of our culture or tradition so it doesn't hold any significant weight on couples' relationship.

[emmily2396]

Only if we madr plans and they found a silly reason to cancel them or they completely forgot. I don't expect much, just a bit of attention and aknowledgement.

[SydneySentinel]

No, only something that was an ongoing problem that cannot be solved.

[Massageman]

Not any more than any other individual day would.

[Persephone2020]

I'm not currently in a relationship, but I don't think anyone should reevaluate their relationship based on something like that. If you're going to take a second look at your relationship it should be because of one or a variety of these reasons.

1. Your partner cheated.
2. Your partner is abusive.
3. Your partner makes you feel bad about yourself.
4. Your partner is rude/disrespectful towards people you respect and love (parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, etc.).
5. Your partner exhibits shady behavior (tries to control who you associate with/work for, lies, is manipulative, etc.).

[Darcia]

No not at all. I didn’t have a somewhat good Valentines Day. My date and our plans were scheduled late. But we still hung out it wasn’t quite what I wanted to do but I was happy we got to do something together. That’s one event out of plenty others we’ll have down the road. One mess up won’t let me totally break it off.

[FugBuddy]

You must think of how did you get there. Is it a thing that's been happening for a while? Or is it something specifically today?
You need to have a conversation with your partner about what is happening either way, but the answer will change the course and aim of the conversation.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Umm... What is a good Valentine's Day?

I have never been in a relationship. I get used to be alone receieving nothing on the day. If I have a chance to be in a relationship, well, I'm not sure my attitude would change or not.

Still, I would be expecting a call from my partner. If there's silence, that could be a bad sign. Anyways, expectation mostly leads us to dissappointment. I wish I could be free from it as always.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If that were the case, that's not a real relationship. Real relationship aren't about gift giving, or money spent. It's about the level of caring, sharing, and commitment you put into that relationship. And that shouldn't just happen on holidays, a (since when is Valentine's day a "real holiday) that should happen throughout your lifetime together. Life is short, so make it about the things that "really" matter.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'd pay more attention to the other 364 days of the year rather than single out one day that arbitrarily is "supposed" to be more meaningful.

If she ignored my birthday I'd be more upset, coz that's very personal to me and I'd wanna share it with her. Valentines is just like "eh, it's nice if we do something, but I have no expectations for it"

[_gigi18]

I'd depends on what happened. If things just went wrong then no. But if feels wrong or you've fallen out of love and you just happen to realise that on Valentine's day then I'd wait it out. I watch Daniel sloss comedy set Jigsaw because it really does help you reassess your relationship. It does break weak relationships and its because of the questions he asks. Please watch it

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Well , it depends on how bad it was compared to other days you spend with your SO?
Now , if she's bitchy off and on , i got to deal with moodiness and she snaps at me often well after our Valentine's Day is shitty? Sure i would rethink things over see
maybe I'm wrong i don't know?

[Tiffannie]

Is there really a bad or good Valentine's day? For me Valentine's day is very commercialise. Something bad that happen for few hours cannot and should not define a relationship. That will be a silly throught though

[LightEnd]

The cause of all disappointment is expectations. So was the problem that a persons expectations weren't met or was it really just a bad Valentine's day. What are valentines days supposed to look like, what would make me so sad as to call it a bad Valentine's day? Nothing

Every day is just a day.

[Smartypants86]

What does valentines day have anything to do with rethinking your relationship? It's literally a day where people buy their partner shit cos someone thought it would be a good idea 😂 pretty sure valentines day originated cos some saint called Valentine died years ago 😂

[potatoiswhoiam]

No. One bad Valentine's day wouldn't but well..
Last Valentine's day I broke up with my boyfriend and that was and still remains the biggest regret of my life.
This Valentine's day it's as if things are repeating themselves, we had to stop talking again.

So yes.. now I'm traumatized by this day. And I despise it.

[Daniela1982]

I thought these specialty threads were only supposed to be up for 24 hours and then removed? Valentine's Day is not for another year when all these same questions will be asked again.

[frank27]

Why you need to think for him or her who do not cares for you do understand your luv towards them but still when they dont care why should you do worriers leave them one day they will realize that they did wrong with someone and the time they came to know with whom they did that person already get settled in there own life so relax and chill do understand can't relax at this point of time but still need to calm ☺️

[Miah80]

It's one of the "Five love languages" by Gary Chapman. Gift Giving by taking the time to show your partner that you're thinking about them by getting them a small gift or favor, is huge when it comes to certain types of people. That's why I don't give gift cards to people anymore, I was told its the most thoughtless gift that so many turn to when under duress. But you can always give those to me.

[Sevenpointfive]

i tried to put it in the past but i had a g/f who invited her friend to our vday. then she ended up staying the night at her place. she was not a lesbian but the worst girlfriend

[Wemix]

Absolutely not. The only way I would "celebrate" it is by going to the movies if it's free for couples on that day lol
Other than that I don't care for Valentine's day.

[Purpleronnie]

It la one day and being told to show someone that you love them is not a one day thing so it would have to be a case of the straw that broke the camels back for me to start re-thinking my relationship

[anzgaupel]

Good bad come go love is a choice not a thing that you get something from it os what you give never give up you donthave togive in but why just give up when it sucks get ovet it fix your outlook make the differance so they know theu ate loved by you even when it sucks

[ijusthadonequestion]

it should take a lot more than one bad day to start rethinking a relationship

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

No. Why should it? It’s one day. And it’ll be back next year. One day isn’t going to kill everything.

[NurseStacy]

No, it wouldn’t. There’s 364 other days of the year. I will not hold my partner accountable for a day that didn’t go as planned.

[Ripper_E]

No, that's a stupid reason to break up or consider it.
There is nothing special about Valentine's Day. It's naive to believe there is any significance to that day.

[LukeACollett]

Valentine's Day is exactly that, a day. If one bad day is enough to make you rethink a relationship, maybe rethink it in general.

[ArrowheadSW]

No I would not "rethink" a relationship based on Valentine's Day. It is a manufactured holiday and expectations are set up just by the holiday itself.

[morimeme1]

Depends on what you mean by bad? Did he abandon me? Cheat on me? Abuse me? Or just got the wrong flowers? 😅

[505error]

Oh no it wouldn’t. Valentine’s Day isn’t that important to me lol. As long as he treats me well on other days it’s fine by me.

[Lightning8]

Well it depends on what happens that day, but if you're asking that if you were expecting flowers and got chocolates instead, whether you should rethink your relationship then obviously not. The type of event that should make you rethink your relationship is the kind that, should it happen on any other one of the 365 days, and given virtually any context, it would warrant the same reaction of horror.

[Shubhamgupta]

Sometimes people need a time to create good thing and may be you have been eaten the dish which is not fully prepared give some time and things will be fine

[azuhkaego]

Val is just a day... Well most days for me and who I love so much is my Valentine. Because I would share my love daily, I may not be the whole package of love, but showing it everyday in different ways. Not a day set apart for world celebration.

[PurpleStorm]

Depends how bad was it. If something serious happened that would make me reconsider things, it would not matter if it was on Valentines day or any regular day.

[crayonprincess]

If you're superficial enough to base how you feel about someone off of one day then that's concerning!! I don't really mind if valentines day is "bad". I like the sentiment behind it but it's basically a marketing strategy, you should love people every day

[5_AM_Oracle]

We all have bad days. Doesn't matter if it's on Valentines day or not. If the day is like a LEGENDARY bad day, it'll make me think things over yeah

[ZestyWatermelon]

I guess it depends on how bad it went, but Id probably just be mad and move on

[knucklehead87]

Personally I hate v-day. It's a made up holiday that just serves to profit commercial industries. That being said, if tis a bad v-day, I'd give it another go.

[olderbutnotwiser]

Seems a bit silly to think it's not working when they are good the other 364 days of the year

[Meister__]

Everyday should be a Valentine's day for a perfect couple lol

[stanstraykids]

valentines day is just a commercial day. if you'd rethink your whole relationship based of one day, i dont believe you can judge your whole relationship because of one bad day. then there must be more underlying problems.

[Lemia]

No Because we'll have a few bad ones along the road but a forgotten one for a bad reason yes

[DorkVader]

Hmm, my roommate's boyfriend "forgot" this one after 2 previous years of romance and shit. I sense trouble in paradise.

[Dav1ss]

A forgotten one at a very early stage maybe but probably not

[madgoat]

Not that on its own but is there a pattern of dismissiveness, yes.

[NineBreaker]

No. I don't celebrate Valentine's day, therefore it's like any other day for me.

[walt0462]

Why would hsbing a bad day (VD) be any reason to effect how I thinking or feeling about my relationship

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on the level of bad. I don't mind treating it like a normal day but I do want to feel extra loved

[OddBeMe]

I would hope you’d have more evidence than one bad holiday to rethink the relationship. If your guy misses every significant date, then maybe. But there’s more to life than stupid holidays.

[BlessedDaddy]

If it did, you were hanging on by a thread regardless.

[Lance1965]

Nah, it is just another day. It can an romantic and meaningful day but it is still just one day nonetheless.

[akakiran]

Every one has a bad days but happening to be interesting day a bit odd but sometimes talking sorts things out

[_Stefan_]

I didn't have a great one this year. But I still had fun with my wife. I think it's more about how you spend your time together rather than what you do together.. Hope that makes sense.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

A lot of things can screw up ANY day. That doesn't mean a relationship is near the end of it's line. A lousy Valentine’s Day is just another lousy day.

[Jessicaml]

Valentine’s Day is another day. No big deal at all. Now Valentine’s Day about 7 years is the day I found out my husband was with my bff so not particularly my favorite day.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I work in a restaurant. So fuck all the people who come/came out for Valentine's Day. If you let one day make such a bad impact maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship and go reevaluate your life.

[complexthinker]

Valentine's day is a big scam designed to make money you should show your partner love every day. If you are hanging on to man made holiday to receive love then you need to take a deep truthful look at your relationship

[Gisellebisexual1111]

Yes! Not because of the proceedings of the day, but because of the lack of effort to show care towards what’s deemed important to the partner ie. no text message wishing the other person a happy valentine’s when it’s clear that it’s important to the other person