Have any guys on here been able to hook up with young girls as they got older?

[Anonymous]

Or do you know anyone who has? How did they do it? Also, is 30 years old disgusting to a younger girl? I'm talking about girls aged 20 - 25.

[redeyemindtricks]

My little brother is 39 and still has hot women in their early 20's absolutely throwing themselves at him.
I say "still" because he's absolutely always been that way. He's a natural. Has always been able to bed pretty much any woman he wants.

His "relationships" are complicated by the fact that he LOVES his on-again off-again girlfriend's kids (they aren't his kids) -- like, omg he just adores them so fucking much, and he plays a pretty fatherly role in their life -- so, any other girl in his life just kinda has to accept that. LOL
Rn he's seeing one girl who's in her mid twenties, and he's... on again off again with her, and probably seeing others too lmao.

If I had to analyze it? (Beyond the... weirdness of thinking about why my brother gets laid ahah)

Well... @kingroach has a point -- he's always been good-looking,** and he's always taken care of his body. At his age now, this *really* puts him in a select league (have you SEEN most fortyish guys? yeahhh...) So, there's that.

Beyond that, though, I'd say there are 2 elements that are infinitely more important.

• First, he's VERY outgoing and VERY social.
He could go to a bar or club totally by himself, and come back with 5 or 10 new friends an hour or two later. He's very literally the life of the party, pretty much wherever he goes.
Part of this is that he's a natural extrovert. Part of it is that he's VERY good at GETTING ALONG WITH LOTS OF DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE. It's just about IMPOSSIBLE to annoy my brother -- he takes *everything* in stride, and is exceptionally understanding, accommodating, and welcoming. He's the perfect host, entertainer, and friend -- and he'll absolutely take care of a drunken friend all night long if he has to, even if it's someone he's just met.

• Second... he just has this quality of what I'd call "not giving a shit", and he's super funny.
Kinda ties into the first one, but, he's REALLY CHILL. Nothing stresses him. Nothing pisses him off. He has no passive-aggression, no hidden agendas, and no beefs from past encounters (if he wants to fight, he'll just fight you right there on the spot and get it over with). What you see is what you get.
A LOT of men seem to lose this quality as they get older -- and it's something that young women REALLY want in a man. My brother still has it, so, younger women just feel *comfortable* around him.

For the record -- What @blonde401 said is, obviously, also a thing. If you have $$$$ and are willing to flash it, then, you will

[redeyemindtricks]

clearly be able to get girls interested in you that way, too. BUT... Do you actually WANT to attract the kinds of girls who'd BE attracted to visible displays of wealth and "success"? I'd suggest not. (In fact, I'd suggest keeping any and all signs of material wealth TOTALLY SECRET, and VERY close to the chest, until you have a VERY serious relationship with a girl. You can never play it too careful with that sort of thing.) But... my little brother? Bahahahha nope. Definitely not that type. Never been rich, never been the type to flash cash. He actually lived in his car for almost 3 years, because he didn't even care enough to rent an apartment -- and even THAT didn't stop him from getting laid like gangbusters. (Ironically, he's doing pretty well money-wise now -- precisely because he has absolutely never spent much money on almost anything, ever.) ** Footnote: If you are a guy, then, MOST of what is involved in being "good-looking" is totally under yr control. I wrote more about

[redeyemindtricks]

that in my opinion on this mytake:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a29285-a-handsome-man-is-more-valuable-than-an-attractive-women

[Blonde401]

Really good points. Of course, not everyone has money and not everyone is interested in money either (or interested in attracting those with money) but not everyone is like your brother and can draw people in so easily so it's just a suggestion :) the guy I'm dating is like your brother though, that personality for sure.

[redeyemindtricks]

@Blonde401 Cool, thanks for the feedback. I hope I did a decent job of explaining what I was trying to explain.

Also -- OP is only 30 years old. So, it's ironic that he's phrasing the question the way he's phrasing it, because that age gap (5 to 10 years) is actually PERFECT for something that's going to turn into a longer-term, more serious committed relationship.

I wrote about that here:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1996454-what-age-gap-between-the-couples-do-you-start-consider-weird

I mean, for a 30-year-old, this isn't even the sort of "unusual" situation that needs a special analysis.
My little brother is going to be 40 in a few months. 40 is WAY different from 30, in lots and lots and lots of very significant ways.

OP -- If you are only 30 **and are looking for something serious**, then, the SMART younger women will actually be LOOKING FOR someone who's pretty much exactly yr age. (:

[Blonde401]

Yes that's true, 5 years isn't anything of an age gap really. 10 is getting there. I mean I think it also depends on the people. I'm in a 12 year one but he looks easily 40 and I still pass for 20 :/ haha but yeah if your brother is nearly 40 and has still got it, good on him, he must be really special to still be reeling them in. Yeah your post is great, much more helpful than mine :)

[FemaleTruthExposer]

is ur bro tall and very handsome?

[redeyemindtricks]

@FemaleTruthExposer "Good-looking" is already addressed in my post (and the link in it). My little brother is the shortest of all 5 of us. He's still 6'0" (we're all tall af), but, his height has nothing to do with how much he gets laid.

[Fearless_banana]

Lol I want to be like your little bro.

[HeWhoPonders]

How does he get away with this fighting he does?

[redeyemindtricks]

@Fearless_banana He's a genuinely good guy. That whole bit about getting along with basically everyone -- he has LOTS of empathy. And he's the type who occasionally goes waywayWAY out of his way, even for pretty random people -- but then sometimes he just kinda disappears ahah. @hewhoponders That was more a general statement about his here-and-now personality than anything else. He's gotten in 2 actual fights in the last twenty years, both of which were tipsy barroom altercations. One time it got pretty lit and the cops were called, but the deputy handling the case knew our family (I do volunteer work with the gang task force, and my husband does prison ministry) so, he got let off with a warning. The other time it never got much past security tossing them out on the street. He's done a few years of BJJ training lately. Don't think he's ever put it to work on the street, but, I'll have to ask him.

[Blonde401]

I'm currently dating a guy who's 38 and I've been seeing him on and off since I was 24, so I know I'm out of your age range but hear me out. (I've also dated with a 22 and 26 year age gap)
I like dating older dudes, there are girls who are interested in dating older blokes but there's a lot less of them than you'd think. Best thing to do is just try with them, don't come across as creepy (though some may think you are anyway), lots of them are interested in money and success, so flash what you have - you don't have to give them anything, just use some stuff to tantalise them and play to their fantasies of hooking up with a mature man. It helps if you're good looking but better than average is okay. Be confident, be funny, don't look desperate. It's better to let them come to you than you go to them but I'm aware this doesn't always work. Also the ones I've dated hit on me first and it worked so it will work for some girls but they were all really confident. Be confident and funny and successful (even if you just look successful) and you'll do okay I think.

[Asker]

What are ways of flashing cash without giving them any?

[Blonde401]

Dress trendy but smart, wear a watch that's decent looking, drive a decent car or say you do, dont order yourself the cheapest drinks. Nice shoes. Cannot stress how much a woman takes note of a mans shoes. You basically want to appear like you're doing alright

[Asker]

I was gonna sell my Lexus and buy an old pickup because it's more practical. Should I keep the Lexus?

[Asker]

Do you mind talking to me about dress on PM? I just sent you a follow request but I can't message you because I'm not level 2. Will you PM me?

[Blonde401]

Sure no problem :)

[WillowTree]

You're not unique in trying. We always get hit on by old men trying to feel reenergized by sleeping with young girls. Why not join the ranks? by the way, yeah we usually find it gross when it happens.

[ak666]

I tend to draw more female attention from girls in that age range lately even though I'm not looking for it and happily married.

Then again some of that might have to do with marriage-envy. The wedding ring seems to draw some minority of women towards me.

I think I've become so comfortable and confident in myself now though at my age. I can own a space and just say whatever is on my mind, and young girls especially seem to want to listen to me talk.

It might just be because I'm not looking for it anymore. I'm also not personally that attracted to girls in the early-mid 20s beyond the physical attraction. I mean I find them sexy, there's that biological urge, but I kind of see them as young and dumb a lot -- "cute". I can never imagine dating them so much unless it was just me talking their ear off.

[ak666]

I find the same case happens for some of the more confident male buddies I have. Young girls are drawn to them somehow, yet we're all married. Maybe the unavailability helps somehow, as well as some perception of maturity. Yet we don't draw attention quite as much from women our own age.

[ak666]

Maybe if there's anything attitude-wise that helps, it's kind of the "I don't give a shit" attitude I have now? I'm no longer interested in playing the popularity game or dating other women. I've become somewhat apathetic. And that attitude seems to draw some young girls who laugh at the funny stories of my youth.

[ak666]

It's gotten to the point where my wife gets a bit annoyed since lots of young girls tell her that she's so lucky, that sort of thing. But it might just be envy/admiration for me, not a genuine sexual attraction. I'm not sure I could ever date any of these girls if I tried, or they simply enjoy listening to me talk.

[cmale123]

Age don't mean a thing. Just act right and be good guy. One thing is true, most womem don't know how reject. Put it this way if you a girl, not much guy ask you out for what ever the reason. then there this guy suddenly ask go out with him who act very nice and polite. How would you react consider you hardly had experience with any guys. There a lot girl like that out there. You must know what you doing, don't be a dummy go after girl. You can't. Any girl you want but you can get girl out your league

[BeerFarts]

My most recent exes were in their early 20's and I'm pushing 40 :)

[MG-TOW]

Yes. And I am in my Mid Forties. I actually think they want me more now than when I was in my early twenties myself.

[pervertedjester]

Yes it's easy to do that. I wouldn't recommend it though. The majority of younger women and men have been through a lot of drama filled relationships so whether they know it or not they are used to it and function accordingly.

There are the rare exceptions though.

[dudeman]

yeah definitely. i dont even look at women older than 23. i get all the attention i need from younger women.

[KingRoach]

Different girls like different things. When I was 30 I hooked up with a couple girls that were 17. When I was 38 I was hooking up with a girl that was 21 and another that was 19. I'm now 40 and my girlfriend is 28 (I know that's out of your young range).

Just remember the 3 rules of dating.
1. Be good looking
2. Don't be ugly
3. Be good looking

[ak666]

Being good-looking always helps, but you ever get the feeling as we get older that just being ourselves actually kind of works now? When I was in my 20s I had to do the testosterone contest, had to be like a peacock spreading his wings. If I took on an apathetic "whatever" attitude back then, I wouldn't have drawn any female attention. i had to kind of fight for it. Now it seems a lot easier to just kind of relax and sometimes there's a magnetic kind of thing that pulls some younger girls towards me and some of the friends my age (though it might be marriage playing a large role).

[KingRoach]

@ak666 confidence plain and simple. I should change my post to be attractive instead of be good looking. That's why rejecting them works. You're so confident that you don't need them. Two of the girls in my story I straight up told that I wasn't going to fuck them bc they weren't my type (I lied) and one of them was hurt that I didn't make a move on her all day (day date) that she said with a sad look on her face "you're not going to invite me back to your place" (I did). Basic psychology you want what you can't have.

[ak666]

Makes a lot of sense. When I was younger I associated confidence with boldness and aggression. Now I've kind of developed a confidence which is more based on passivity. Perhaps that is the peak state of confidence -- a kind of apathetic kind.

[redeyemindtricks]

Baha I like yr "rules" 😂😂😂😂 Out of curiosity, is yr relationship long-term? Is yr girlfriend hinting toward marriage or anything along those lines? 28 is WAY different from 20-25...

[neoagent1]

I never expected anything to happen with this girl I met at a meetup group but she's 19, literally half my age, and she's thes best lover I've ever had. So obviously it's not disgusting to her.

[Anonymous]

I know guys who can, but they need to stay in shape. Also, don't try to act 22. You look foolish out there doing jagerbombs in your Hollister tee.

[Anonymous]

Just pretend you have money. They love that shit.

[Asker]

What about actually having it? And how do you bring this up in a way that doesn't make them feel like a whore?

[Anonymous]

Your attitude is disguising to all girls

[Anonymous]

If you are a good guy you will draw att

[Opinion Owner]

**you will be able to draw the attention of a lot of girls. I was 19 and my boyfriend was 29 and for me that wasn't an issue it was the opposite I felt more attracted to him because of his age , of his maturity and the way he would handle situations. We are together now for 9 years.