You two need to talk and nip this in the bud. You can cum from intercourse which is much easier for him.
First, the conversation:
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Now , cumming:
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Here’s the way I have found, with the help of a very cooperative girlfriend, that a woman can ride her man all the way up the mountain to multiple, increasing powerful orgasms and ultimately, squirting.
• He needs to understand that he can help with this position by grabbing her hips and helping her move. At first, leave to her own devices but as she gets more and more aroused, he should become stronger and more and more forceful in moving her back and forth.
• Put him on his back and mount up with you on your knees.
• Slide him in and settle in so you’re comfortable.
• Rock like you’re riding a horse, slowly at first and faster as you get more aroused.
• When you’re ready for him to help, reach down and put his hands on your hips. For effect, you can beg him in your sexy slut voice to help you.
• When you start to get close to cumming, move like you’re trying your best to break that thing off. Of course, you won’t but the point is to not hold back. Just go crazy.
• When you’re right on the edge, tell him to do you. He thrusts up as powerfully as he can and holds it with you impaled as deeply on his cock as possible, perched on his erection. He also forcefully tilts his hips and slams his shaft into your G-spot.
• As you cum, don’t even slow down. Keep going and you will cum over and over, each time increasingly intense.
• If you have The Big One, as I call it, you may very likely squirt so if there’s a gush, it’s not urine. It’s female ejaculate. Keep going until you’re completely done.
Here are a few ancillary suggestions:
• Pee first so that if you should squirt, you can be confident it’s not pee.
• If you’re into S&M, have him forcefully pinch your nipples as you’re starting to cum.
• He can slap your tits around if you’re into that. One girlfriend of mine liked to be slapped while she was up there with me telling her what a trashy slut she was for being up there in the first place.
• Some ladies like their men to reach around and smack their ass while they ride.0 0 0 0I've seen you post this multiple times before. This won't work with us because he finishes in less than 20 seconds. Besides, I'm not terribly motivated to do all the work until he's able to get me off again.
I love anonymous posters. I'll step into the abyss here and say that it sounds to me like you're being awfully entitled. Sex is half your job too. Talk to him, When I was younger, I discovered that if I thought about something sad during sex, I could distract myself long enough to get past that first crisis point and not cum then but much later. I thought about the last pet I lost. Does that help? Please spare me an diatribe. I'm trying to be helpful here.
I appreciate you trying to help. Maybe I am acting entitled, but I don't think I'm asking a whole lot here. Shouldn't sex be pleasurable for both? Like if I have to resort to my vibrator, then what's the point? Put yourself in my position.. Would you enjoy sex if all you got was buildup but no release? I'm being serious; give me answers. I need to know if I have a right to be frustrated or if I'm being unreasonable. :/
Best advice I can give you is communicate... start by doing things to him, it could be kissing, or hand job, or bj or ss etc and ask how does this feel, then change your rhythm, or angle and ask again, ask if there's anything he would like to do that you haven't done yet... and encourage him to ask you questions when he's touching you...
You just need to learn to be open and honest with each other.
Good communication is the basis of any relationship, without it, you'll end up having "hallway sex" where you walk past each other and say "Fuck you!"
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Wow, less than a week and you're already worried. You should probably start telling him what to do while he's doing it. Don't just allow him to blindly do whatever he wants however he wants to do it and hope for the best. That's not gonna work. Teach him and guide him every step of the way to your orgasm. Not just once, but consistently. You can also talk about it with him, but be non-threatening and very careful to avoid making it worse by making him self conscience about it. Some guys have very delicate egos.
0 0 0 0Lol I went several months being sexually frustrated before he finally managed to make me orgasm (my fault, too, for being inept at communication. But he wasn't trying, either). Yes it's only been less than a week so far, but I'm not excited to resume this trend. We really should start talking more in bed. The most we currently communicate while doing it is occasional hand guiding, and making loud noises when we're doing it right. But I'm overly scared to hurt his ego.
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0 4Is there something wrong in the rest of his life that he is bring home to you? If he hits a spot you want him to stay at, You have to speak up, load enough that he knows. You'll never get what you need being timid. You can give him the cold shoulder and use a toy to get off. Soon he'll be asking you ,"whats wrong"?
0 0 0 0You should just talk to him. Talking can solve lot of issues. Just one person trying everything doesn't make any sense.
0 0 0 0Sex is such a sensitive issue though. How do you bring it up?
I guess you can have a roleplay of sorts. Predeciding what to do which will be better for both of you so that in the end, there will be happy ending 😀 Hope you can talk to him about this. Need not be a face to face talk. Can do it using text too.
He might have cheated.. period would not have deyerred. e.
0 0 0 0You can allways get off with someone else. Less complicated.
Mutual maSturbation if you feel like you would be cheating having sex with some random.0 0 0 0
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