I don't think my fetish is accepted by many, but why?

[mrsingle]

From early on (when I started liking girls around 10) I always had a particular attraction to girls wearing a belt with their jeans or pants. I've always liked the look on them for me it looks classy seeing them wearing one, but as I got older I noticed I also fantasized more about the belt, the act of unbuckling it and taking it off her, spanking her with it, using it to bind her, the clanging noise it makes, and also the feeling of the cold belt buckle against my stomach if I'm laying against her. I also love the feel of jeans. So the problem seems to be many girls don't wear belts often or if they do wear belts, they don't understand why that's a turn on for me or why I think they look good wearing one, some think I'm weird. I thought enjoying something they wear daily would mean lots of girls would be ok with this, afterall lots of people have leather fetish, and although it's not quite exact (just belts for me), it's the same concept/reason. I don't mind if a girl doesn't wear a belt every day, it could be a special treat or something when she does if we were dating, but I also feel like she has to enjoy me wearing a belt too and again that's been hard to find someone like that. I dont understand why why it's been so difficult, such a simple turn on/fetish, it's not like I'm wearing bras or dresses where anyone will know my fetish walking down the street. I want to meet others who understand so much!

[minimars]

I can see where you're coming from. I like the way skinny jeans with belts look if it that makes sense. So I can understand how it can turn you on. If someone told me that I wouldn't think that it was weird because I personally like rougher stuff. But I do know many girls who get freaked out by that sort of stuff. It might not be something that you should go off tell everyone about maybe it should be kept from someone for a little till you're both more comfortable with each other. But out of all of the fetishes I hear about this one sounds the most normal. It's a lot better than feet fetishes and all that stuff.

[mrsingle]

Do you like the way they look on you, or others? It makes perfect sense to me :) Do you like spanking with belts (you said you like it rough) I don't see how that freaks out a girl when she is already wearing a belt? It's more of a compliment that it makes her sexier. Mabye too many watch 50 shades of grey?

[minimars]

Myself. I don't go around looking at girls waists though haha. Like if you look at Gwen Stefani in the 1990's she's always wearing belly shirts a weird pair of pants and a belt and it looks cute in my opinion. And I meant that girls seems to freak out over spanking and that 'abusive' sort of stuff. But I personally don't mind it. I'm pretty open to different things when it comes to that sort of thing but I do have my limits haha. I've never read it or seen it so I wouldn't know haha.

[mrsingle]

I see what you mean. With spanking there is different kinds. Some guys playfully spank girls butts, others spank for a tiny bit of pain but nothing bad, then there's spanking until you bruise and bleed; I'm not into that.

[IAmNotAnElf]

Personally I wouldn't find it odd, but maybe more since I tend to like a bit rougher sex with spanking etc. But maybe that is the thought that fright many other girls?

It could also be the way you present your fetish? I mean if you say that you have a belt fetishism I think many people would react since its something not really heard about. But if you instead said that you like some bondage/bdsm and would like to use her belt and tie her up with while using another one to spank her i think the reactions might be different -mainly due to fifty shades and how it now is somewhat acceptable

[mrsingle]

I tried changing how I say it, then they think I'm weirder, bdsm is still very much part of people's "secret" lives not open ones.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol I never realized how vanilla and Amish my sex was until I joined this site.

I feel this is one of the tamer fetishes though. Some of y'all are into some weird shit.
Just don't get disheartened if she doesn't enjoy being spanked or tied up. I know I'm not into that BDSM shit, but many people are. So I am not sure why you're having a hard time finding them.

[mrsingle]

I think because it's a belt I like and not whips or leather suits.

[Anonymous]

I think that most girls would be happy enough to wear a belt with their jeans if it turned their boyfriend on.

I think a fair number of high sex drive girls would enjoy knowing it turned you on and enjoy teasing you. And some of them might like you using it to restrain or lightly spank them.

I think that finding a girl who 'enjoys you wearing a belt' will be extremely difficult.

[mrsingle]

I have a hard time finding girls that wear belts because of the skinny jean epidemic 😄 Girls usually don't flirt with me as it is, so trying to meet girls wearing belts is hard, but telling them I like it is really difficult finding the right words. I would love for girls to know I like this for the exact reasons you stated. If they don't like me wearing belts as a turn on no loss, I'll be happy with them wearing one.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think you need to hit on girls with belts. Find a cute girl who likes you. Once you're dating tell her it drives you crazy.

[mrsingle]

But then there's a chance she hates belts, and gets mad when I say I like them on her sometimes.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you break up with her. Someone who won't throw on a belt if it drives their partner crazy is a shitty partner, and the lack of belt wearing is hardly going to be the only issue with them. I mean if some girl you were dating confessed to you that if you wore a baseball cap and had some facial scruff on the weekend, it turns her on like CRAZY... would you say no? You wouldn't consider saying no! What kind of person would? (well some would, but they're selfish jerks, so who cares).

[mrsingle]

I've met people that said no, and avoided me saying in weird. Some girls are like that, I just run into them more than the nice ones.

[Anpu23]

I don't get it either, so you like women in jeans and a belt. Sounds like a simple one to me, just let her know that you think that's hot. Unless it has to be EVERY time, I can't imagine that it's too big of deal.

[mrsingle]

Not every time, I love the look but it can also be for special occasions too. How would I tell a girl I like it, if guys don't compliment belts then she will know somethings up, I have to make it sound not so weird.

[Anpu23]

Just let her know that you think it's "hot". Most women get that some guys like certain "looks:

[mrsingle]

Ok, I'll try that.

[Jxpxtxr]

Dude that's still 1000x better than the classic of classics: a foot fetish 😖😝

[mrsingle]

I'm glad you think it's ok!

[Relentless_Hippie]

Because all fetishes are weird, thus the term fetish. There shouldn't be anything sexually appealing about an inanimate object. I'm sure you'd look at someone with a side eye if they told you they find bars of soap sexually appealing. Or got turned on anytime a plate made a clinging sound from someone using their fork.

[mrsingle]

If she's hot and we hit it off id look past those. I'm not into self harm or soiling myself so if someone likes those not for me, but I'm open to new things so it wouldn't bother me if they liked soap or forks

[Relentless_Hippie]

I'm just explaining why someone would find it weird, because it is weird. You might not be able to have a problem with it which is fine for you and your partner but it's odd. Forks, soap, belts, cups, anything inanimate isn't sexual.

[mrsingle]

And dildos and vibrators must be weird too than.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I don't know if you're insinuating that I use them but no I don't. To answer your question yes those would be sexual because they're sex toys. They're designed to stimulate pleasure, and I knew you were going to go that route so I have no one to blame but myself to think you had more sense than to state something so obvious as if what I'm saying isn't true. There's nothing sexual about non sex toy objects. If it's not designed for sex it's not sexual. Shower curtains aren't sexual, mirrors aren't sexual, leaves aren't sexual, none of those things are designed to cause sexual pleasure. Anyone who is sexually attracted to something like that is weird, and yeah being sexually attracted to a dildo would also be weird. It's a tool that should be used when you're already aroused, it's not something that should be causing the arousal.

[mrsingle]

A belt can be used if I'm already aroused. Hot girl naked equals arousal, taking a belt and spanking or tying her makes more pleasure. The point I was getting at are dildos and vibrators are inanimate objects. Just because they are "made" for pleasure doesn't make them different than a belt, only that they are marketed for pleasure, but what someone finds pleasurable is to each their own, nothing is wrong or right.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I said weird, I said nothing about wrong or right and even if I did it's my opinion, just as it's yours that it isn't. I didn't condemn you and call you names, I tried explaining to you why someone would find it strange. Your question says "I don't think my fetish is accepted by many, but why?" I answered your why and you don't like the answer.

[dominiquois]

Thats really specific...

[Raymond_Reddington]

for a man to wear a bra or a dress outside is not a fetish, they simply feel more comfortable wearing female clothes. nothing sexual about that. do some research before you talk about them.

and I've personally never heard of a belt fetish.

[mrsingle]

It is a fetish, or could be. I've talked to people who do and it's for sexual reasons and the feeling of the bra is a turn on. Nothing against but trying to show how people are judged wrongly about fetishes and that's wrong.

[Raymond_Reddington]

maybe to them it's a fetish. but to most people who do that stuff, it isn't.

[mrsingle]

I guess it depends on the person

[Anonymous]

Beating someone with a belt and tying them up is pretty intense sadism. You can understand why people may not want those things, surely?

[mrsingle]

I'm more into playful/light spanking, not the hardcore stuff where you cause bruise or bleed. The tying is using a belt instead of using handcuffs, not really weird. There are different levels of fetishes, mine isn't hardcore crazy like you might think.

[mrsingle]

And, she doesn't have to have that done, just wear a belt and that's good enough for me.

[Anonymous]

" spanking her with it" how romantic.. not

[mrsingle]

Only if she likes it...

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure there is a website for that. Even one with a leather fetish probably has focused groups in them.

[mrsingle]

Fet life, yeah but people rarely post and never connect. So it's like it doesn't exist and hasn't helped my situation.