How do I get my boyfriend to grab my butt when he's an honest and very respectful guy?

[Anonymous]

Ok so my boyfriend and I have kissed hugged and cuddled. But how do I get him to touch my butt without coming on to strong. He is very respectful and I'm afraid if I do anything he'll draw back! please help me!!

[WalterRadio]

Maybe you should stop dating boys and start dating men who know what they are doing?

Honesty has nothing to do with it.

Being respectful means one behaves himself in a public setting. It does not mean leaving you wanting.

You guys do have a communications problem. A good relationship has each person able to say anything to the other. You obviously don't feel that way. Why are you holding back? (he is too, and neither is good).

The easy way to solve your immediate concern is that you wear loose fitting pants, take his hand and put it down the back of them.

When I kiss, hug, and cuddle with a new girlfriend, there is rarely more than fifteen or thirty minutes before her clothes are off. What is taking you so long?

[Asker]

Our relationship is planned out to be a very long term communal one. I guess maybe he doesn't want to ruin it?

[WalterRadio]

I don't understand what you mean by "planned out to be a long term communal". Are you from India and you have been married since you were three years old? If you are over 18 and you've been together for more than, say a few days to a week or so, then it would be normal to be having sex already. If you have been together much longer than that, then you guys have got some real relationship issues. You need to open up to each other and not be afraid of saying anything and everything on your mind. Maybe he is gay? Maybe he has a physical problem? Maybe he sees either himself or you as a little boy or girl? Maybe he doesn't know what to do? Many of these are maturity issues, and maturity is not necessarily correlated with age. And why would you want him to put his hand on your butt and not in the front?

[WalterRadio]

Close your eyes and think about that...

[Asker]

Ok well first of all he is not gay. And I took all or your guys suggestions and tried it this afternoon. It mostly worked. He seems a little more relaxed around me. And to answer your communal question. It was a typo I meant commital. We have started planning our future together so that's what that means. And about the front. Until he's comfortably able to just grab my ass I'm not gonna push him. Also we are openly talking now thanks to a lot of people on here.

[WalterRadio]

That makes more sense. Talk, talk talk. Talk sweet. Talk dirty. Just always talk. You need to be totally comfortable peeing on the pot in front of him when you fart. He needs to be able say, isn't she hot? And you agree and say, so what would she do to you, because I'll do it as soon as we get home. And he will tell you exactly what that is and you won't be jealous. When you get to the point in a relationship where you are extensions of each other, warts and all, it will be very different for you in a wonderful way.

[AustinMan]

Talk to him about it:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

[fauchelevent]

He probably just doesn't know that you're okay with it. You could try hugging him and when his arms are around your waist, just reach back and move his hands down. If he hasn't got the idea that it's okay to touch your ass by now, the chances are he's not going to try and make that move unless you show him that it's okay. Coming on too strong might be a good idea :P

[Asker]

Yea good point. Thanks you guys for helping me out

[Bimbobambo]

Tell him that you're his and he can grab you anywhere he wants to when you're alone. Some people dont realise until they tell him.

[BertMacklinFBI]

tell him what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. MAKE HIM BELIEVE THAT IS TRUE! he must believe it to release his inner dirtyness.

[Asker]

Ok that's helpful but he's kind of shy and so respectful he didn't even hug me until I told him he could. Then we had a couple days of awkwardness. Now he hugs me fine but that was like 3 months ago. We've been dating for over 6

[BertMacklinFBI]

for a case this severe.. you take control, lock the doors, and lunge at him, grab his hands, and make him slap that ass. then go cray cray for 10 minutes and then turn on the freak music and snu-snu 😂😂

[Asker]

I forgot to add. He has a bit of a perverted twin brother who walked in on me in a sports bra and really short shorts. While my boyfriends was grabbing chips. Would that cause any problem?

[BertMacklinFBI]

im sure he won't even think about that incident when the mood is settling.

[TripleAce]

Respectful and honest is good... this has nothing to do with that,,, this has to do with him lacking a little bit of edge

It's also not respectful to be so withdrawn to your girlfriend because your afraid

Just take his hand when the time is right and slap it right on your ass.. maybe he will turn into a man again ;) good luck

[Asker]

Thanks 😊😂 maybe I should be the man in the relationship

[R3d_Anonymous]

Start riding him and put his hands on your ass.

[genericname85]

he probably just doesn´t know that you´re ok with it or even want it :) maybe just start touching him there :D maybe he will follow.

[Batbob]

Tell him you would like him to do it, and let him know it's ok.

[sometimesilikecheese]

tell him to be a douche sometimes

[Tomsta]

Just tell him that you like it

[NightOwl88]

Just flat out ask him to , what's the worst he will say , no.
Best case he relents and you get your butt played with.

[MarkTwain]

1. Ask him if your ass feels soft or hard.
2. Nobody really knows exactly what the other partner likes, communication is key.
3. Leave him because he dose not like ads grabbing.

[RandomSmartGuy]

Hey there kid. And yes, you are a kid. Until you're 30, you're a kid to me lol. I came across this question while surfing the web at random. I'm not sure why this popped up, but I couldn't help but notice a poor young lady in need of help. So here I am. I want to tell you something kid, so listen up: One of the manliest things a man can do, is to be in the presence of a woman who has forgotten her dignity, yet treat her with dignity nonetheless. And that is exactly what your boyfriend was doing. Think about it! Does a mature man want to have sex every 2 seconds? Or does a mature man restrain himself for the sake of your dignity? Think of how much maturity it takes for him to be aroused, but yet refrain from sex because he knows you're not married yet, and he wants to treat you with respect and dignity. And why would you give your body to someone who doesn't love you enough to marry you? There's nothing wrong with sex... until it comes at the expense of dignity and morality. That is why the right thing to do is wait until you're married to do anything sexual. It takes maturity to refrain from sex for the sake of morality, not the other way around! This 'WalterRadio' guy has no clue what a real man is. And I'm saying that as a police officer and a military veteran. He's never seen combat. I have. He's never had to risk his life to fight for his country. I have. And I am telling you that a REAL man who is MATURE will wait until marriage to have sex with you... BECAUSE HE ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT YOU AND RESPECTS YOUR DIGNITY! This 'WalterRadio' guy sounds like he goes through girlfriends left and right, and he pressures them into sex. I sure as hell wouldn't be taking any advice from a scumbag like him who obviously can't keep a girlfriend. Guys like that are just perverts who want to get in your pants and take advantage of you. Guys like 'WalterRadio' are the kinds of losers that end up in prison all the time. Trust me when I say this guy is a dangerous guy who does not have your best interest at heart. Wait until marriage kid. I know it seems like everyone your age thinks having sex "makes you an adult". But the truth is that valuing morality, dignity and self respect over mere sexual pleasure is what REALLY makes you an adult. You've got your whole life on front of you. No need to rush into things. Always do the right thing and follow your heart, and you can't go wrong.