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How to Turn Your Man On

How to Turn Your Man On

This is a very general myTake and doesn't apply to everyone but I feel confident it will apply to the vast majority of men out there.

There are four (and possibly five) things every man wants in a lover:

1) He wants her to be exceptionally eager like she wants to be there and for him to have his way with her. You can demonstrate this verbally and by not being able to keep your hand off of him. Smiling and laughter can also be used. I personally love it when she can't wait to get her hands and her mouth on me.

2) He wants her to be very enthusiastic. When he leads, he needs to know that she heartily wants what he's about to do. When she's down on me, I love it if she acts like it's the best sausage she's ever seen. Enthusiasm makes up for a world of skill so when in doubt be extra enthusiastic with whatever you're doing.

3) He wants her to ardently adventurous. The fewer limits and boundaries you throw up, the better. If you want to try something, talk to him before the sex starts and see what he thinks. If it's something you know he's gonna love, just do it. I personally love it when she surprises me, be it with a new TLN (Trashy Little Nothing) or some new trick she's discovered.

4) John Gray said in his book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus that the most important thing in the world to a man is to be appreciated and he's right. There's nothing we like better. It's like a drug. So when he's doing his thing, give him verbal and nonverbal feedback when it's good. Not only does it make him feel better about what he's doing but he'll likely keep doing it or do it again. I also especially love it when she lets me know she's cumming. That's asking a lot because she's focused on her orgasm.

5) Finally, it was so very truly said that a man absolutely cannot tell a woman she's beautiful too many times or too often. The same is true of telling a man he's big or too big. But only if it can be true. If he's small he knows it and is already probably struggling a bit with it.

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  • I don't know why so many women have their panties in a twist over this.

    They expect to lie there like a dead starfish and be pleased and will do nothing to help, and then bitch when their man tries to make it more exciting for himself or gets sick of it and leaves.

    I think this is good, generic advice. Why would someone want to be with you if you make it seem like a chore? Jesus Christ, give him a kiss and stroke his chest. If you can't do that go to the doctor and get some pills for being "selfish and lazy as fuck"

    • Very well said. Thanks for your comment. Have you had a chance to practice what you preach of late?

    • I do. I have a boyfriend :)

    • He's a lucky guy. Has he figured out that you have a bit of a submissive streak yet? :)

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Gets Naked* Rubs bum on crotch while spooning*

    Well that should do the trick!

    • Hey, that's my move!

    • 👍🤩👌🤣😂

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    Awesome! Thanks! :D
    Great myTake!

    • That's great!! Are things better? Tell me a bit about your situation.

  • He wants her to be exceptionally eager like she wants to be there and for him to have his way with her.

    being eager just means eager. it doesn't mean i want him to have his way with mew. it means i want to have my way with him. there's a problem if my eagerness comes across as have your way with me.

    • again my enthusiasm for sex with him doesn't mean i want him leading. there seems to be a lot of assumptions made in very straight forward reactions to sex.

  • John Gray? - seriously? - that has got to be the WORST book on relationships I've ever read.

    • It's far from great but that observation seems directly on point. Sorry if you disagree.

    • It's a post 90's book when the prevailing psychological opinion on men was that they all pent up their feelings and were emotinally stunted. Psychologists still practise couples councilling on the same premise however we know realize that men deal with pain and sharing emotion and sexuality differently than women do, that's why I disagree with it's take - no need to be sorry, you're entitled to your opinion.

    • If you want to understand more about men in general I'd recommend "Iron John" by robert bly or "Why men are the way they are" by Warren Farrell, they're not as popular with the general media but they're right on point.

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  • On point good sir!

    • Only thing I would add is to wear his shirts around the house when you dont want to get dressed.

    • True...

  • I doubt many women need help in this department... xD

    • except All of my exes

    • I've been with a few dozen women and virtually none of them understood this until I discussed it with them so I beg to differ.

  • A good, informative MyTake overall. I liked it.

    Although I've never been a fan of John Gray's book. To be honest, it's filled with outdated generalizations about both genders. He claims to fully understand how all women work and what we all want (and same with men), but I feel that he's mostly making assumptions. The book is as old as I am and I found it useless for me. I discovered that there are much more informative and useful relationship self help resources out there now, that are way more recent and that account for technological changes that are affecting dating and relationships (i. e. online dating and texting). With books like this, I try to read things that have been published within the last 10 years.

    • Understood. My age shows but while I agree that he made some mistakes with his generalizations, I find the one specific one I made to be true enough of the time to use for this purpose.

    • But I hate how he's basically saying that it's only men who want to know they're appreciated. I believe that's something that is important to everyone. I'm not saying his book is bad overall - rather, it can be a good basic resource for people and they can use it as a springboard towards seeking other information.

  • I just show him my vagina

    • I doubt that

    • Okay and?

    • come on its not that complicated but it was a cute read :)

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  • I love this post. And I would say i am a practitioner of all of these points especially after having a discussion similar to this with my s/o. I was able to realise that men have needs just as much as we women and it is important for us ladies to take note.

    • Thanks for your support.

  • Everything in this Take is spot on. Take notes ladies!

  • It really doesn't take much to turn a man on. Not for me anyway.

    • Bully for you. That's ideal.

    • What does bully for me mean?

    • Look it up. A chance to learn something that'll be useful later on.

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  • I loved #5

    • Thank you! That's my fave, too.

  • Serial dater right here.
    Different men enjoy different things... the end.
    Ditto women.

    Re sex + dating... its all about THE INDIVIDUAL, not a one-size-fits-all formula.

    • I agree but I do think there are some generic thoughts that apply a great deal of the time. Do you disagree?

    • Stereotypes ARE born from truth :)

  • Aww this take is cute

  • Feed him, fuck him, don't talk too much.
    SIMPLE!!

    • Every man's dream but I see your point

  • How to turn your man on, be a women

    • Cute...

    • It's true

    • I know, right! The first thought that pop through my head when the question was asked was 'to get my boobs out!' Like seriously people, it's not that hard! ( but than again it should it 😉)

  • #6 ... bend over

    In b4 the can't take a jk patrol comes

  • The first 2 are sooo true. Good take! :)

    • Thank you! I'm most fond of #5 since I give lots of compliments.

  • What are examples of trashy little nothings

    • Trashy lingerie. For example, a matching super push up bra, micro G-string, and 4+" stiletto pumps, no platform, all covered with a really short little robe so you can flash. Of just the micro G-string and a smile. All this works better if you clean up and attend to all the girly touches: long, polished nails, nice hair, slightly slutty make up. Does that help?

    • Yeah I thought you meant it was some kind of move or saying she’d do

    • The doing is knowing that in those heels you don't walk, you strut and you shake what your mama gave you.

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  • I think this is a good take. Tbh a man wants to be treated like he's a prince and she's his personal slut.

    Do women though show more affection in the dirty department to guys they like or to some random guy?

    Can u help me out on my take? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

    • Do women though show more affection in the dirty department to guys they like or to some random guy? It depends on the woman. I'm not at all into casual sex. I'm really kinky and that requires a level of trust and openness that's not there in ONS. I take them to The Dark Side which many of them have never visited before and they open up to me there.

    • Yes I agree on that kinkiness with someone you like. I like that point about the darker side of you. Can u opine on the take? It's about a woman and 2 guys. If you skim it, it helps to answer?

    • What a HUGE My Take. It'll take me awhile to wade through it. Just for future reference, you write well but keep your Takes most concise so it's not absolutely daunting when someone opens it and finds The Great American Novel. Just some friendly advice.

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  • I agree with all this expect number 5. I get turned off when a guy says I'm beautiful

    • Why is that?

    • Not sure.

    • He thinks you're beautiful. Why would you reject him telling you?

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